[FearsomeAnna]

My parents gave me the most wonderful book for Christmas....it's real life wisdom from actual real people. The book is called "Normal Is Just A Setting On The Dryer". I know I have been many things in my life - normal ain't one of them! I think my life would be terribly boring if I were. Wouldn't change a bit of my eccentricity!

some of it's magic
some of it's tragic
but i had a good life all the way......
~jimmy buffett

[SeptemberMorn]

You know... I've just re-read my initial post and the only thing I could see that may be misconstrued is my mention of a shot gun that I don't even have. Even that little tid bit was finished off my me mentioning that I probably couldn't even aim the thing and that I'm too smart to do anything like that. That should have put that issue to rest. The rest of the post was simply information giving.

From there on out, it turned into laughter and silly Smilies! The energy I would have used to scream, call names and if I was strong enough to use any physical force was expended with the laughing. What better way to defuse the anger? I can't think of anything.

The studies that you mention that claim venting is not a proper way to deal with anger are very new. This world is full of nut cases that think to show any kind of emotion is wrong. Hey, you know what? Even Jesus felt rage! He got physical with the money lenders in the temple. I don't have the physical strength to overturn anyone's tables. LOL Not that I would even try! I learned that lesson many, many years ago. It wouldn't work to begin with!

Anna can now go to work and look at the people that have been angering her and probably laugh to herself as she remembers what we've been posting here. Much, much better than losing her profesional demeanor, don't you think?

So, yeah... I'm convinced that what the other girls and I have done here is quite appropriate. Think about it. You just might find that there is some room for improvement in how you view things, eh?


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[SeptemberMorn]

Even the "normal" setting on a dryer is questionable. LOL "Normal" what? Normal woolens, normal cotton, normal silk? LOLOL

Who's the author of the book, Anna? Sounds like it could have been Ermma Bonbeck. I think I'd like to read it. Talk about someone who knew how to turn lemons into lemonaide!



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[SeptemberMorn]

Heather, you know there are days that my day wouldn't even get started if you and I didn't have our laughing sessions. LOL Isn't laughter considered some form of exercise?? I know it gets my endorphins going and changes my outlook of the day completely. I love to laugh and you sure do make me do that! I also love making you and Wendy spit your tea out all over the computer! HAHAHAHA Nah... I was going to type "sorry" but I'm not! LOL

Ya know... ? We're all eccentric in one way or the other, just like somewhere, someone might find a bit of normalcy in us, but that's what makes us unique. I have some eccentricities I wouldn't change for all the tea in China and I wouldn't change your "funny bone" for anything, either!


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[heatherm]

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LOL I had to clean up my keyboard the other night too

I feel the same way too hun....gosh my day is always brighter when we laugh together. How many bathroom breaks have we had now??? heeehee and since we moved i have to run up 2 flights of stairs ....mental note to ask Mike to build me a bathroom here in the rec room.



Heather

[(JD)]

When did I tell you what you can and cannot do?

When did I say you didn't have a right to your opinion?

Wen is your triggering me by posting violence not a valid complaint?

And if you don't post it as a violence trigger, and tell someone not to read it, is rather like telling someone to turn 2 miles before they come to a bridge. How's that supposed to work?

I'm not psychic and I'm also not the only person here who shies away from violence.

...I can misspeak like the best of us

[SeptemberMorn]

SkyBdark, you just have to be responsible for your own feelings at some point. No one here is a mind reader to know whether there just might be someone else on the board that will react negatively to something they say. If everyone that posts has to think just how many other people they could trigger, then what's the point of having this forum?? We have to take responsibility for own person at some point.

My post very clearly stated that is was going to be about anger. If you have a problem with anger, why did you even bother to read it? Seems you should have known to stay away from it.

It's still my opinion that if you read something that upsets you, other than someone swearing at you or accusing you falsely, then don't read that particular thread! It's as easy as that. Yet, you keep coming back. Why?

This is the last I'm going to say about it. I've made my point and you've made yours. Neither one of us is going to change our minds.

If you still think that I am so much in the wrong, then by all means, please take it up with one or all of the moderators... or even Doc John.




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[ariel]

True, I know I have trouble with reading others past traumas as it triggers mine, so I steer clear.

-Ariel

Whatever you can do,
Or dream you can, begin it.
Boldness has genius, power, and magic, in it.
-Goethe

[SeptemberMorn]

{{{{{{{{{{{{Ariel}}}}}}}}}}}}}} For that purpose is why I don't go into the PTSD forum or Abuse, either. I've done it on another board and it just didn't work for me.


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[yokus]

When did we graduate from frying pan to bats? Now the bat is my thing definitely. One of my favorite daydreams on occasion. I used to really be able to swing one of those. I keep one in the closet just in case I need it.

When I was in the hospital a few years back they had a program for women that were sexually abused. It was very intense. They had a safe room where you could go if you were feeling anger. It had padded walls and a dummie hanging there that you could beat with a special bat. Talking about all of our issues tended to bring a lot of anger up. The doctors there must have thought it was "healthy" to safely release that anger and it was very cathartic.

September Morn, I can't figure out how to get the smileys on here. PS:
You go girl.

[Fuzzybear]

Hi yokus! To get a smile, you type [ smile ] without the gaps

and [ wink ]

[ crazy ]

[ mad ]

The rest are in the FAQ! (top right corner of your screen)

Fuzzy xx

[SeptemberMorn]

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Strange place for you to surface, Lady! LOL Good to see you!


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[SeptemberMorn]

Yokus my therapist recommended I get two pillows and hit one with the other whenever some past issue came up and I felt I needed to get the rage out. I have past abuse issues, too. I won't even go into what she had me imagine doing to my perp during one of my sessions with her!!! Hey! It worked! I'm not haunted by those memories anymore.!


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[sparkle]

Yokus can i ask a question please.. I was reading through the posts on here and I read what you wrote.. 'When I was in the hospital a few years back they had a program for women that were sexually abused.' Does that mean that (ok this seems a stupid nieve question). Do they put people in hospital who have been sexually abused? I mean ok I understand that any type of abuse can lead to people being instable (by that I don't mean anything nasty, please understand) but surely with the right meds they can be helped. It seems so cruel that they are being locked away in hospital for reacting to something that completely wasn't there fault.

[Fuzzybear]

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[FearsomeAnna]

Sparkle,

We don't lock up sexual abuse victims for jollies or to punish them for something they did wrong (because they didn't do a damn thing wrong). I think what Yokus was saying was that in the hospital there was a therapy program for women with a history of past or present sexual abuse. People can be hospitalized for a host of different mental issues - certainly sexual abuse is a traumatic part of some patients' history that they should deal with in a safe place - which a hospital is.

Did that answer your question or did I totally miss the point? LOL - sometimes I am totally off base.

some of it's magic
some of it's tragic
but i had a good life all the way......
~jimmy buffett

[sparkle]

Yes thankyou Fearsomeanna you made a valid point about it being a safe place for them. You weren't off the mark totally!

x x x sparkle

[(JD)]

There is a difference between anger and violence.

Acting out anger can result in violence.

Christ didn't attack any people physically.

The posts are in the general forum, under anger, not under violence.

The research cited was studied in University in the early 70s, so it isn't new data, though it continues to be supported.

A good release of anger is preferable to violence.

Personally attacking someone who posts isn't usually considered acceptable behavior. And if you do, and are called on it, it is only considerate to respond to the questions.

IF a violence forum is created, I will not view it because of possible triggering. But I am angry like the rest of the group. Maybe I am farther along in my therapy in this aspect, but I don't wish to think that. Maybe I have just seen what violence does to ppl - senders and receivers - and recognize it more readily, and realize it isn't worth it?

...I can misspeak like the best of us

[SeptemberMorn]

Not off base at all, Anna. Psychiatric hospitals can be a haven, contrary to popular belief. I've said it several times before and I'll say it again; my experience at a behavioral health hospital was a very positive one, beginning with the "inmates."

Sparkle, some of us were there against our will and some of us, like me, were there voluntarily. The ones that were suicidal were the ones that were in actual "lock-down" or "intensive care" for their own protection, but then, they hold these people for no more than three days if they show improvement, unless the person decides they want to stay longer.


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[sparkle]

thankyou SeptemberMorn the thought never occured to me of people needing to be there if they are suicidal (I'm an oaf sometimes). Its just that i used to work in a community hospital as a receptionist in an xray dept. It was a usuall helthcare hospital, but it did have 2 wards for psychiatric patients, and occasionaly I had to collect xrays or forms from them and sometimes it wasnt a plesent experience, I was younger at the time and it was my first real job. Now I'm just a freelance writer aka unemployed lmao hahaha. Anyhow thanks for replying!

x x x sparkle

[yokus]

Hi Sparkle. Sorry it took so long for me to reply. I was raped a few years ago and pretty much fell apart. I went into this program in the hospital voluntarily. They only put you in a mental health unit if you are suicidal, a danger to someone else, or you go voluntarily.

I don't mean to give the impression that I am an angry person. But when we were there it got pretty intense and it was considered appropriate to go to "the room" if you ever needed to. Very rarely do I express any anger now. I would say I'm more of a passive person. I do believe that there are healthy ways to express your anger though. As long as you are not abusing someone else. I still have some triggers lurking about and imagine I always will. Ordinarily I deal with those and then put them away. But I have been known to spout off once in a while when I shouldn't.

The mental health unit in the hospitals that I have been a patient in are a very safe place to be. They have support groups to deal with problems, people you can talk to one-on-one, and your psychiatrist can keep an eye out for side effects of whatever meds he has you on. So, I hope that I answered your question. Yokus

[yokus]

Thanks Fuzzy. But I've been trying to figure out how to get smileycentral.com on here. I love some of those. (((((((((Fuzzybear))))))))))

[yokus]

Hi. Sorry it took so long to reply, busy weekend. I must be doing something wrong cause I can't get the smileycentral.com on here. But thanks for the help.

Are you talking about your "backpay" from SS? I got mine within a month after they approved me. The judge approved me right away. They just must wanted me to suffer a while first I guess. ha ha Anyway, I hope that your son can get them moving. At least he can help with handling the aggravation. There is a LOT of that. Hope all goes well.
Yokus

[sparkle]

Thanks yokus for your reply. I didn't get the impression that you were angry in anyway.. I just was a little confused. But its all clear now ty.

x x x sparkle

[SeptemberMorn]

I'm positive they (SSI) has flagged my file from the very beginning to delay and annoy me in every way possible!! Throwing in a whole lot of incompetense is also part of it. @#%^ !! For all I know, they don't have enough money in their coffers to pay me off! LOL They thought they could frustrate me enough in three years for me to throw my hands up and say "forget it!!" Like I said, they picked the wrong woman to do that to!!

Thanks for your best wishes. I can use all I can get!


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