[purple_fins]

I just don't understand why a grown woman would want to be hairless *down there*????

It makes me think that a guy that would desire to be with a hairless woman could possibly opt for a child-- if he has a problem with that "kind of hair".

and it also makes me think that the woman is trying to be childlike....

I truly don't understand such a practice and why it is accepted... That is a characteristic that sets women apart from little girls.

Women trying to go back ---before puberty and men possibly thinking that that is "attractive"......

makes my stomach turn, if they then are sexual..... ugh.....

the idea really bothers me...

(Soooooo not meaning to offend anyone-- just don't understand such a desire, i truly don't)

fins

[Yoda]

Going bare increases sensations down there. I like keeping it tidy. It has nothing to do with being child like. Some guys go bare too.

[Yoshi]

I personally, dont like hair. It irritates me and looks gross, no offence to anyone who has it. Were women, There isnt saposed to be a "jungle" down there haha. I could see about having hair, but not cutting it sometimes..Umm...Yeahh...it grosses me out.

But then again everyone is different Hope I didnt offend anyone =/

I personally like being hairless down there. Feels more comfortable to me, and looks more visually appealing (in my opinion).

I also believe though, that it's every woman's choice to decide whether to go hairless or just let it be. Either way is fine, in my opinion.

I've always heard it's actually healthier to have at least some hair.

[Indie'sOK]

I like being very trimmed, but not full-blown bald down there. It would make me feel like a little girl. Having it makes me feel like a woman, not a child, since I am in between the two age-wise.

[Yoda]

Originally Posted by roseleigh7

I've always heard it's actually healthier to have at least some hair.

In what way?

[AAAAA]

At the risk of being graphic, I have a very heavy flow during my period. I have never been able to use tampons comfortably. If I kept things as nature dictated, it is a painful icky mess in the morning when I get up. I just feel cleaner.

I've been taking care of business down there even before I was sexually active. I do it for me, so I feel cleaner.

[Yoshi]

It makes me feel alot cleaner too.

[El-ahrairah]

lol....
It's for sex appeal. and honestly I do it cause I don't want my bf to have a mouth full of hair if you know what I mean.

Makes me feel cleaner too, I don't shave it allll off, but I do like to keep it tidy and well trimmed.

:3

[Evening]

I personally am not a fan of it myself either. I used to when I was younger, but I've outgrown a lot of things (I used to think I was totally pimping it out because I got my bellybutton pierced).
I'm fine with trimming the hedges, but not with mowing the whole lawn.
My view is, societies trying to create caricatures of ourselves- women have more curves than men, so an attractive woman is meant to look like an hourglass, women have boobies, so an attractive woman is meant to have a big rack, women are smaller than men, so an attractive woman is meant to be thin, women have more feminine facial features, so an attractive woman is meant to have big beautiful eyes and big lips. And women have less hair than men, so we completely remove it it emphasise that. Plus, women are smaller down there than men, so waxing it makes it look tinier than it does leaving it natural. It's exaggeration of what we actually look like, and emphasising what makes women look like women, which in turn makes them look MORE like women.

I hope I explained that in a way that makes sense. But it's a reality. Personally, I don't want to look like that. I'd rather look like Kate Winslet over Jessica Alba any day.

[purple_fins]

Thank you all for your replies and for not lashing out at me

I am just trying to understand and not be offensive-- thank you for realizing that.

I think it's sad how women are "instructed" by the culture to have to take so much time with their bodies(hair removal practically everywhere but their head! and must wear makeup, and nicely fixed hair and nice fitting clothes, surgically add this, surgically take that way) and so much awareness in order to be "accepted" by whatever the culture deems worthy as a woman.
Men don't have to spend half as much time on looking "right" for women. I don't think that's fair.
and men are so so much more accepted for how they are naturally-- the "god" given stuff-- than women are. Why is- what we are naturally genetically given NOT good enough? it is for men......
why do we have to work so damn hard to be fake??
to be a being that is not natural?
why can't being natural be accepted for women too?

and I still cant' understand for the life of me how a woman can not feel like a little girl if she is bald down there..... it just creeps me out.
if i was bald there and had sex I'd be constantly wondering why this man with me is not appalled by this-- doesn't he feel he is with a child?
I seem to not be able to get past that idea......

I think I better not read about being hairless down there anymore truly feel sick to my stomach........ ugh.....

thank you again for sharing all your views and thoughts, I so appreciate them all.

best to everyone,

fins

[purple_fins]

Originally Posted by Evening

............
My view is, societies trying to create caricatures of ourselves- women have more curves than men, so an attractive woman is meant to look like an hourglass, women have boobies, so an attractive woman is meant to have a big rack, women are smaller than men, so an attractive woman is meant to be thin, women have more feminine facial features, so an attractive woman is meant to have big beautiful eyes and big lips. And women have less hair than men, so we completely remove it it emphasise that. Plus, women are smaller down there than men, so waxing it makes it look tinier than it does leaving it natural. It's exaggeration of what we actually look like, and emphasising what makes women look like women, which in turn makes them look MORE like women......

.

Yes! --- fake! We are so pressured as women to be unnatural and to detest that which about us IS natural.
It's so so sad.(IMO)
I think society is saying-- We aren't as "perfect" as men and so we MUST try 10 times harder to appeal to the masses, men don't have to try... they are accepted as "perfect" just the way they naturally are... lucky guys.
(and I KNOW-- guys get lipo, cosmetic surgery and have eating disorders... BUT -- NOT to the degree women have! those few drops don't fill the whole bucket like the down pour of women that suffer)

and society wonders ..
why so many women are bulimic, anorexic, self harm....etc...etc........
I don't ask-- "why"....
I ask "why wouldn't they be?"....??

You are gross if you have too much hair on your body--
you are gross if you don't have enough on your head,
you are gross if you're too fat or too thin,
you are gross if your breasts are too large or too small,
...if your lips are too thin,
...if you don't have long eye lashes,
...if your skin isn't soft as velvet
the list of extreme expectations goes on and on and on

and the sadest thing of all---
we--- as women, perpetuate it

fins

[Perna]

Originally Posted by Yoda

In what way?

It's like nose and ear hair :-) it traps harmful stuff so it doesn't get in our urinary or female tracts, can help keep us moist/"protected". There's no part of us without a "purpose" or one at one time, I don't think. Yeah, it can get messy too if it's not cleaned well.

http://www.associatedcontent.com/art...air.html?cat=5

I have all my hair but can understand how shaving could help increase pleasure during sex and sexual practices. I don't care to shave that much, shave my legs maybe once a month and hate the itchiness of hair growing in, etc. Too much maintenance and not enough pleasure from it.

[(JD)]

It also makes it less embarrassing when wearing a bathing suit.

[crystalrose]

thanx 4 this thread, its interesting.

especailly what AAAAA said.

[AmDaws]

Yeah, I definitely don't shave to be more childlike. That kind of comparison is disgusting to me. I shave everything; my legs, my arms, my pits, *down there* and pluck or wax anything else that isn't just very fine peach fuzz.

I just really hate body hair on my own body. I'm not grossed out by body hair on other people. It's just a thing I have about my own body...

[amandalouise]

purple fins - its not just men that ask their partners to shave down there and who ever does the asking is doing so for many reasons. my partner asked me to shave because its a turn off for them to be enjoying down there and suddenly have a stray loose hair in the back of their throat. they have to stop, and get that stray loose hair out of their throat.

another reason people ask their partners to shave down there is for health reasons. its easier to see the beginnings of pimples, warts, lesions that are part of STD's like herpies. those that I know with this STD like herpies like to be bald so that they can catch an outbreak as soon as possible so they can get it treated.

another health reason is lice. those creapy crawlers are hard to see with a full lawn. bald you see right away if there are any body lice down there.

and I have had one person tell me that they keep them selves bald because one time they had a very long session of laying together and his and her hair down there got tangled together, how true that is cant say, I have never had that happen LOL

another reason I have heard about is when using "toys" sometimes the toys will pull on the hair if the hair is there and the person like the toy not only in one place down there. they like the sensation of the toy outside as well as on the spot and inside but the hair gets pulled and wrapped around the toys. Ive had that happen a time or two, its not very comfortable having a hair get pulled accidentally by a textured toy..

hope these help answer your question. and know that not everyone does things the same way, if you dont like baldness then you dont have to be bald. do what pleases you most.

[purple_fins]

Wow amandalouise... thank you thank you, for taking the time to give so much info.
It was truly helpful and does calm the nerves that jump inside me.

"appearing" to resemble a child is a trigger for me, it seems....... ugh....

sometimes I think I'm from another planet, as I struggle to understand what others regard as so simple/straight forward.
then I think people get mad at me...or I offend them... which is never ever my intention (how can fins be so stupid? people aren't that stupid )

like I told T. -- "I think I was raised by wolves" so so many ordinary things I missed learning/understanding as a kid/teen.
When one is in a constant state of just coping-- that is what one focuses on--coping from day to day-- not whether they like hair or no hair......

thanks again for your answer...... this was really bothering me....
Now-- not so much. phew... feels better.... *sigh*....

and thank you all that replied too-- I appreciate all views and have a better understanding.

fins

[susan888]

In the summer I am bald....In the winter....well...got to keep the heat in..but still trimmed!! It's a nice mixture....Maybe like my man cutting his hair short and losing the beard in the summer...but in the winter....I love his whiskers!

Everyone is different....just do what feels right for you!!!

[lynn P.]

Thanks for bringing this up. I was beginning to think I was the only one who doesn't like the totally bald look. I prefer the well trimmed look and yes it does remind me of a child.

[splitz]

Interesting thread, thank you.
I keep it 'tidy', I 'trim the lawn' not 'mow' it!! I don't like the itchiness of regrowth and I also have a tendency to get ingrowing hairs - so not fun!!
As Perna said everything about our bodies once had a purpose, I believe (or have heard) that pubic hair in females were to help catch menstrual flow in the times when sanitary wear wasn't invented. Although I'm not quite sure what purpose pubic hair in men had (any thoughts?).
Splitz

[Evening]

Originally Posted by splitz

Interesting thread, thank you.
I keep it 'tidy', I 'trim the lawn' not 'mow' it!! I don't like the itchiness of regrowth and I also have a tendency to get ingrowing hairs - so not fun!!
As Perna said everything about our bodies once had a purpose, I believe (or have heard) that pubic hair in females were to help catch menstrual flow in the times when sanitary wear wasn't invented. Although I'm not quite sure what purpose pubic hair in men had (any thoughts?).
Splitz

I think it's to keep it clean because it's a sensitive area, the same way as eyebrows and eyelashes. It could also be thermal control like hair on our head.

[Yoshi]

I dont mind a tiny bit of hair, but I rather be "bald". It makes me feel more cleaner and sexyer. I just dont like hair on my body, but I dont mind it on other people.
I can see where your coming from Fins, on the child look, I never thought about it like that, and though I'm "bald" does not make me look like I have a child part. I hope you dont think if some people are bald that there going for a child look, cause thats not the case at all with me, I just find it more sexyer to have none, and expecally when doing Oral, With hair it would be gross, and who wants a mouth full of hair? XD

I think eather way a women keeps it, its fine, but everyone has different tastes.

And I'd also like to add, I'm not doing it for guys, I could care less if they liked it or not :P As long as I like it thats all that matters.

[purple_fins]

thanks susan888, never thought about it in that way-- cooler in summer and warmer in winter- I can appreciate that.

and lynn-- thank you, yes it does feel good knowning someone else feels the way I do about this:

Thanks for bringing this up. I was beginning to think I was the only one who doesn't like the totally bald look. I prefer the well trimmed look and yes it does remind me of a child.

I sometimes have "exaggerated" feelings towards some things due to trauma-- I was wondering if this was one of those times..... but.... maybe not, if there are others that feel similar and don't have child abuse/trauma in their history.

splitz-- maybe hair there for men was to keep "things" warm there(like Evening just said-- after your post) A bit of insulation/protection-- perhaps??

I can see where your coming from Fins, on the child look, I never thought about it like that, and though I'm "bald" does not make me look like I have a child part. I hope you dont think if some people are bald that there going for a child look, cause thats not the case at all with me,

thanks for understanding where I'm coming from Yoshi I don't think bad of you(you are so sweet) or anyone else that likes going "bald" there. (but I do wonder if women are helping to encourage a sexual attraction towards child-like genitals... it just makes me nervous... ugh)
I think it's more the "idea" of the appearance and how a man could be attracted to that-- seems like such a close/tiny step then for a man to be turned on to a child.... I think I'm having a problem with that.
I thought that having hair there as a HUGE characteristic that sets women apart from little girls --- and being sexually active with a child-like part... well....
it feels upsetting to me....
but
that is my stuff and NOT a reflection on you or anyone else.....
just my stuff.... ugh....

best to all

fins