[beyes2018]

Well ****, I was honestly praying, hoping, keeping my fingers crossed that DID isn't something that I have. It is now I guess a big reality check for all of us. While talking to the Psychologist and after her telling me, I have never had so much inside my head trying to get out all at once. I had a horrible headache during, Dizzy spells, I could tell my tone in voice changed at one point, I even looked at her and said this isn't me talking. I had to pull over on the way home and throw up. I don't want to be around anyone, touched by my grandchildren, wife, anyone.

This can't be real

The first and only time I talked to a T...I was dissociated hard, forgetting what I was doing...everyone freaked out for exposing our secret....emotionally drained...we dropped our iPad that was left on the top of the truck....we jumped out dazed slamming on the brakes causing cars to swerve around us as I walked out on the freeway on ramp to get our iPad getting honked and cussed at....all in a daze that lasted hours...

So, this is normal. It’ll get better I’m sure once everyone readjusts to getting comfortable at sharing their soul with a stranger that you all have to learn to trust. Good luck with this.

[TrailRunner14]

You are so brave!!

I’m so sorry that it was so hard for you and you guys were distressed.

Hopefully when you get back in your space at home, you can find some calmness.

Praying for calmness and peace for you.

[RubyRae]

Originally Posted by beyes2018

Well ****, I was honestly praying, hoping, keeping my fingers crossed that DID isn't something that I have. It is now I guess a big reality check for all of us. While talking to the Psychologist and after her telling me, I have never had so much inside my head trying to get out all at once. I had a horrible headache during, Dizzy spells, I could tell my tone in voice changed at one point, I even looked at her and said this isn't me talking. I had to pull over on the way home and throw up. I don't want to be around anyone, touched by my grandchildren, wife, anyone.

This can't be real

You were diagnosed with DID during your first appointment with a psychologist?(I read in your other thread that you were going for your first appointment)

I am really shocked to hear that.What made her come to that conclusion when she hasn't even got to know you yet?

I personally would be very leery of any professional that would hand out a serious diagnosis like that in the first meeting.I would definitely seek out a second opinion.

[Amyjay]

How are you feeling now? Will you see the therapist again?

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by beyes2018

Well ****, I was honestly praying, hoping, keeping my fingers crossed that DID isn't something that I have. It is now I guess a big reality check for all of us. While talking to the Psychologist and after her telling me, I have never had so much inside my head trying to get out all at once. I had a horrible headache during, Dizzy spells, I could tell my tone in voice changed at one point, I even looked at her and said this isn't me talking. I had to pull over on the way home and throw up. I don't want to be around anyone, touched by my grandchildren, wife, anyone.

This can't be real

yes it can be a bit stressful being diagnosed. one thing that helped me was my treatment providers explained to me that nothing is going to happen after being diagnosed that wasnt already happening before the diagnosis, other than getting better because now the therapies can be all on fixing the problems and learning how to not dissociate, learning what causes the dissociation (most people call this locating the triggers and fixing it so that the triggers dont bother them any more)

the next thing that helped me was my psychiatrist/ psychologist/ therapist sat down with me and explained exactly which tests they used to diagnose me and where I was on each of the different scales / charts/ differentials/ you name it, there are literally hundreds of tests now that you cant find online that they use for diagnosing DID. they can even tell you what your stress test score is. not talking about the kind of stress test medical doctors do, psych tests come with a stress test scoring too.

for example did they tell you what your F score or your V score was or your phq and others? if not my suggestion is call and schedule your followup appointment where you can get answers to things like this. I know with me it really helped calm things down when someone took the time to explain each of the tests and what my scores were, it took more than one appointment but i was still glad they took that time with me.

[beyes2018]

Originally Posted by RubyRae

You were diagnosed with DID during your first appointment with a psychologist?(I read in your other thread that you were going for your first appointment)

I am really shocked to hear that.What made her come to that conclusion when she hasn't even got to know you yet?

I personally would be very leery of any professional that would hand out a serious diagnosis like that in the first meeting.I would definitely seek out a second opinion.

When I called to make the appointment, I spoke with someone who asked me to briefly describe what was happening. I told her. She is a Forensic Psychologist, she has awesome reciews. Typically I wpuld be leary as well, my appointment was LONG, 3.5 hours. It wasn't just lets talk for 15 to 20 min and this is what you have. If I were uncomfortable I would run and not look back. After talking to my wife last night and telling her in detail what she said, she (wife) said this makes complete sense. My wife is going next appointment to ask questions, etc. That makes me feel good that she wants to be a part of it.

[beyes2018]

Originally Posted by Amyjay

How are you feeling now? Will you see the therapist again?

I will see her again, my next appointment is in one week. I will see her weekly. I feel comfortable with her. I have tried therapy before, after 1 session I didn't go back because I wasn't comfortable with the Dr.

[RubyRae]

Originally Posted by beyes2018

When I called to make the appointment, I spoke with someone who asked me to briefly describe what was happening. I told her. She is a Forensic Psychologist, she has awesome reciews. Typically I wpuld be leary as well, my appointment was LONG, 3.5 hours. It wasn't just lets talk for 15 to 20 min and this is what you have. If I were uncomfortable I would run and not look back. After talking to my wife last night and telling her in detail what she said, she (wife) said this makes complete sense. My wife is going next appointment to ask questions, etc. That makes me feel good that she wants to be a part of it.

I am glad you feel confident about this psychologist and I do hope she works out for you.

I personally would still feel leery of being given such a dx in the first meeting even though it was a long appointment.I personally don't feel DID is something that can be diagnosef that quickly,especially without getting to know the client and without first ruling out other MH problems.

I guess I just don't understand how this psychologist can with certainty diagnose someone with it in such a short amount of time.How would they even know whether a person is experiencing a different illness if they havent met them befote, haven't had time to observe them and are basing it on what they are being told?Many times ppl may think they have something but it turns out they are way off.

I am just concerned not judging.And as I said I hope this psychologist works out for you.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by RubyRae

I am glad you feel confident about this psychologist and I do hope she works out for you.

I personally would still feel leery of being given such a dx in the first meeting even though it was a long appointment.I personally don't feel DID is something that can be diagnosef that quickly,especially without getting to know the client and without first ruling out other MH problems.

I guess I just don't understand how this psychologist can with certainty diagnose someone with it in such a short amount of time.How would they even know whether a person is experiencing a different illness if they havent met them befote, haven't had time to observe them and are basing it on what they are being told?Many times ppl may think they have something but it turns out they are way off.

I am just concerned not judging.And as I said I hope this psychologist works out for you.

I agree with what RubyRae says. diagnosing DID usually takes more than a few hours. yes there is a self reporting section to diagnosing where the person with it tells the psychiatrist/ psychologist what their symptoms are but thats a very small part of the diagnosis process for DID..

If someone diagnosed me with DID in just a 3 and a half hour interview I would be asking them all kinds of questions like their qualifications, which interview tests they performed, (theres lots of them that cant be found online, if they quote one online be very very leary, the ones online dont include the versions that just came out.)

let me give you an example of what happens here where I am for diagnosing DID....

first the person is referred to their medical doctor, all kinds of medical tests are done to make sure the hearing voices, loss of time, switching , memory problems are not any medical, or neurological problems. and that the problem isnt because of seizure disorders, meds, drugs and alcohol.... all kinds of stuff. this part of the diagnostic process can take months because it takes time to schedule all the tests.

when all the physical stuff is taken care of theres the psych testing that includes computerized tests (no you dont do them on the computer, you fill in the circles then they send the test to a computer scoring company, then the computerized scoring company sends it back sometimes weeks after the psych testing is done.

theres also academic tests (math, history, and so on) to make sure the problems/ symptoms are not learning disorders. some are written some are oral some you have to use the props that they give you to complete the test.

there is also a personal history section where they most times ask for your school and medical records to see if you have a life time history of the problems.

theres more but this is just a quick example of how treatment providers in my city diagnosed DID. it usually takes anywhere between 2 weeks to 6 months or more to get all the testing done depending upon what your answers are and can be longer too.

so yea I would be extremely uncomfortable being diagnosed with DID with just a 3 and a half hour interview by a stranger who just met me the appointment of the diagnosing.

please be careful. suggestion .... ask lots and lots of questions about how and why this person diagnosed you the way they did and maybe get a second opinion just in case.

not trying to get you out of the diagnosis, just that how this person did it sounds very very fishy / strange and unreliable to me.

[RubyRae]

And even if this psychologist is right and you do have DID,it was very unprofessional of her to throw that dx on you during the first meeting.She doesn't know you or anything about you or your system to know what the reaction would be.

She didn't know how unstable it would make you,whether it would cause you to become suicidal or whatever.And you don't know her either, there's no relationship or trust yet,she should already know that and should have been concerned about your wellbeing before diagnosing you and then sending you on your way to deal with the afterrmath.

I'm sorry you threw up on the way home.I don't have DID myself but I know someone who does and I have read quite a bit about it.Your psychologist raises some huge red flags and I would think twice about continuing to see her if I were you.She doesn't seem to be as good as the reviews you read about her and you should proceed with caution.

She may be a great foensic psychologist but may not have any experience with trauma and dissociation.I would be checking into that if I were you.

Wow...Omg wow...y’all...So quick t judge according to the hoops that you require everyone to jump through...so quick to condem according to what you think but don’t know...here is a person looking for help...that have a T that you know so absolutely nothing about...and I know you think that you are helping...but just beat the crap out of them..

We’re you there like a fly on the wall..l mean...harsh. No wonder nobody likes this spot....do you know the exact words spoken..like suspecting? Sharing my soul made me throw up almost..

Nobody knows that person better than him/her...geeze so rough.

Your shocked to hear?? Instead of wishing them well..you go on a rant on and on about how you think? SMDH.

When you look at a pig...do you see a pig....or do you have to take tests to determine if the pig is a pig?

Me being undiagnosed in your eyes must suggest that I’m just psychotic if not faking it n here over the past 3 years nay the lifetime of Nashe DID like crap... just because I didn’t have a schooled clown tell me that I am who I am. SMH.

I personally would suggest keep seeing them or get a second opinion...keep going and see where this leads...like trauma T’s are falling off of trees...

Sheesh. Makes me wonder why I stuck around hoping to encourage and help when everyone else attacks.

I talked to a therapist who SPECIALIZES in DID and is well in her elder age n experience...and she concurred over my past experiences and wanted to jump immediately into integration therapy...oh she must be a quack because she doesn’t know what she sees or talking about according to a schmuck countries away...smdh.

[RubyRae]

Originally Posted by AlwaysChanging2

Wow...Omg wow...y’all...So quick t judge according to the hoops that you require everyone to jump through...so quick to condem according to what you think but don’t know...here is a person looking for help...that have a T that you know so absolutely nothing about...and I know you think that you are helping...but just beat the crap out of them..

We’re you there like a fly on the wall..l mean...harsh. No wonder nobody likes this spot....do you know the exact words spoken..like suspecting? Sharing my soul made me throw up almost..

Nobody knows that person better than him/her...geeze so rough.

Your shocked to hear?? Instead of wishing them well..you go on a rant on and on about how you think? SMDH.

When you look at a pig...do you see a pig....or do you have to take tests to determine if the pig is a pig?

Me being undiagnosed in your eyes must suggest that I’m just psychotic if not faking it just because I didn’t have a schooled clown tell me that I am who I am. SMH.

I personally would suggest keep seeing them or get a second opinion...keep going and see where this leads...like trauma T’s are falling off of trees...

Sheesh. Makes me wonder why I stuck around hoping to encourage and help when everyone else attacks.

Was your post directed at me?If so I am sorry you misinterpreted my concern as 'beating the crap out of them' and also took it personally.

Originally Posted by RubyRae

Was your post directed at me?If so I am sorry you misinterpreted my concern as 'beating the crap out of them' and also took it personally.

No...just everybody in general.. if the shoe fits...

Oops, didn’t expect that quick of a response...so kept editing and editing...whatever..

[RubyRae]

Originally Posted by AlwaysChanging2

No...just everybody in general.. if the shoe fits...

Re-read the posts.I see concern for the OP is all.There is no bashing at all of the OP,only concerns about the psychologist they saw.

I counted 5 freaking lectures of nonstop lol..

[beyes2018]

Originally Posted by RubyRae

Re-read the posts.I see concern for the OP is all.There is no bashing at all of the OP,only concerns about the psychologist they saw.

It's all good, I understand the concern and did not take it in a negative way or personal. I haven't been able to respond because my Grandson is sick with a stomach bug. He's autistic/ADHD and 4 so he is not wanting to just lie on the couch and be sick. He still wants to run all over the house. I will talk to the Dr. more when I see her next week. I really do appreciate everyone's concern. Thank you!

[yagr]

Originally Posted by AlwaysChanging2

I counted 5 freaking lectures of nonstop lol..

AC2: I didn't respond precisely because I couldn't think of anything to say that wouldn't strike some as exactly what you've stated here - despite my not wanting to come off that way. For instance, this strikes me as a cause for real concern:

Originally Posted by beyes2018

I had to pull over on the way home and throw up. I don't want to be around anyone, touched by my grandchildren, wife, anyone.

and all I could think to say was something that someone else did:

Originally Posted by RubyRae

And even if this psychologist is right and you do have DID,it was very unprofessional of her to throw that dx on you during the first meeting.She doesn't know you or anything about you or your system to know what the reaction would be.

I refrained from saying anything but have been second guessing that decision ever since I made it. Would I warn a friend? Is it more supportive to share my concerns or to ignore them?

Originally Posted by beyes2018

Typically I wpuld be leary as well, my appointment was LONG, 3.5 hours. It wasn't just lets talk for 15 to 20 min and this is what you have.

I read this as... Well, you're in the construction trade right? Can you imagine someone telling you that they're right about how to go about dry walling this project because they've been dry walling for three and a half weeks - not just a couple of days? Those who have spent time in the construction trade for any length of time at all know that three and a half weeks as a dry waller does not make you a master dry waller no matter how good you are - or think you are. I think that many who read this were as taken aback at that...I just didn't have the words to explain it diplomatically enough....still don't apparently, but I am trying.

I was also trying to figure out how to ask if it is common elsewhere to see a psychologist for therapy sessions. That threw me off too. I'm not trying to be insensitive or unsupportive, but sometimes I need clarification in order to do so.

[RubyRae]

Hey yagr,I had years of weekly trauma therapy sessions with a clinical psychologist.

I'm not sure how common it is elsewhere but it's pretty common where I live for psychologists to do therapy with clients.

[yagr]

Originally Posted by RubyRae

Hey yagr,I had years of weekly trauma therapy sessions with a clinical psychologist.

I'm not sure how common it is elsewhere but it's pretty common where I live for psychologists to do therapy with clients.

Thank you! I've never seen, or known anyone to see a psychologist aside from med management or diagnostic testing. Thanks for sharing that information with me.

[Amyjay]

AC I value your passionate defense of the OP. The OP is quite new here and is looking for support.
I do think it is important to be careful about how we all respond to other posters. Myself included. I don't get it right all the time like everyone else. It is hard to know what support someone is looking for or not looking for or needing or not needing.
I do think it is important to be kind. It is important to be gentle. It is important to be honest. Sometimes it is important to be more of one thing than something else.
But I think when a person is clearly feeling vulnerable because of triggers or new information or whatever it is probably not the best moment to question their experience or judgement or their t or whatever. Theres a time and a place you know?
If I was the OP I would have felt attacked and invalidated. I see the OP didn't which is good.

[beyes2018]

Originally Posted by yagr

Thank you! I've never seen, or known anyone to see a psychologist aside from med management or diagnostic testing. Thanks for sharing that information with me.

It is quite very common here for Psychologists to do therapy. The Psychologist that I am seeing has a Partner/Psychiatrist who owns the building and she works in tandem with. She does the testing and some therapy BUT sends the clients to him for Medication management. She also has 4 therapists that work under her. I will be seeing 1 of them as well. She is going to see me in the beginning, then transition me to her therapist.

My granddaughter sees a child Psychologist for her therapy. She was exposed to a mess before we got her and her brother. MANY Psychologists do testing/Therapy depending on insurance and the Psychiatrists do the medication.

[beyes2018]

Our Healthcare here where I live really sucks. The state where I moved from 12 years ago had wonderful Dr.s . I feel very lucky to have found my Dr. with the insurance I have here. I was afraid that I was going to have to be seen at the Mental Health Clinic. If I had been seen there, I would have seen an intake coordinator, then Psychiatrist for 15 to 20 minutes who goes only by symptoms and no testing. A diagnosis would have been made and then they start on Meds. Then you get to see a counselor the next appointment only 30 minutes at a time. I know this to be true because we have a family member that had to go that route. They heard them in and out like cattle. For some, it's their only option. It sucks. I had ALL of my medical records transferred to my Psychologist. I have had recent extensive lab work done weekly up until a month ago because of an infection that I received from surgery, I have had an MRI, MRA, C Scan, Xray and seen a Neurologist/ Neurosurgeon. I have had pretty much every type of test ran except a Mammogram. I feel like my bases are covered. When she spent what I considered to be a long time with me I was happy with the time she set aside.

[RubyRae]

Originally Posted by yagr

Thank you! I've never seen, or known anyone to see a psychologist aside from med management or diagnostic testing. Thanks for sharing that information with me.

My psychologist cannot prescribe meds.I have heard there are some states in the US where psychologists can prescribe though but I am not sure about that.

When I had my initial appointment with my psychologist he chose to keep me for weekly therapy rather than pass me on to another therapist/counselor in his practice.I am not sure the reason but I am assuming he thought I needed more than just counseling,which is what the other professionals in his building provide.