[jerrymichele]

I just joined a fitness club. My weight has gotten out of hand. I'm just looking for some encouragement. I about flipped out when I seen my weight. Ugh!!!!!! This is going to hard for a little bit, but I know I can do this.

[lindee]

[splitimage]

Good luck. I recently did the same for the same reason. If you can afford it, you might want to set up some private sessions with a personal trainer to set up an exercise routine and show you how to exercise safely. I did and it was really worth the money.

--splitimage

Good luck to you!

I lost 24 pounds from January to May, and then put 10.5 back on - I'm very disappointed in myself, but I have to just pick myself up and start over again at this point! At least I proved that I can do it - you can, too!

[jerrymichele]

The workout went really well. I did have a trainer today, and I did find out that it does cost a little bit of money. The workout was hard. I can't remember the name of it, but I got on a treadmill that elevates. OMG was it hard. lol, The trainer stopped the machine, and I had to hold on to him for a minute. lol, Everyone was starring at me. I came home and told my bf what happened, and he started laughing at me. (about me holding on to the trainer). My calves were burning. After that I went and did some butt exercises. That was hard too! lol, I did this one excercise, you get on all four's, then you lay out with just you hands and tiptoes, and raise up your middle section, and hold it for 30 secounds. That was really tough, but I did all of it without stopping. I was working out before. I was riding my bicycle about 10 miles a day, and I stopped doing that, but now I'm starting out doing it again. I just need to stay away from the carbs. The trainer told me that I can eat 1,900 calories a day. I really just wish that everyone in my home wasn't so picky about their food.

[anna342]

That's great news! I love going to the gym, once I'm there. You get a buzz from working out, and it can get addictive, but for many it's jsut what keeps you going and keeping yourself healthy. Loosing weight is good if you need to, but even if you don't to start with it'll be because your muscles are developing more and your body is just adjusting. It's also improving your health in terms of heart and lung function.

Keep it up and you'll soon feel the benefits, even if you're a little achy the next day.

[VickiesPath]

Wanna hear something pitiful? I take a sleeping pill. Last night I had the munchies and was munching on tater chips before going to sleep. (Awful! Had already brushed my teeth and everything!) Hubby told me I fell asleep with my hand in the tater chip bag!!!! LOL

[jerrymichele]

Originally Posted by Vickie in Phoenix

Wanna hear something pitiful? I take a sleeping pill. Last night I had the munchies and was munching on tater chips before going to sleep. (Awful! Had already brushed my teeth and everything!) Hubby told me I fell asleep with my hand in the tater chip bag!!!! LOL

LOL, that is funny.lol

Originally Posted by jerrymichele

I just joined a fitness club. My weight has gotten out of hand. I'm just looking for some encouragement. I about flipped out when I seen my weight. Ugh!!!!!! This is going to hard for a little bit, but I know I can do this.

You can do it - and released some of the chemicals and blocking some of thoughts will help too.

I work out at home - quite a bit: ab lounger and gazelle, use are weights too.

Then I binge and blow it

[Naturefreak]

Good Luck with the weight loss
MICHELE

[Rmdctc]

Hope the workouts go well. Good luck with it all!

[Shangrala]

Awww...Michele~

I'm jealous. I wish I could join a gym again...take boxing back up...yay. Miss that. I wish you best of luck. You can do it. I have faith in you.

Shangrala

[50guy]

I have always struggled to keep weight off. I exersize everyday and eat right and have managed to keep my body in good shape for weighing in at 220. I am muscular and have a fairly flat stomach for as much as I can. I do 3 and 6 mile walks at a brisk pace almost everyday. Pushups and situp are the worst but, that is what I have to do to stay in shape.
Good luck with your program it only works if you work it.

Eric

[lynn P.]

Hi Michele,
good for you in joining a gym and working out. If you do wieght lifting in addition to the cardio you will lose weight faster and notice changes in your body sooner. Just don't over do it in the beginning because then you feel too sore and exhausted and get discouraged. I have to start exercising again too - these last 6 months I haven't done any and I feel so weak. I go in spurts and would like to improve that because it's like starting over. Luckily for me I don't have a weight problem but you can be thin and out of shape too. I'm going to have to get motivated again and start back in my routine. Keep up the good work.

[Sabrina]

Good luck jerrymichele. I belong to a gym and exercising has helped my weight loss tremendously.

[John25]

It is great that you joined a fitness club, jerrymichele!
I have joined a fitness club 3 years ago now and (although I don't need it for weight loss) it really makes me feel less depressed and more relaxed.

[Pup]

wish i could do this stuff, some of it again...
but i have m.e and i also have eating disorders so i may go OTT and end up in a bad place.

xx good luck.

[jerrymichele]

((((((((((((((((PC FAMILY))))))))))))))))))

You all are great. This is very hard challange for me right now, but I'm doing it. My body is sore. lol, I went to the Dr. at the fitness gym, and he did some kind of test on me to see where I am at. The only thing that I have going for me right now is my metabolic rate. Just getting up doing just anything and while I sleep, I burn off 2,499 calories. I can consume 1,922 calories a day. He told me to drink 120 oz's of water a day. My bf has just found out what I weight, and now he won't leave me alone about the money we are spending on it to get it off of me. I know I will get it off, it's just going to take time.One good thing about it. I don't feel like I need to hide from my bf anymore as far as my weight. lol

[Trying & Caring]

Good for you. I hide my weight from my husband (gained 50 lbs. after 12 yrs. on Abilify). I even will not walk directly next to him when we hike as my shadow looms so much larger than his, but I do admit I have a real fixation in that when he told me 3 yrs. ago that he no longer found me sexually attractive due to my weight gain I did a suicide attempt.

Like when he is watching a football game & they give statistics & say something like he is a "big boy"--he weighs the same as I do (190 lbs.--please keep this a secret!). Yet the player is almost 6 feet tall & I am merely 5' 3".

So to hear the announcer say he is "big" when I weigh about the same is so sad for me & discouraging...

I am definitely NOT football material.

[jerrymichele]

Originally Posted by Trying & Caring

Good for you. I hide my weight from my husband (gained 50 lbs. after 12 yrs. on Abilify). I even will not walk directly next to him when we hike as my shadow looms so much larger than his, but I do admit I have a real fixation in that when he told me 3 yrs. ago that he no longer found me sexually attractive due to my weight gain I did a suicide attempt.

Like when he is watching a football game & they give statistics & say something like he is a "big boy"--he weighs the same as I do (190 lbs.--please keep this a secret!). Yet the player is almost 6 feet tall & I am merely 5' 3".

So to hear the announcer say he is "big" when I weigh about the same is so sad for me & discouraging...

I am definitely NOT football material.

I was hiding my weight from him. He read my report on my bmi. I thought that my weight was only on the first page, but it was on the third page, and like a dummy that I am. I didn't think to read the rest of the report before I set it down. Yesterday we were argueing about the money for a trainer. I still want the trainer, but he doesn't want me to have a trainer. Trainers are exspensive. I've got to tell you that the trainers are very effective. My bf thinks that if I do the free classes, and do the weights myself that I will get to where I need to be. Yesterday I rode 2 miles on bicycle, and that is all I did as far as that goes. Today I didn't workout, because I need a day to heal. I'm sore. My left arm is hurt. I need to put some icyhot on it.

I would like to say that my bf told me before that I was to big. Well as you know that was his mistake. I made it a point to tell him something that I couldn't stand on him that he's insecure about. He hasn't said anything since about my weight. That is really ashame your husband is doing this to you. Have you tried to talk to him about how this is hurting you. I know that meds do make you gain weight. My meds have also did this to me. You shouldn't worry about football players. They are probably under some guide lines for there health. Also they are running a lot. Running a football into the touchdown zone can be a lot of yards. If you want to rid of weight do it for yourself, and no one else. Looks are just looks. Beauty is inside. I have meet some physically attractive people, and have really thought they were ugly. I really couldn't stand to even look at them.

[Shangrala]

You know......

I feel that ANY man, regardless of the situation, should not "comment" on their woman's physical if it isn't positive. (Although, sure, negative verbal comments should not be said by anyone), but for some reason, men just don't "get it". And they have this carelessness about them where they aren't even aware that they've overstepped the boundary by hurting his woman's feelings.

I have a weight problem, however, mine is underweight by at least 25 pounds. At my worst, when feeling fatigued, I look like death warmed over. My ex would make his clueless comments, completely unaware that they were hurtful. Granted, sometimes they weren't intentional, but despite that, they hurt, nonetheless....and the comments STICK.
There's little worse than to have the man who 'loves' you stab at you and he's not even aware of it....?

I'm sorry for any of you who must experience that sense of feeling undesirable. It's an awful thing for anyone to have to experience.

Grats again to you Michele for attending to your physical.
Don't overdo now, you hear?

Shangrala

[Creepurcat]

Hello JerryMichelle,

First of all, Grats on the physical workout. I know for myself that
doing workouts on a regular basis takes a lot of discipline, espescially
when its hard due to low stamina or body weight. Not to mention going
to a public work out gym when feeling insecure about yourself.
VERY nice job, a definite A+!! (you're my role model now)

Secondly, I agree with Shangrala's comment. A partner should not
comment negativly on his/hers partners looks, it shouldn't even matter.
Personally, love is in the heart and that is where ones beauty is. Sure,
ones looks can play a significant role as to someones feelings toward
another, but it certainly isn't something to base a relationship on.
By the end of the day, there is nothing better then to be home with
your best buddy in the world and feel accepted, safe and comfortable.

Everybody looks different and everyone has different preferences.
Everybody changes over the years, everybody has "flaws" if you want to
view them as such but also, everyone has qualities which are far more
important and constructive to comment on. After all, its those qualities
that make people feel comfortable around each other and got them
together in the first place (i hope).

Of course, how one feels about themselves toward their partner is very
important and the partner can support them in those insecurities. I feel it is
a partners job to take away those insecurities and support them in feeling
better about themselves when needed. Criticism when already insecure
does not help very much, it will only worsen ones already excisting
insecurities. I think it is selfish and insensitive to criticize on the looks
of your partner.

As for the financial part.
Again, I think it is selfish and insensitive to criticize on a partners looks,
ESPESCIALLY when not offering constructive idea's or help, not to mention
to then take finances as priority. To first criticize on ones looks and then
take away the means of doing something about them is just plain wrong.
Then just don't say anything at all.

Sure, finances are important but happyness and contentness is far more
important and if they truly love each other and care for each other and
value each others well being and being happy together then spending
money on ones physical AND mental well being I'd say is well worth
the investment.

JerryMichelle, BRAVO for looking for self improvement and to feel
comfortable about YOURSELF. Just make sure you do it for the right
reasons. Try not to answer to your partners preferences too much,
because no matter how admirable, a few years from now, It's possible
he'll find other "flaws" to criticize including the money spent. You'll be
feeling insecure about yourself still and possibly guilty for trying to do
something about it for your partners sake. Chances of succes would
depend on your partner and seeing how he commented on the finances
already, do not put too much hope in his approval. Instead, look for
own approval and the goals you intend to reach for yourself.
Then you are almost garanteed to find succes, You wont feel
insecure about how you look physically and you wont regret
the investment.

Stick with yourself, you certainly are worth it!
I admire your courage and have nothing but respect
for your choice in this matter.

Already your qualities are showing and if I was your partner
you would receive nothing but glory and approval.

Keep it up!!

[Creepurcat]

Omgosh, did I write all that??

Maybe I got a little carried away lol.
Well .. goodluck reading all that
Haha just kidding.

Take good care,
CC.

[jerrymichele]

Thanks Creepurcat.Jerry is really good to me. That comment he said to me was over a year ago. He felt bad after he found out that it really hurt my feelings. I'm not doing this for Jerry. I'm doing this for myself. I really want to be healthy. For the most part my self esteem is up. I'm pretty much happy with myself, and my life. I was a little worried about what type's of people go into a fitness gym. When I walked in there, there was every type of person you can think of. I fit in with everyone else. There are a lot of health problems on both sides of my family. My mom side is cancer. (MOM passed when I was 15) Dad's side is heart disease, and stroke. (DAD passed when I was 27) In my case it is really important that I stay healthy. Sure I want to look better, but really it's because of these reasons here. I know that I will rid of the weight. I have gained and lost weight my entire life. Now I'm 35 and it's really time that I stick with the program. Mom and dad werent over weight, they just wasn't healthy.