Building a Whole New Life

So I met with my dept Director yesterday for a half hour.

He said he will think about my proposal for a reporting structure change.

He listened and was attentive and seemingly sympathetic.

However, at one point he did ask if I thought perhaps some of the tension I feel with other cross functional teams is self-inflicted. That came straight from my annual review, from a colleague's review of me, and from my boss's mouth.

So, ultimately, they are blaming ME for my boss's inability to head up this function within the company, alongside me.

So the blame game continues.... people in my company sure like to place blame and pass the buck.

I applied for another job yesterday.

I think that's better than making you go through the interview while they've already selected someone else. That's been done before.

Have Hope.......HAVE HOPE ! I keep forgetting how many times I've made it through some VERY difficult situations. I I'd with you greatly. I was just simply told that if I want to change something, we'll..., I have to change something !
I know it's not easy but I need love in my life. There are good people out there , just have to put myself in the " path of probabilities ".
I could go on but I just want to say to you , as a fellow human who understands your pain , just think of the best way to change your situation , even if it's just baby steps in the beginning.

True, and great point!

Hi there, thanks so much for your encouragement! Much appreciated.

As for love, I cannot yet really put myself out there for love. I don't like most people and think most people suck. I am in no mood or position to start weeding through all the frogs to find my diamond. I want my diamond to find me somehow, organically.

As for changing things that are wrong in my life, I am working on changing my job situation at the moment, and for me, that's enough. One big issue at a time, and this is the biggest, most problematic issue on my plate at the moment. So, I am working on it.

I have faith in God and in prayer that a lifelong partner will come along in my life. I am holding onto faith, hope, and prayers.

I saw Mr fun guy Friday night and went over his house. We were having a great time, then suddenly somehow things changed and before I knew it, I had become angry at him for weird stuff he was saying to me. It was late so I crashed in his bed for a bit then drove home at 6 am. I was upset and left him feeling very disappointed. There’s also another woman in the picture so I have competition. I’m backing off. I will not reach out to him. Thing is, I’m going to a music festival in a few weeks and he will be there.. but I hope not with another woman. I had asked him on a date but he didn’t follow up. Now I know why. He was busy talking to her. He had even said yes to me about a date but kept putting me off. I felt hurt.

I’m not dating but this is a guy I’ve liked for a while. We’ve only been casual but I wanted to hangout more.

Looks like nothing is happening now. And I’m definitely not reaching out to him.

Thing is., I am not sure if I am responsible for things going downhill Friday night with mr fun guy, or if he is. I think he is, but now the details are fuzzier.

I've been obsessing over it ever since, feeling bad about it, and uncertain. I wish I knew.

And I am on edge not knowing what my Director will decide about me changing bosses. I applied for another job last week, and haven't found another. I've been approached by recruiters for roles that I have turned down. In the meantime, my morale is pretty low and my productivity at work, even lower. This cannot go on like this. It must be resolved.

Hang in there!