Are people in your life extremely unsupportive during your hard times?

You do realize that the behaviors you have are why they call you a creep. If you don't like being called a creep then quit acting like one. Get the help you need to SPECIFOCALLY help you with this aspect of your life because, yes, to normal people you do act like a creep which is why they say that. Your creepy behavior is exactly why they tell you to "back the hell off" & you refuse. Instead you ramp up your creepy behavior which is exactly why "they" (where you work) take action against you.

If you don't like how you are being treated then YOU NEED PROFESSIONAL MENTAL HEALTH HELP to change your "creepy" behaviors.

You may be mad about it but you are getting the consequences YOUR BEHAVIOR causes.

I noticed so many similarities to Arby’s all the way down to protecting the GM from me. Or at the very least, go on full attack mode against me here at McDonald’s. For some reason, it made me angry.

To make things worse, after interviewing me, target sent me an email basically saying thx but no thx

Maybe you should focus your anger at your own behaviors & get the help you need instead of denying to yourself that your own behaviors are YOUR problem

The similarities start with YOUR behavior. That’s what you need to work on. The rest is just how people react to your behavior. Change YOUR behavior and people will stop reacting to your inappropriate behavior

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Originally Posted by divine1966 To all fairness this is a mental health forum. I’ve read way worse on here. If people who are unwell cannot be posting on here (no matter how bizarre and delusional things might appear), then where are they supposed to be posting? Sometimes that’s all they have. And maybe it’s safer for people to blow steam on here than cause problems elsewhere irl. This is a safe place to post whatever, within the guidelines

You’re completely right. I didn’t think of it that way.

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To my ****, my Dad doesn't even yell and scream anymore. This is such a good thing. Man, am I lucky. I still live with my parents, so there is always someone there. Sometimes I fear ridicule and it really comes across. But my Dad, he just says, "Lose weight" sometimes. I don't really mind. And my Mom is the most supportive person in the world. There are no other people in my life besides doctors. My sister comes over sometimes and she is really supportive no matter what the heck I do. I am so lucky. Even the cats seem to be supportive. Luckiest girl in the world. That is me. My parents told me to live here. And I do and most of the time it is so much better. Thinking of living somewhere else right now seems like it is a moot point. It would get nowhere in this house. I feel loved for once. And it seems like I think these three people changed because of my mental disorder. I wish it was like that, and it seems like it is.

I hope everything goes smoothly when I return to work.
1. I hope not to be required to do more than the bare minimum while I'm still a tad emotionally fragile.
2. Customers shall not be unreasonably rude.
3. Anytime I get overwhelmed, all I need to do is ask to clock out early and they'll say yes.
4. I heard reward charts work. When I was in lower elementary school, a teacher gave me a sticker chart (maximum 16 stickers). When I get those filled up just by being good, I get to pick a treat from the dollar store or go out for ice cream. Maybe my job will also implement rewards chart. And I get a sticker for every day I don't mention my old GM. Things like that.

I'm not trying to get a rise out of anyone with this post. I'm seriously this emotionally fragile right now and I need LOTS of encouragement.

Speaking of rude customer:
Two cars in drive thru was parked because we were still working on their order.
When the orders were ready, I was running both orders out.
I got to the first car and asked what he ordred.
He said a chicken sandwich.
I asked if he also had a medium fry.
He got mad and said if he ordered something complicated like a chicken sandwich meal with a sweet tea.
I reiterated I'm asking him if he had a medium fry with his chicken sandwich. Yes or no?
Without waiting for an answer, I immediately went inside and clocked out without telling anyone. Before my previous GM permanently stopped talking to me, I wouldn't have behaved this way cuz I could handle everything back then. But I know now I'm on my last legs at this job. How do I ensure nobody is EVER rude to me?

Every single item is unreasonable in a workplace. Items #1 and #3 basically say that you'll be leaving anytime things get hard for you and the rest of the team cannot count on you to be professional.

And for you to even think that they'd do a "reward chart" just for you - forget it. Work is not school and you are not a child. Again, you shouldn't be working. But I think you'll show out at work again and they will let you go so this might be a moot point.

Ruby, I've been thinking about your post all day, and reading the other responses.

First, I want to say that I understand that you are angry that you are viewed as a creep when that is not your intention. I want you to know that I, and I'm sure others here, understand that it's not your intention to be creepy or make others uncomfortable.

It's not your fault that you have poor social skills/maneuvering, but unfortunately, it's still your responsibility to deal with.

You know that when you go back to work you need to:

1. Be polite all the time.

2. Don't clock out unauthorized or take breaks unauthorized. Accommodations only work if they are in such a way that they don't impact business. If you leave unexpectedly, you put others on the spot. When you are overwhelmed, take a deep breath. Then go tell your supervisor you are overwhelmed and need a break. Ask if you can take a break then come back. That will be less a hardship than leaving entirely.

3. If someone is rude to you then just ignore it. Someone else's rudeness is their problem. Just ignore it and be polite and move on with your day. I know that sounds hard, but often people are just responding based on what's going on in their own heads, not with anything to do with you. The customer that was rude about the medium fry? That had nothing to do with you. He was likely in a rush and just being rude because that's how he is.

I am sure the break was good for you as well as it got you some distance from the situation. But remember, your coworkers still remember how you misbehaved so they will be on guard and chilly to you at first. But if you behave yourself they will come around. Right now they view you as unsafe. What you need to do is show you can be reliable and polite.

You can do it. You have behaved yourself before.

Ruby,

First, expect that you will be asked to do all tasks, not just the bare minimum, and just do it. These are not hard tasks. You can do it. Focus on completing the task and not your emotions and you'll be fine.

2. Customers are always going to be rude. It's not about you. It's just them. Ignore them and be polite.

3. If you get overwhelmed, try to take a moment to do deep breathing, ask for a break first, if that doesn't work, then ask to leave. You need to be a reliable employee.

4. Your work probably won't do the reward chart, but why not do it for yourself? Do it with us? How about this, if you make it through Friday without any outbursts or mentioning the GM, I will give you a special sticker.

Ruby, you got this. You can behave. You have done it before. Is there something else you can do with your thoughts/brain when you start to think about the GM at work? A mindgame you can play, a song you can sing?

Ruby if you feel too emotionally fragile at the moment, maybe you should take more time off work and try to get yourself under control. Call the clinic and ask if they might have more appointments open up and start calling more clinics in hopes to get earlier appointments. Also you said you contacted vocational disability services again. What was the follow up?

Ruby ton of people cannot and would not work customer service jobs because they cannot tolerate it. It’s not for everyone,

it was previously suggested on this thread and other threads that you might be better off on a different type of job. Speak to vocational services about other type of jobs

VR never contacted me again. It’s just like my job developer said. They didn’t open my case 2 years ago when I applied and they won’t open them now. She said it’s because I kept losing my job for the SAME reason.

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Originally Posted by ruby2011 VR never contacted me again. It’s just like my job developer said. They didn’t open my case 2 years ago when I applied and they won’t open them now. She said it’s because I kept losing my job for the SAME reason.

Ruby I’m confused. Do you have a case manager? If you do then wooden your case they open? Do you see a therapist or psychiatrist?

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I’m sorry to hear that. What will you do now?

Ruby I’d recommend trying the check the facts dbt skill. No one on here can give you the result you want with your coworkers. But if you try this skill you may be able to make yourself feel better.

Step 1: Decide what emotion you want to change
Emotion:_______ Intensity:_______ (0-100)

Step 2: Ask yourself: prompted this emotional reaction?

Describe the event: What led you to this emotion? Who did what to whom? Be specific

Now check the facts: Look for extremes or judgements in the way you see the event. Then rewrite the situation to be more accurate.

Step 3: Ask yourself: What are your interpretations of the event? Thoughts and beliefs about the facts? What are you assuming? Are you adding your own interpretations to the way you describe the event?

Check the facts: list as many possible other interpretations of the event.

Rewrite the facts.

I just got this from google but you can search it up and find worksheets. You typically do this by writing it down. You can’t expect your coworkers to be your therapist.

They will not open the case because you have a job. If you lose it, you might petition them for help. They could and probably should provide you with training and lead you towards more suitable jobs if you lose this one. Enough customer service and fast food

Thanks for sharing this. I think it will be helpful to some reading this

Yesterday went good and today went a little better. My current GM agreed to let previous GM know I’ll be good from here on out next time he visits for supplies! Other than that, I’m patiently waiting while enjoying back drive and distracting myself with more work (which I enjoy now). And this be the last time I EVER mention him cuz good things come to those who wait.

Ruby, I am glad you have behaved yourself at work. Good job, gold star.

I am concerned about what the "good things" you are waiting for are. If that's the GM paying attention to you then this is a recipe for disaster and still stalker behavior. If the good things are your coworker respecting you and doing well in your job, then good.


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Ok so I asked the current GM how the previous one is doing. She said she's sure he's doing good. I said I really wanted to let him know I'll be good from here on out. She said she hasn't really talked to him but will let him know the next time he comes in. I really hope when they do truck orders to get extra supplies of everything so whatever previous GM wants to borrow in the future is available. This gives me hope. I won't mention him again and as much as I'm gonna patiently wait, it's not ALL I'll be doing. I'll be doing my job and distracting myself with work. I'm not anxious for him to come in or w/e as I won't even think about it before he comes in. Then one day, when I least expect, he'll come in to borrow stuff and someone will tell him I'm good. Maybe then he'll be nice again.

Ruby, this is still unhealthy because it's still this infatuation/stalker behavior where you're basing your happiness off of someone else who is still probably going to avoid you.

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Damn that's tough stuff. I'll need a plan B if he still avoids me after my current GM tells him my plan to be good.

I watched some cool YouTube videos of adult babies. It's something I really want. I need a boyfriend who's willing to be my daddy. I'll need a crib, nappies, toys, bottles, bibs, etc. I just don't know how that will affect my job if I want to be full time baby. Will they make significant adjustments to my responsibilities? Hell, will my workplace become a daycare center exclusively for me? I said exclusively because my coworkers will most likely continue to be working adults. I'm not screwing with anyone. I'm seriously considering this.

My current GM telling my previous GM I'll be good is my very last option to get him to not ignore me. I don't think I could handle it if I exhaust all my options and still don't get him to talk to me. I know when he goes home, he doesn't ignore his family. He definitely keeps in touch with his extended family like his parents, older brother and his adult kids, and god knows who. He has friends outside of work, some of whom he knew since high school. And he definitely talks to everyone he works with or has ever worked with (except me). A former employee who walked into the store and GM greeted him like hell. Spent 10 minutes catching up. WTF.

Anyway, I have a plan B but I don't know the ramifications so I'm asking.

Ruby, I really recommend this be your plan:

1. Continue to behave yourself so you can stay employed until you are able to get professional help.
2. Then a professional can help you work through these issues and find ways for you to appropriately express age regression and build healthy relationships.

I highly doubt the GM will do anything more than say "hello" to you when he visits. Do you not see how you're still obsessed with him? Do you not see that this is unhealthy behavior?

I am sure there are people in the world who are interested in practicing the kind of age regression role playing you are discussing; however, it will not be at your place of work.

Your place of work expects you to operate as an adult and do your job.

Do you think you can be on your best behavior the next few months until you see your new therapist and then work with them on how to express these things that you want to explore, but in a healthy, appropriate way?

Ruby, what are you going to do if the GM comes in and simply says a nice "hello" to you? It's very likely that this will be the extent of his interaction with you. It's too dangerous for him to have any more of an interaction than that, considering how obsessive and intrusive you become if he gives you any more attention. What kind of attention are you expecting from him, and what do you think your reaction is going to be if you do not get it?