[90mphINneutral]

I just bought this book the other day and started reading it. I'm only on chapter one but so far think it's a good book about BPD. I've been suffereing from it for years along with other personality disorders and thought if I could do some more reading it would help me better to understand what I'm dealing with.

Have any of you read I hate you-Don't leave me? Just contribute anything, if you liked it, if you didn't?? Anything.

Thanks-
Catherine

[Rhapsody]

I have not read this book personally.... but I do believe that ones HEALING process goes faster and comes along better, if they understand the problem and its effects on them and their life.... in my book: KNOWLEDGE is POWER.

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Read on!

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

I havent read it, but let me tell you it sounds just like me.

[complic8d]

I just finished reading it. It was a good decription of BPD, some parts I thought were written just about me! It was a little hard for me to concentrate on (which is a problem I've been having) and I could tell that is was written a while ago (the 90's is the future). I think some things have changed, but it is a good book about BPD, so keep reading!
I personally liked "Lost in the Mirror" better, and it was easier to read for me. Another good book is "get me out of here" by Rachel Reiland. It's more of a novel, but paints a very accurate picture of BPD, and she does end up better! Happy endings are always good.

[Rapunzel]

I think it's a good book, with a great title. It's rather dated, and there are more current books that I've gotten more out of, but it's worth reading. My sister (the psychiatrist) recommended it when she was pretty sure that I was borderline, and I was still insisting that I wasn't. A lot of it sounded kind-of like me though.

Rap

[shellie0126]

I read it in 1995 when I first got diagnosed with BPD (but refused to believe it.) I read the book, got pissed off as I did realize I had the disorder, but was in denial. It's good, but as others said, it's outdated.

I thought Lost in the Mirror was about narcissism? Is it not?

[brianm101]

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I haven't read this yet but I have added it to the 'to read' list.
Thanks 90mphINneutral.....

[jbug]

Wow I must be the only one that didn't like it. I thought it was too clinical and didn't like it. At the time it was mandatory reading for any one that had been diagnosed by the clinic I go to. I like Angry Heart better its more of a workbook as to how to change the BPD characteristics. I only got about half way through it because it triggered a lot of stuff for me and I ended up sliding backwards so my T told me to lay off of it for awhile. I plan on finishing it but right now I can't.

Jbug

[unicorn1813]

I read the book; it is excellent; answered so many questions. This BPD has taken it's toll on my life. Have been in/out of psych wards. All my relationships have been "Fatal Attractions." I live alone to control the beast. It has gotten old. Had shock treatments the last go round. Just broke up with another guy recently. I have managed to live independently, Thank God and able to support myself. Dealing with healing and going under hypnosis next week to deal with past traumas.

It has gotten old. Time to enjoy my life!

Have faith - don't give up.

[sniffles]

I'm reading this book and like it. I first bought it when I was diagnosed, as I had no clue what bpd was. I think it paints a good description of it and pisses me off a little bit because it says everything i am, which i dont wanna admit.

[toonkate]

i have this book too, but have been too much of a mess lately to be able to concentrate on readin, will have to get it read soon, ive heard so many good reviews of it

[(JD)]

(((90))) I'm glad you are trying so hard to improve and feel better. Take what you can from each book, and make your own book of YOU! TC ((hugs))

[kimmydawn]

Excellent book describing difficulties in a way that's understandable.

kd

[crackednfragile]

I am reading the book, at the moment. It is a good book to read on BPD, but I have to admit it is so hard for me to do so. I feel pain and embarrassment.

[caprice]

I have borderline personality disorder, and this book helped me realize many things about my condition. It was the first I ever bought on it and I was happy when the information I recieved.

It took around 3 years, but I finally recovered borderline this month. =D I'm glad this book was there to give me the facts and I discussed it with councilers and friends who supported me and helped me very very much. ^o^

I recommend it to anyone who is confused on the matter. But you should also include online research or try to get more facts from your doctor. It doesn't include everything that it should, but it's still packed with a lot.

I hope it helps you if you have bpd. <3

i have read it. i found parts of it to be quite good, and parts of it to be not quite so good (as i find most books lol).

there were some good insights about some things, and it can help one to feel less alone and a bit more understood (in reading about the case studies, for example).

on the downside i did find the book to be a little judgemental in places (which is my main criticism of most of the bpd literature). i think that it can be positively harmful to take some of those negative judgements on board.

i would say that with that book (and indeed with all books) take what helps and leave what harms.

the book is outdated now in the sense of its treatment reccomendations. the author is an advocate for psychodynamic modes of psychotherapy and he talks about likely treatment outcomes of modes of therapy that aren't practiced so much any more... in short, there is a lot more hope for a recovery far swifter than he could conceive of...

but i enjoyed it and think it is well worth a read yeah.