I let him back in and now I am kicking myself #2

I am the same way it a process we have to go through

Could you take your laptop to a coffee shop or a library and study there? Since things reopened after covid, coffee shops by me are full of people of all ages working or studying. Even if you had a partner, he’d be at work all day (hopefully) and wouldn’t be cheering you up anyways.

Yeah, I could I suppose? Only when I am applying for jobs though - not when I am prepping for interviews.

I’m sorry people have no right to be rude towards you. Take some time for yourself.

*comes and sits with Hope and helps her with the studying for the interview*

if theres words that are not too long

Thank you @Buffy01 and @willowtigger.

I'm definitely losing it. I was having an emotional breakdown before my interview yesterday. I don't think I did that great in my interview as a result. I had to pull myself together just minutes before the meeting.

Between the health insurance nightmare, needing major dental work, unemployment, interviewing and looking for jobs and my husband hoovering me, I really want to disappear. Every little thing is putting me on edge.

How much can a person really take?????????

Hang in there Have Hope!

Thanks @Bill3.

I just cancelled an interview that was completely stressing me out. It's not the right fit for me at all, so I backed out. I don't see the point of prepping and stressing myself out if it's really NOT the right fit and I already know that.

Hang in there.

When you say you need to prep for interviews, what are you prepping? Presentations or they gave you a task? Those are usually second interviews. How about just go in and see what happens. Personally if I start preparing something I stress out. If I just let it fall where it may, I am chill

Unless you plan on getting back with your husband, he needs to be blocked

I have to study my field & areas of knowledge IN-DEPTH before EVERY SINGLE interview.

They ask me test knowledge questions, success stories and details about what I've done to resolve let's say for example, technical issues on an ecommerce enterprise level website. Or, how exactly did you increase traffic for this one website, mentioned in your resume, and tell us the methods used. Or how do you optimize articles for SEO? Or, what are the latest Google algorithm updates and how do they affect SEO strategy? Or, tell us about an off-site linkbuilding strategy you used that worked well. Or, what are the upcoming trends to look out for, and how have you prepared for those in your work? I have to answer questions about what is included in a technical or on-page website audit - and I have to answer these in detail and 100% accurately.

It's not like interviewing for a teaching role. I have to have all of these types of answers at my fingertips for every single interview I conduct. I tailor my answers based on the employer's area of expertise.

I spent SIX-EIGHT hours prepping for my last interview.

And, yesterday's interview involved a question along the lines of: what would be your long-term strategy for a site of several thousand pages, that is a new website with no domain authority, and what would be your short-term strategy?

I was just wondering. I asked because I didn’t know what they ask you.

Nothing to do with interviewing for a teaching role, which requires a lengthy interviewing process itself. Heck you have to pass psychological personality tests first, which are hours long. You aren’t even getting into first interview if you can’t pass psychologist test with a decent score. And in my specific role I need to know various (not just education related) state and federal laws and procedures and eligibility for every possible situation including change in procedures and every situation that I could possibly encounter.

I just think I either know it and can figure it out if I don’t know it, or I am going to flunk because I just don’t know enough. No one has 6 hours to study for anything. Especially if one has a job and looking for another. There are no extra 6 hours in a day.

I assumed (obviously incorrectly) that if you had something in a resume you should be able to answer it without having to study. Like what methods you used or how you increased traffic. I believe if it’s in my resume, I know it. If I don’t know it, I take it out of a resume. I understand you have a different approach and if it is working out, it’s all good.

But I get it. If you have to study, you study. It just seems kind of strange. I have family in all possible fields, including very technical. No one studies for hours for the first interview, especially if stuff is already in your resume. You either know or if you don’t. I understand studying about each company you are applying to, which could take maybe an hour of researching. But if it works for you then good luck

Your welcome

I have a bad memory. My field is VAST.

I don't want to defend myself any longer. Please stop asking me to defend my position in life. It makes me feel inept when you tell me no one you know studies for hours.

Have Hope is wonderfully strong and deserves to have piles of good things coming into her life

and Have Hope is GOOD ENOUGH

Sometimes we just need to a break for our own mental health and that can just be sitting outside in the sunshine or just going for a walk.

Thank you!!

Yes - and I think I need several days break.

I asked my husband if he could give me $1000 for half the cost of the 2K chair I bought for him. He said he would if he could, but that he's broke and had to borrow from his brother this month. Of course!!!! Now there's a reminder for me of something negative.

It makes me think when he offered to leave the chair with you, he didn’t really mean it. He likely just wanted to appear all nice because he knew you wouldn’t want to keep the chair. Annoying.

Why is he even broke. Did he rent expensive place? Otherwise he should have enough to live on. He makes like twice the average US salary. Buys too much weed.

No wonder he hopes to move right back in. This dude…he has no shame. He’s over 50, raised no children, make good salary and still perpetually broke. It’s not normal. I have no patience for him

Hope, if he's broke then my name is Dumbo

you might be in to something. He might be lying

His middle name is Pinnochio