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Originally Posted by Wild Coyote

Oh no!

That must have been scary, for both of you!

I, too, am glad the injuries are much less than they could have been.

I am sure the heat greatly bothers your H.
Please stay cool and well!!!

Much Love ~

Yeah, with MS heat can aggravate his symptoms. He has an ice vest but it’s only good for about an hour. Luckily the only thing hurting now is his thumb, and he can use it a little.

Lots of love and I do hope you have some relief from what you’re going through.

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

I’m glad your husband is okay.


Lol! I stay so hot that my spring clothes ARE my winter clothes.


I’ve been thinking of you and your upcoming trip. I hope it goes better then you think it will. You’ll be in my thoughts and prayers.

Thanks so much !! I am far past menopause thanks to a hysterectomy at 31 , but I still have hot flashes despite blood tests results saying I shouldn’t “ have them” go figure lol

[~Christina]

So the saga of the Florida trip is just getting worse.

Now they are thinking of just taking Payton to Disney World for her birthday , not on her exact birthday but they haven’t figured out “ when yet”

They said they will buy my husband a ticket, my husbands now upset that I’m being left out ( this isn’t anything new, I truly think I’m just considered the bytch there dad married)

Do I have any desire to walk around freaking Disney in August or September with millions of smelly people? Oh. Hell. No !

It’s just ridiculous. I. Do. Not. Care. Anymore.

I have made it crystal clear I will be back home by the September 11th at 3pm to see my T !

Stay cool everyone !

[Wild Coyote]

I am soo o sorry sweetie!😘

I hope this gets sorted out before you head for Florida!!!

I appreciate you and your friendship!!!

[fern46]

I had a great day at my family gathering yesterday. I'm sunburned and a little tired, but we don't have anything planned today. I should be able to relax and recover.

Possible trigger:

I got the news that a friend from high school killed herself. She had been suffering from depression and it was just too much for her. She was a good mother and person. She had a blessed life, but she could no longer see it clearly. I hate that her brain won in the battle to convince her she had no other way out. Truly tragic.

[Wild Coyote]

Originally Posted by fern46

I had a great day at my family gathering yesterday. I'm sunburned and a little tired, but we don't have anything planned today. I should be able to relax and recover.

Possible trigger:

I got the news that a friend from high school killed herself. She had been suffering from depression and it was just too much for her. She was a good mother and person. She had a blessed life, but she could no longer see it clearly. I hate that her brain won in the battle to convince her she had no other way out. Truly tragic.

My condolences at this very difficult time.
It's truly a tragedy when we lose someone in this manner.
Much love to both her family and to yours.

[fern46]

Originally Posted by Wild Coyote

My condolences at this very difficult time.
It's truly a tragedy when we lose someone in this manner.
Much love to both her family and to yours.

Thanks. We weren't close in our adult years. It just hit close to home. She was my age and a mother of two like I am. I wish I would have known she was struggling. I could have offered a sympathetic ear and let her know she was not alone in facing mental struggles. Too many people suffer alone.

Originally Posted by Wild Coyote

Sorry your package is missing!!! No FUN!!!

I have recently priced mail boxes, too. I was surprised to see I could rent one online, without going to the PO itself. The prices are high!

In this area, we have"vendors" delivering the mail. It is not always reliable, which is why I was pricing PO boxes.

I hope your package does show up!!!

Have a good day!!!

Not to be pessimistic, but I don't think it'll show up. I think it was misdelivered because it's still not here today.

I wish PO box prices weren't so high either, and that I had one local enough to me. The one I really want to rent is located about 1-2 mins down the road (depending on traffic), but the post office has no 11x11 boxes available for rent. The other two post offices are 20 mins away from my place, in opposite directions. While 20 mins isn't bad, I'd much prefer 2 mins. And one of those post offices happens to be in another state. (Not sure how taxes work with that. I don't want to pay for double the sales tax.)

Anyway, we're celebrating my grandma's birthday today. 89. We got her a nice, authentic Red Sox jersey (since she's a huge baseball addict!) and a few other small things. The jersey was only $72 with a 40% manager discount from a friend, so we were very happy with the purchase!

She is a diehard Yankees fan (since she's originally from upstate NY) and we saw a Babe Ruth jersey for sale, but it wasn't in her size. She loves the Red Sox, though, and we got her her favorite player's jersey (Mookie Betts).

bluebicyle, happy birthday to your grandma!

Christina, I'm so sorry your upcoming vacation is causing more dread. Do you have a therapist to consult about this? It would perhaps be good to make some decisions about the time there before hand or process it beforehand.

fern, I'm so extremely sorry about the loss of your friend and her loss of her life to depression. I always like to say the latter, too, because I definitely feel that those who die by suicide are victims, in a sense. You may recall that my family lost my nephew to depression, in July 2017. It's so difficult because we know that he would have seen many good days if he was here today.

Originally Posted by yellow_fleurs

BirdDancer can I ask how you got past the maladaptive daydreaming? I do daydream a lot, it's not always to get out of a stressful situation or anything, just the way my brain has always worked since I was a kid. My dad used to tell me to stop daydreaming when I was a kid. I also don't know when it becomes daydreaming, I am sometimes just thinking up a plot for a story, analyzing a situation, running through a song in my head. Things get busy, but it's hard for me to imagine it being quieter than that, I sort of assumed everyone's head was this busy until I realized when my therapist would ask me what I had just thought of that it might be a bunch of things nearly at the same time haha. Although, sometimes I cannot think of a single thought if I am feeling tired or depressed.

Hi yellow_fleurs! The short answers are bulleted:

* Recognizing that the daydreaming was a problem/maladaptive
* A conscious decision to stop. Cutting down on it (sort of like sweets or other similar addictive things)
* Grounding techniques
* Success in finding a passion or other major activity that I really wanted to focus on
* Time for my brain to heal
* Good therapists that helped me get past it

My maladaptive daydreaming was not something that I stopped abruptly. It decreased over time. Perhaps with the above help it started to become less satisfying. The pleasure (or whatever positive) I derived from it decreased. Reality showed itself more. The stories ran their course.

At its worst, I was daydreaming for literally 12 hours in a day. I daydreamed when my husband was home, when visiting others, when driving, when shopping...all of the time. Mostly, I spend several hours per day in bed binge daydreaming. I neglected a lot. I often "didn't hear" people talking to me, for the most part. It became an obsessive/compulsive type activity, but I don't have OCD. I would often rework similar daydreams multiple times with slightly different versions.

I think my past maladaptive daydreaming was a means of coping. An unhealthy way of protecting myself from the trauma I had experienced in the past. That is similar with dissociation. I guess I can understand why I sometimes experienced dissociative symptoms during that period. When that period ended, so did my symptoms of dissociation.

[Nightsong]

Hi!

Good to meet you all, I have bp2 (diagnosed 4 years) and I'm 2 weeks into a 2-month intensive outpatient program. Going pretty well, all things considered - the DBT and CBT classes are really helpful - but getting a little overwhelmed. On Thursday I was just hit with two new personality disorder diagnoses, too, so that doesn't help. I hardly know what to focus on anymore.

Has anyone else been through intensive outpatient/ day hospital? How did you keep your focus?

[Miss Laura]

Still feeling good.... it's the last night of my lodge cabin on the West Coast of Scotland. We've had decent weather. Hot tub amazing. Went on a car ride yesterday and today. Then jumped into the hot tub late afternoon. Its pouring rain currently so indoors. Leaving lodge in about 16 hours. Gutted got another one booked for next month but with no hot tub been great to get away!

[fern46]

Hi Nightsong, welcome. I went through an intensive outpatient program 8 months ago. It can be a lot to stay engaged during all of the activities while you're there. They are mentally and emotionally taxing and there are a number of them every day. I was also on heavier meds at the time and they affected my concentration.

For me, I tried to simply stay present in the moment without over thinking everything. I tend to over analyze and it was dragging me down. I felt like I was getting the answers wrong and missing stuff even though there arw no wrong answers. I relaxed a bit after a while and did my best to just be honest and take it all in one thing at a time. I later decompressed during the weekends and even after the program was over.

Just be as honest as you can be even though it can be embarrassing. It is hard to grow if you hold back. Set an intention to do the best you can and just let the rest go. The important stuff will stick and the rest will naturally fall away. Remember that you're not trying to solve everything there. You're picking up skills to help you solve things at your own pace later as it makes sense. You can always follow up with a therapist later on anytning you feel like you need more time on. I wish you success with your program.

[hopeless2015]

Pretty nice weekend. Indoors most of it due to heat so doing a lot of chilling. Back to work tomorrow but I was off Friday so had a 3 day weekend . Next week we are headed out of town for an overnight trip. Really looking forward to that. Moods been staying stable.

Think I'll hit the dollar store and see what I can find, needing to replace some makeup.

Hugs to all

[Wild Coyote]

Originally Posted by Nightsong

Hi!

Good to meet you all, I have bp2 (diagnosed 4 years) and I'm 2 weeks into a 2-month intensive outpatient program. Going pretty well, all things considered - the DBT and CBT classes are really helpful - but getting a little overwhelmed. On Thursday I was just hit with two new personality disorder diagnoses, too, so that doesn't help. I hardly know what to focus on anymore.

Has anyone else been through intensive outpatient/ day hospital? How did you keep your focus?

Hi Nightsong!

Welcome to the Bipolar Forum at PC.

I hope you will find the support and the information you may be seeking.

I am sure many members have completed intensive outpatient programs. I think you will be hearing from more in time.

We also have forums for people living with PDs. Please feel free to also explore those forums. Some of us here also live with PDs diagnoses.

Please do make yourself at home here on PC!

[Wild Coyote]

Originally Posted by bluebicycle

Not to be pessimistic, but I don't think it'll show up. I think it was misdelivered because it's still not here today.

I wish PO box prices weren't so high either, and that I had one local enough to me. The one I really want to rent is located about 1-2 mins down the road (depending on traffic), but the post office has no 11x11 boxes available for rent. The other two post offices are 20 mins away from my place, in opposite directions. While 20 mins isn't bad, I'd much prefer 2 mins. And one of those post offices happens to be in another state. (Not sure how taxes work with that. I don't want to pay for double the sales tax.)

Anyway, we're celebrating my grandma's birthday today. 89. We got her a nice, authentic Red Sox jersey (since she's a huge baseball addict!) and a few other small things. The jersey was only $72 with a 40% manager discount from a friend, so we were very happy with the purchase!

She is a diehard Yankees fan (since she's originally from upstate NY) and we saw a Babe Ruth jersey for sale, but it wasn't in her size. She loves the Red Sox, though, and we got her her favorite player's jersey (Mookie Betts).

Hi Blue!

I am sorry your package has not shown up.
Is it anything you can replace?

It's just wonderful that your grandmother is doing as well as she is at 89 y.o. I know she has breast cancer and every moment with her is a gift to you and to your family.

My grandmother (deceased in the past 3 years) also loved the Red Sox! She never missed a game that was aired on TV. She loved anything Red Sox. The last piece of Red Sox clothing I had bought her was a pink Red Sox baseball cap with the logo in its usual colors. She loved it, especially since the visor helped with the sun! I now have her cap.

I cannot get over the prices of PO boxes. I had wanted one at a post office just 5 minutes away. Yet, I am disgusted with the prices, so... probably not going to do it.

You might have another option? There are some "business stores," who help businesses with printing, packing and shipping, fax services, etc. Some of these places also rent out PO boxes. They also sign for packages with your permission. I have one of these nearby and, now that I have recalled this, I am going to call them to check on their services.

I hope you and your grandmother are having a great time!!!

[Nammu]

Originally Posted by Nightsong

Hi!

Good to meet you all, I have bp2 (diagnosed 4 years) and I'm 2 weeks into a 2-month intensive outpatient program. Going pretty well, all things considered - the DBT and CBT classes are really helpful - but getting a little overwhelmed. On Thursday I was just hit with two new personality disorder diagnoses, too, so that doesn't help. I hardly know what to focus on anymore.

Has anyone else been through intensive outpatient/ day hospital? How did you keep your focus?

to the bipolar thread

[Daonnachd]

Hello, Nightsong - and all the rest of you my friends.

Last night at the concert my son and his girlfriend purchased a CD of the duo they heard so this morning, while I made pancakes, we listened to the music of Rodrigo y Gabriela. It's straight up guitar. One of the songs on the disc was a cover of a Pink Floyd song but I don't know which. I'm not really a dedicated fan of PF though I do like some of their stuff, so...

Anyhow, my son has now departed with his girlfriend to spend a couple days at her (mom's) place. As soon as they had left I went out for a bike ride. The exercise was good for me, as was the socialisation around the music. I'm feeling better today than I was a couple of days back. I wish the same to all of you.

My husband and I are totally beat! We did spring-type cleaning both yesterday and today, focusing on all of the carpeting in our house and the many other mini projects that stem from that. We were cleaning the bedroom blinds for probably the first time in who knows how long. I've been wanting new curtains. As I attempted to shift a curtain to the side, the whole curtain rod came down. I said "Now we really have to get new curtains!" Our sink is also leaking and needs replacing. Our countertops are old and disgusting. We're going to go tomorrow (hubby took the day off) and look at those. We barely have the money for all of this, but oh well. We had the money, but between the vet bill and our car breaking down, that disappeared. Why is it that money so often disappears for horrible things?

I ordered food from my favorite pizza restaurant. I told my husband that I couldn't do even one more household chore. I had worked for a while doing dishes, and didn't want to have any new dirty pots/pans.

My former neighbor's house is up for sale. I haven't seen anyone looking at it since it was on the market. Today there was an open house and I didn't see anyone heading to it. Her house is the mirror opposite of ours. I think she may have difficulty selling quickly. Many houses in the area have been up for sale for a long time. The market is obviously slow. Hopefully if/when my hubby and I want to move (in 3-5 years) the market will have improved.

Originally Posted by Nightsong

Hi!

Good to meet you all, I have bp2 (diagnosed 4 years) and I'm 2 weeks into a 2-month intensive outpatient program. Going pretty well, all things considered - the DBT and CBT classes are really helpful - but getting a little overwhelmed. On Thursday I was just hit with two new personality disorder diagnoses, too, so that doesn't help. I hardly know what to focus on anymore.

Has anyone else been through intensive outpatient/ day hospital? How did you keep your focus?

Welcome to Psych Central, Nightsong! We're happy you joined us! It does sound a bit stressful that your doctors keep adding diagnoses. Just always remember, you are not your diagnoses. You are you.

I have attended intensive outpatient and partial hospitalization day programs many times in the past. Sometimes I was better able to focus than others. Just do your best. I imagine your program has assigned process group meetings, but do you also have the chance to choose other groups of interest (i.e. art therapy, various coping skills groups, etc.)? I have been in both standard IOPs and DBT group IOPs. It's good that you will have exposure to both. If you ever feel uncomfortable in a group, please let the therapist know. They know that participants are dealing with various challenges.

[wildflowerchild25]

It’s ****ing HOT out! 99 degrees. We didn’t do anything today, it was just too hot. Just stayed inside in the AC. We did go grocery shopping but I had to put it on my credit card because I’m so damn broke. I hope I get a teaching job for the fall.

Yesterday was awesome! Even though it was super hot we had a great time at the medical oddities museum. Then we had some absolutely delicious Mexican food afterwards. The salsa was so fresh! And my enchiladas were awesome. I’m so happy we went. Then since my son was staying overnight with my mom we were able to watch some R rated comedies without fear of him hearing or seeing something he shouldn’t. It was a really nice night together.

I’m excited for my interview on Tuesday. I’m really trying to prepare in my head. I hope I nail it.

Sorry to have been scarce the last few days. I thought I'd spend one day being totally lazy and recovering. But then I haven't wanted to do anything since. Sure feeling like depression. Wanting to sleep all the time, hiding in my room, feeling totally **** about myself, not caring about or feeling much of anything, irritable, not wanting to do anything. It all seems like such a chore. Today was the first day I was determined to put clothes on (as opposed to pjs). I did. Then promptly went to sleep in them. I forced myself to walk to the store tonight to get bandaids. I'm supposed to take the bulky bandaging off and put a bandaid over the scar/stitches and all I had was little ones that don't stay put. So needed something a bit more robust.

Aaaanyhow... I couldn't help but wonder if the painkillers hit a switch. Even though I only took them for one day. (??) I will try to force myself out tomorrow. If I don't start coming out of this ... hopefully just a blip ...I will add Abilify (basically my PRN) back in.

Other than that, healing up very well. I only get a zing of pain if I try to do something requiring strength. Ziplock bags are a *****. Who would have thought?(!)

[Wander]

The last few days I've been lazing around a lot with my partner. The agitation is bad and sometimes leads to panic. Seroquel helps. Mood kind of flat, but I still can smile. Coping. This morning my pdoc rescheduled my appointment to tomorrow morning, and I see my T on Wednesday. I'm glad. I need support right now. Hopefully I can stay out of being IP. I just need to stay safe.

[~Christina]

Hey , everyone. I’m still stuck in my head.

Fern , I’m so sorry that an old friend lost the battle

WC .. I just love you to bits

IZ ! Yes any kind of surgery no matter small or large can send someone down a dark road. The anesthesia meds are most certainly the cause. I hope you can get back on your feet quickly !