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#1
Jun 11, 2005, 02:43 PM
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Has anyone ever gotten an emergancy order of protection then withdrawn it on the day of court. I have made the decsion to let my husband move back in. I am concerned about him having visitation with the children every other weekend. He has never been alone with them more then 10 hours, never days in a row and he gets very frustated with them. I am always there to let him leave and blow off steam. If this order goes through he will be alone with them from fri thru sun. I don't care what he says to me. I don't care if he hurts me just not my beatiful boys.
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Jun 11, 2005, 03:52 PM
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If he does more than hurt you who will be there for your children, think it out , don't let him win
Angie
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#3
Jun 11, 2005, 10:26 PM
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Can you have one ordered on behalf of your children too?
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Jun 12, 2005, 10:32 AM
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I agree with above post - if he does MORE than hurt you, who will be there for your children??? If you are still married, and the Order of Protection was just gotten , and you have not been to Court yet - he would have no visitation rights for some time. That happens when someone files for legal separation . Please give this some more thought before you ASK to have the Order of Protection withdrawn.
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Jun 13, 2005, 11:02 PM
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I don't know what to do. I am so scared. No one cares about me. People ask but they don't really want to know. I hate myself. I said it would never happen to me. My husband knew how badly I had been hurt in the past. He promised me he would never hurt me. I drove him to hurt me. Everyone is against me. Even myself. I have to stay alive for my kids i have to get through this but i don't know how I am going to. I am hurting so much. No one cares. I don't care.
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#6
Jun 13, 2005, 11:13 PM
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WE CARE !!!!! What did u do about the order of protection? Are u and your children safe?
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Jun 13, 2005, 11:25 PM
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Most important is that your boys care. Think of the harm you would cause if you didn't take care of yourself and they lost you. I think of this often and it's what pulls me through the hard times. I've harmed my boys enough with my behavior from PTSD, I owe it to them to take the best care of myself that I can so they don't loose me...it would completely break them and they don't deserve that.
Your boys deserve you. You're a wonderful mother and it's obvious how much you love them. You'll get through this rough spot with your husband. Think of what's best for you and your boys if you really think your husband might harm them. Please take good care of yourself and those lovely boys, Missi 
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#8
Jun 14, 2005, 01:07 PM
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Please, before you do anything, look in the phone book for the local number for the abuse hotline. The people who answer the phones are there to help folks like you and your children make a clean break away from abuse. They will help you to help yourself. It is completely confidential....they DO CARE!! I CARE!!
It sounds as if you have a lot on your plate and you need some help learning what options are available to you. My prayers are with you and your children. Be safe dear! |
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#9
Jun 14, 2005, 10:21 PM
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thanks for all of the advice. I did not withdraw the order based on the advice of the advocate form the womens shelter. He did get visitation. He did yell at me , tell me i lied about everything and said I was crazy when he came to get his stuff this afternoon. My brother was here and said he didn't want to take sides. I feel so stupid. My husband did get mandatory anger mangement counsling for 6 months. I hope he doesn
t kill me before he goes. I do have a safety plan but i am still scared. |
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#10
Jun 14, 2005, 10:28 PM
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(((((nightowl))))))) No one is crazy but psychotics.... At least with your brother there he didn't become physically violent, that's a good thing.
I'm so sorry you are afraid. I had recent contact with my ex and his response was SO angry (after 12 years!) that I changed all my locks on the doors to deadbolt double keyed! It's the ptsd I guess... anyone who threatens me is immediately on the scarey list. You have reason to be concerned. Has he ever been physically violent at you? (I'm sorry, brain damage, ya know? Can't remember stuff CRS) All you have to do is see him near and call the police, right? Remember, ppl who abuse use intimidation and fear (like terrorists) to work while they aren't around. You are safe right now. This isn't happening right now. Ok? Not right this minute, right? TC
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Jun 15, 2005, 09:42 AM
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((((((((((((((((((((((((((((nightowl))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. We're here if you need to talk more about it. Don't feel like you are stupid, it's only your fear of your husband that is making you feel this way. I think you are very brave, strong and smart for the way you are handling this. ((((((((((((((((((((((((big hug)))))))))))))))))))))))))))
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#12
Jun 15, 2005, 03:56 PM
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Night I privite messagged you with some ionformation. Please use it. I live around you so I offered it to you.
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#13
Jun 17, 2005, 07:27 PM
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My husband has the boys this weekend for visitation. This is the first time I have ever been away from them. I am having a very difficult time.i have no money. I have no friend. My family is all out of town. My oldest boy is mad at me for kicking his father out of the house. I feel so bad.
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#14
Jun 17, 2005, 07:47 PM
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Night I have sent you 2 pm's As I said if you want my number I will give it to you. I am a friend that has been in your situation.
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