I Hate You, Don't Leave Me

I was diagnosed with BPD in December, and my Psychi recommended this book. I was hesitant because it sounds so corny, but it really helped me! I felt like 3/4 of the book was written about me. Bonus, it also helped my husband learn how to deal with me, i.e. the SET model. Did anyone else find it helpful?

Haven't gotten to this one yet.

Another good one I liked was "stop walking on eggshells", which is meant for supporters of those with BPD, but it's still a good read.

Good book!!

And if you liked it, you might enjoy reading "Get Me Out of Here!" by Rachel Reiland, all about her recovery from BPD. It's a great book, she's funny, and following her journey is a treat. ... I don't normally like to read about other people's journeys, but this was different. It really shows how the symptoms affect a person's life, what therapy is like, what feeling better is like. I really recommend it!

Both books helped me take a better look at myself and then I worked up the courage to ask my therapist if she thought that Borderline described me. She did and had for some time. I don't much like labels, but then again it gives a person some explanation for feelings and behaviors.

I've read it... it was good, a little outdated I mean it talks about the DSM III which yeaaah anyway it was a good read though.

Just tonight I finished "get me out of here" by Rachel Reiland about her recovery from Borderline. Very good book.

In the back there are resources and one listed is described as :..a gentle book for people who have just learned they may have BPD". It title is "Lost in the Mirror: An Inside Look at Borderline Personality Disorder" by Richard Moskovitz.

So I wanted to share that information about that book with you. I haven't read it yet but would like to.

Echoes I just finished her book too. I cried my eyes out when her therapy ended. Interesting that she has had no face to face contact since then.

I still can't imagine never seeing my T ever again. I'll look into this book

almeda, I cried to at the ending of "get me out of here" too!!
He was such a wonderful T and their relationship was awesome too.

I'm just getting near the 1 year mark with my T and I can't bear to think about the end either. Heck, I still want to Super Glue us together!

I can sooooo relate to just the title ........ I hate you, dont leave me. I am scared to read the book unless its a let down lol.

Well as my T said last session "why does it have to end"...not sure if that was a knee jerk reaction to my meltdown but I did like hearing it.

oooohhh... I love that he said that to you!

At the slow rate I'm go I'll have to terminate because either me or T will become senile.

I have been diagnosed with bpd for over 11 years. I have read dozens of books on bpd. I liked this book when i first diagnosed. I always wondered if therewere any people like me out there. When I was in the state hospital in NC I had one group that was just borderlines and it was the first time there were people I could relate to. When you get diagnosed it is nice to read about others' experiences in struggling with bpd. Over the last 2 or 3 yrs I have researched every aspect of bpd. I ran across the book, Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified, by Robert O. Friedel, MD. I found out a lot concerning bpd that my therapist didn't know and my psychiatrist never told me. It goes into every aspect of bpd you could think of. I hope this helps. I'll keep an eye out for others I have read.

I haven't read any books yet on bpd, (only stuff online) But thank you for all the suggestions, now i have so many to chose from i don't know where to start lol. My psychiatrist just recommended, Skills Training Manual for treating Borderline Personality Disorder, by Marsha M. Linehan. She said this would be good for me because there are no DBT therapists in my area. I think I will get the book my psychiatrist recomended and also Stop Walking on Eggshells for my husband, hopefully he will read it. LOL

I read part of this book a couple years ago. I hadn't ever heard of Borderline until someone on the internet suggested that I might have it. I had been posting some crazy stuff on a parenting message board.

I don't have time right now to really read it again, but I do rememer it being a good book. Helped me realize what's really wrong with me (I think...never been officially diagnosed yet).

If you like "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me," you might try the newer book by the same authors, "Sometimes I Act Crazy." It has more updated information, and I think it goes in depth more. I like both books.

I have BPD and gave "Sometimes..." to my husband to help explain things to him. I skip the patient stories because they're a little overdramatic.

I just dug this book out of my box of old books that was buried in the far corner of our spare bedroom (we recently moved).

I was just flippig back thru it, and I ended up reading the story about Elizabeth, chapter 5 - page 83.

The first few pages of her story are exactly like my life. EXACTLY. Up until the abuse part....which never happened to me. But the rest is shockingly familiar to my own life.

I'm almost in tears now. Two years ago someone on another message board (babycenter) told me about Borderline. I had never even heard of it, but the first moment I read about it, I just KNEW that was it.

But then...why did it take me this long to finally accept that this is waht I have, I can't fix it on my own, and somewhere out there I NEED TO FIND a psych who can help me.

> I NEED TO FIND a psych who can help me.

I don't know anything about these people; maybe I will check it out for myself:

http://www.tara4bpd.org/dyn/index.ph...ask=view&id=12

They look pretty good, pachyderm. Interesting that they've been around since 1994 though and we've never heard of them? They compare themselves to NAMI but doesn't look like they're getting the word out as well?

Razzleberry, I replied to your post in Psychotherapy on finding a good therapist.

HI,
I read the book, "I Hate You, Dont Leave Me" and found the book outdated as well. I also read Rachel Reiland's book and didn't care for it. I have read Borderline DeMystified ( by Freedman) and thought it was a good book. I've also read New Hope for Borderline Personality Disorder and thought it was a good resource. I read a few other books as well. For depression, I thought 2 books were good written by a pyschiatrist who also experienced severe depression, Richard O'Connor. Active Treatment for Depression and Undoing Depression. If you are interested in other books for BPD, send me a PM.