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#51
Jun 30, 2009, 11:43 PM
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Dialouge between me and my T:
T: so how've you been? Me (acting all bright and cheery): ****ing wonderful, and you? T: umm... Me: about the same right? I do want to get around to saying the F bomb sometime, but I'm wondering where to fit it in? Heck yes...I feel darn proud of myself! (hehe)
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Jun 30, 2009, 11:46 PM
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 Now that's ****ing Funny
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Jun 30, 2009, 11:49 PM
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Jul 01, 2009, 12:01 AM
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Jul 01, 2009, 12:03 AM
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Jul 01, 2009, 12:09 AM
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Jul 01, 2009, 04:08 AM
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I confess that I haven't read all of the replies here, but I just wanted to say that when I read the post title, it was about some kind of ceremony where T solemnly commits to our therapy
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Jul 01, 2009, 05:53 AM
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Jul 01, 2009, 09:04 AM
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I would actually have to look at my T during the session to know if she is mirroring. I still hide and look away a LOT.
Great...now I will be thinking about the F bomb during my session thursday LOLOLOL.
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Jul 01, 2009, 12:36 PM
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I'd get annoyed with mirroring. I haven't noticed it yet with any of my former therapists or the current one. As for swearing in therapy (I solemnly vow to swear whenever possible) I do it unconsciously. I didn't grow up being able to cuss, and yes there are other words I could use, but it's a pause for me, the way some people use "um" or "like". Sometimes it has no emotion at all behind it. Seriously, "The **** did you do yesterday?" Reply "Dunno, nuthin' special." "****...whadder we gonna do today?" "Store's got some *****ing new movies." "****, I don't wanna see another movie. This town's so ****ing boring." "Let's get blitzed." "****, that's what we do every night. Don't wanna be ****ed up tomorrow morning."
Or something like that. Hahaha.
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Jul 01, 2009, 12:39 PM
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Actually, I'd say, "I don't wanna get **** faced unless it's my birthday." :P
And Amazon, I almost never make eye contact with any of my therapists. I have to force myself to look their way and into their eyes. Looking into peoples' eyes has always been uncomfortable for me since I was a small child. Stupid ******* adults would be screaming at me demanding that I look them in the eye and it would make me cry even more.
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Jul 01, 2009, 12:44 PM
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I feel like I am going to puke when I have to look at her. I can't remember anyone forcing me to look at them, but something must have taught me that eye contact is threatening to me. Unless I am hypomanic, then I get much more expansive and intrusive. I look directly into her eyes the whole time!
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Jul 01, 2009, 12:50 PM
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Yeah, know exactly what you mean. I'm not sure why all adults felt it was their duty to make me look them in the eye while they berated me, like I wasn't completely aware and able to hear them. For me, eye contact is somehow associated with shaming. I feel threatened too by eye contact, esp w/authorities. But, sometimes I can do it for extended periods if the other person isn't uncomfortable with it. I learned to overcome the pain it caused me during an on camera acting class where we had to maintain eye contact with the actor opposite us for the entire scene and react off them. However, when I'm extremely depressed, it still is very hard to do for more than a second or two.
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Jul 01, 2009, 01:02 PM
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Oh no she don't - Your THERAPIST, all Therapist are NOT allowed to TELL you What to do.... they may suggest things you might want to work on. The eye contact thing - She is working on a self-esteem issue for you - she thinks - But truth - Other issues need to be attended to enable to reach the point of being able to do that - Other wise it will be a forced, fake behavior. Sometimes Eye Contact (in the world) can even cause a problem - like some jerk off trying to get your attention. She calls you on things - She needs to be called on it as well. OH THIS UPSETS ME TO THE MAX!  To you  to her!
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Jul 01, 2009, 05:36 PM
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ugh, eye contact. i had a my old-T (the ***) ask me to make eye contact with him more often. it wasn't a demand, but like you can say 'no' to that.
it was the most uncomfortable moment for me in therapy, ever. i seriously hunched up into a tiny ball on my chair and stared at the ground and broke out into a sweat. after what seemed like a decade of silence, he finally goes "you don't have to if you don't want to", and that seemed to make it better. but i seriously hated him for even asking for it to begin with.  of course, all the sessions that followed - he would stare at me so that whenever i did manage to look up to him we made eye contact (usually i wait until the therapist has looked away and i kind of 'steal' these little glances so i can monitor them, but with old-T whenever i tried to steal one he would be staring right back at me so we always made eye contact and it sucked). eye contact is really triggering for me too, i guess (no *****, deli!!  ).
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Jul 01, 2009, 05:44 PM
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^ i said ****, so why are 5 stars coming up in my last post?!
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Jul 01, 2009, 05:48 PM
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so today in T, we were talking about my boss who I hate with every fiber of my being...i told T i have never hated someone so much in my ENTIRE LIFE...this person just gets under my skin. Anyways, she asked me what thoughts I have of her and I was reluctant to say anything so I tried to edit my way around it. I was silent for a little while and she said how bad could it possibly be, you can say x,y,z you can use four letter words
 . I said "i can???? I have had a couple of times where they have been at the tip of my tongue and I edited it before it came out my mouth because I didn't want to offend you". She looked shocked--im thinking maybe this lady uses four letter words on a daily basis . Needless to say, I didn't drop any today, but at least now I know for future references that it's okay to drop the F-bomb every now and then
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Jul 01, 2009, 06:27 PM
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I don't think she realizes how much it hurts for me to actually look at her when I talk about T stuff. The only time I look at her is to glance at the clock by her head. Unless I am calling upon the false bravado of hypomania...then I am the self confident, "don't give a damn because I'm great" person I wish I could be. Wish I could be hypomanic all the time.
Ohoh, this means I have to tell my T "no" again. She didn't take "no" so great last week. I have an appointment tomorrow, maybe I can say NO to antipsychotics again!!!! AND I can say NO to eye contact!!!! Maybe I can drop an F bomb and say F NO!!!! Quote:
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Jul 01, 2009, 06:42 PM
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Good luck tomorrow!I don't have a problem making eye contact with my T until we start talking about something where I feel really vulnerable, and then I look anywhere but at T. She never says anything, but wow does she ever pick up on everything, so I'm sure she's mentally taking notes and filing them away. Last week, I was very near tears about something, looking down as I talked about it - when I got the courage to look up at her, she had the most sympathetic expression on her face... it almost made me burst into tears, just that look! But it also warmed my heart.
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Jul 01, 2009, 07:10 PM
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I said the "sh" word in therapy today and I think after I said it I turned about 5 shades of red. I felt like I was a lttle kid and was going to get in trouble for cussing. Then my T cussed a little bit later and ebven though it sounded funny and I wanted to laugh it sure made me feel better.
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Jul 01, 2009, 09:34 PM
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Jul 02, 2009, 06:51 AM
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I've heard my T curse in group therapy, basically just restating what someone else said. It took be back a bit....
When I found my anger towards my parents (which I have since suppressed and need to find again), I found myself saying the F word once and the sh word a couple times....And it didn't phase him. I also restated something my sister said to me that used the ******...and he repeated it. So, I'm assuming my T is ok with cursing....but I don't like to make a habit of it.
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Jul 02, 2009, 07:39 AM
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i dropped the f-bomb in therapy today, on a fair few occassions, i'm ashamed to say. but i'm like that - kind of swear instead of using my brains for an appropriate adjective.
but i kind of smiled to myself remembering this thread when i did it, and i think it's the first time i'd sworn with Austin-T, and he saw me smiling and he started smiling too and then... we kind of lost track of where we were, and had to pause and regroup.
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Jul 02, 2009, 08:06 AM
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I use the phrase "what the ****"?!? all of the time in T. It is my go to phrase for outrage, anger, frustration- you name it. I've honestly never thought much about swearing in T, I just do it. My everyday life is quite tame- an f bomb every now and again can be quite a release.
My T, I am sure, doesn't swear much. She has a few times in T but it is usually in echo to my WTF!?!. Yesterday, however she initiated a swearing...I was explaining my feelings and suddenly was at a loss for words. I said "Its like..." She said "WTF?!?" I looked at her and I said "Exactly!" I thought it was really cute. Last edited by Christina86; Jul 03, 2009 at 10:42 AM. |
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Jul 02, 2009, 07:48 PM
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I dropped the F-bomb so many times in therapy today, I couldn't count them. Of course i was talking about family issues, so for me it's appropriate. I said, "I'm bipolar, but even I know that's ****ed up." That's just one example when talking about a certain person's behavior (an ex of my SO). My therapist just smiles understandingly because he knows I don't mean the words maliciously or even in anger most of the time, I just use them for seasoning, like cayenne pepper in a stew.
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