Are people in your life extremely unsupportive during your hard times?

I just don’t want him to feel too terribly bad that’s all. Things happen and only hindsight is 20/20. I want him to know it’s nothing to do with him and to not be burdened with bad feelings. I want him to know it’s ok.

I made things toxic for myself. I wish I hadn’t yelled at people or talked incessantly every day about the GM. I went in today ready to turn things around only to be SURROUNDED by coworkers who HATE me. Cuz hate more closely describe their attitude towards me than simply dislike.

I couldn’t BEAR being hated. So I snapped when someone got snotty with me.

It’s too late for me here

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I went in today ready to turn things around only to be SURROUNDED by coworkers who HATE me. Cuz hate more closely describe their attitude towards me than simply dislike.

You don't seem to understand that these people don't hate you, they just dislike your behaviors & don't want to have any association with you. That doesn't mean they hate you.

Seriously, I can't stand my EX-husbands behavior or thinking but I don't hate him. I left him because of his bad choices & the behaviors it created but I don't hate him. I would never associate with him again but avoidance means self-care on my part & had nothing to do with hating vs liking a person.

How your GM feels about the situation is his business not yours. You are looking at him from your own dysfunctional, broken view point. He most likely wouldn't even think or care about the situation any more. He KNOWS you are the one who caused the problem, why should he feel bad at all?

This is the consequence of Your behavior.

You went in ready to have a positive attitude, but YOU have to repair the relationships with your coworkers before they'll act positively towards you. They are not just going to turn on a dime and like you again because you decided to come in with a good attitude. And you reinforced their dislike by behaving the way you did, making that awful remark.

If others don't like you, you either ignore them, or, if at work, behave politely and professionally and move on. Instead you are creating a toxic workplace and making everyone dislike you by behaving this way.

It doesn't matter now. You're certainly about to be fired.

And how do you have the audacity to turn this into caring what the old GM thinks about you? Ruby, he does not think about you at all, do you not get that? He doesn't care about you, never did. You were just an employee that he supervised. Period. You have to stop creating relationships in your head. You are not connecting with reality. Even with your co-workers, I'm betting that this perceived cold shoulder is in your head.

I just didn’t know how long I must behave myself before my coworkers come back around. All I knew is that being intensely disliked is unbearable. That doesn’t make it ok to snap, but I used up all my reserves trying to cope generally for several weeks.

I know he cared about me when he was here though. He even said it from time to time without being asked. But it doesn’t matter now. I’m just glad he wouldn’t feel bad that’s all.

I expect to be fired. That’s fine. But I just applied 3 different companies yesterday and haven’t heard back yet

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I couldn’t BEAR being hated.

then STOP behaving in a way that makes people react to you like that if you can't bare it. Obviously it really doesn't matter to you or you would quit acting this way everywhere you work. I am guessing but you probably act like this everywhere, people just aren't around you enough for it to bother them anywhere else.

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I just didn’t know how long I must behave myself before my coworkers come back around.

at this point they probably NEVER WILL. They are probably so fed up with you by now that they want nothing to do with you because of how you have acted.

By the time I left my husband, he could have become the most perfect husband in the world & I would have still been so disgusted by his behavior that there was no way I wanted anything more to do with him. That is the way normal people react to people who constantly behave unacceptably even IF there is a change (they figure it is an act & not permanent).....best to just avoid the person totally.

Ruby, do you understand how constantly complaining to team members about the GM ignoring you has now caused them to dislike you? Not only that, but your outbursts, your rudeness and your snappiness has also caused them to dislike you?

Do you understand that your obsession with your GM not wanting to talk to anymore has caused you to completely unravel at work, have these outbursts and be rude to everyone with whom you work?

Do you see how completely destructive your obsessions have become? Your obsession with someone you look up to got you fired from Arby's, caused you to act out and emotionally melt down at Sam's, and now you're likely getting from from McDonald's for the same exact reasons?

This has got to stop or you will never be able to function in ANY work environment.

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I expect to be fired. That’s fine. But I just applied 3 different companies yesterday and haven’t heard back yet

why are you wanting to inflict other companies with your toxic behavior when you haven't gotten the help you need to change your horrible disgusting behavior that has messed up every workplace you have worked at? Do you like to make people dislike you so you can complain how unbareable it is?

Yes. To the point of being completely unable to turn things around although I really wanted to.

I think if you emotionally pulled it together, stopped ALL rude comments and snappiness, and shine only your nicest self, perhaps you could turn it around, but they may fire you for your racist comments to the manager trainee, on top of all other bad behaviors you've exhibited.

It’s my bad. I didn’t have the patience to wait until they come back around while I behave myself. I would have more patience if I had the ability. I hope they fire me cuz I’m waiting on VR while VR assign me a counselor.

Despite all the feedback you’ve gotten you show no insight and consequently any place you work is going to develop the same toxic breakdown and eventual firing. How many times must you fall into the same pattern before you take responsibility for your behavior?

Can you afford to not work for awhile and just focus on improving your behavior? You don’t sound fit to work at the moment

Yes but I’ll have to start selling stuff online.

What stuff? If you have extra stuff maybe selling some isn’t a bad idea

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Originally Posted by ruby2011 Yes but I’ll have to start selling stuff online.

Just make sure it isn't your parents stuff without their approval

Quick question: it’s 4 pm and they still haven’t called me with what they’re gonna do to me. If they don’t contact me by my scheduled shift tomorrow (starts 6am), what does that mean on their part?

Do they want me to show up or not? Are they wanting to fire me?

I would show up for work tomorrow at 6 AM bright eyed and busy tailed, regardless. If they fire you then, at least you've shown up.

If they fire me then…

I can’t give them that chance. If that’s the case, I’ll need to call and say I’m quitting

But you do not know yet. I would still show up.

They sent you home. I personally think that means they don't want to see you there until they call you whenever that is to let you know their decision about you. It is their call at this point, NOT YOURS.

But they did not tell her not to come back to work at all, so I don't think that's the case. If they were firing her, wouldn't they have done it right then and there?

Ruby, you could always call and ask if you should come in tomorrow morning. That's what I would do.

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Originally Posted by Have Hope But they did not tell her not to come back to work at all, so I don't think that's the case. If they were firing her, wouldn't they have done it right then and there? Ruby, you could always call and ask if you should come in tomorrow morning. That's what I would do.

They might have had to go through corporate HR. They might not be able to just fire people on the spot any more because of possible law suits. Seems like firing people these days needs corporate
legal input to cover themselves

Even my job developer says to expect to be canned if I show up to work tomorrow. I’ma do the right thing by calling to say I quit.