What to do when they come back?

RD - to quote Cher - Get a hold of yourself!

Nobody just shows up expecting visitation.

Except like old Italians. But not Americans!

@unaluna

I am so chill.

I *literally* thought to myself, “There’s crazy on the other side of the door. I’m not letting crazy in and I’m not stepping into crazy.”

It’s just that OF COURSE the cops were called

And OF COURSE she had a witness

And OF COURSE it happened the weekend before the family court notice of hearing.

The staging of it all is just… (chef’s kiss)

GOOD for you for holding STRONG boundaries. The beginning of this thread is about her FIRST surprise visit. This is the SECOND, and you held your ground and you had a plan. All I can say is GREAT job.

A therapist told me "She doesn't respect your boundaries. The simplest boundary is your door. The second is your phone. It doesn't matter if it was a neighbor or a friend, if you aren't available, you don't have to answer either."

Another told me "You will reach a point where you can see the disorder without stepping into it. The first step is maintaining distance and a barrier to prevent that from happening."

I remembered both those things in that instance.