What does a T who doesn't care look like?

I am just curious......Why are you on a psychotherapy support site if you have no interest in doing such a thing?

Well may I ask what kind are you?

Sure, there are many kinds of psychologists, contrary to popular opinion. I am a social psychologist. We research the dynamics of what happens when people interact, such as love, aggression, group behavior, helping behavior, etc. I spent 20 years teaching psychology at various colleges and universities before I developed Bipolar II and ultimately had to go on disability. I do have some friends who are therapists and went to grad school with future clinical psychologists, so I have been able to sort of see life from both sides.

Ok thanks. On another spin if I pm you would you be able to tell me where deep seaded jealousy comes from? I have tried to research it and have found absolutely zilch.

Payne, how interesting!

Just because I don't share the majority opinion here does not mean I don't need an emotional support.

I stated that I am flirting with the thought of finding a t... but I don't want to waste my money I don't really have on something that will create even more distress in my life... so I want to know other people experiences before I invest in my own.

rubbish, your on a break from uni and bored...

Thinking of beginning therapy can sound frightening on different levels. We all (therapy patients and others) spend our money where we choose, on things that are important to us.

Unfortunately, there is no way to predict what your therapist will be like or what your therapy will be like, because it is a unique and individual experience. It wouldn't be a good idea to make a decision from only from reading here, where folks are more likely to post when distressed, so I hope you are looking elsewhere too. A site that helped me decide what kind of therapy and what kind of therapist I wanted was this one: www.guidetopsychology.com.

Learning about yourself is something we do our entire lives, if we are interested in doing that. What we learn and take from therapy makes our lives feel so much better. Some go to get through a particular time or issue, others take it on as part of lifelong learning, or come and go when needed and desired.

I hope you find what you need to help you with your decision.

What the hell?

I am looking elsewhere too... ... but of course I am interested in responses of people experiencing it first hand.

((((((((((((((( venushalley ))))))))))))))))

sometimes i wish my therapist didnt go above and beyond because it may of helped influenced a lot of assumptions i made that were untrue. like, my therapist use to go over time with me quite frequently, and towards the end, she just stopped completley..now i have to sit and wonder ...well why did that change? and she charges me a very cheap amount...so i wonder if she will ever look at me and say, you need to pay me more...its all nice and i am thankful but, strict guidelines do provide a sense of security and more expectation, because you get the same thing every time you go. whereas, "caring" "above and beyond" can leave gray areas. thats just me though. feel free to disagree.

Venus- I think that is reading a little too much into that question. I never once stated or implied that you didn't need support! This is a psychotherapy support site and that is why I used the word support.

I have no problem with you sharing the majority of opinion here or not, I simply wondered why you chose to hash this out if you were not interested in psychotherapy which is what your post referred to. I have not seen your other post about flirting with the idea. I went on the information solely available within the thread that I was commenting on.

If you are wondering if therapy will create more distress in your life let me tell you that it definately will bring up unwanted feelings and frusterations. Also you are right, it is indeed very expensive. A person must take personal inventory on which is the bigger risk; living your life as you are vs diving into a relationship that is more complex than any other you will ever experience.

And that is the thing. I don't even want a love relationship because of my school and working on my future... so I have the riddiculous feeling... "how will I be able to write a paper on geopolitics when I will have to deal with my childhood traumas and wondering if my therapist likes me at the same time?", "should I dig into the "money for appartment" account?". I am not putting my future on hold, I am still trying to use some of the concepts for self-growth...

But I am unsure. And latelly I am questioning everything more and more... but I doubt a therapists would help me with my situation, or at least some of the aspects... on the other hand... what do I know?

Venus, generally people go into therapy when they feel that their lives are so miserable/ distressing that they need help. In other words, they do need to feel motivated. That's why court-ordered therapy is often not effective. Are you functioning sufficently well enough that you don't feel like you want to try therapy? I gather something IS bothering you or you wouldn't be asking.

Please don't let this discussion scare you about therapy. I have found it to be a very rewarding experience--a life-changing experience--and I am so thankful that I finally did go into it. In general, therapists set goals with patients and the client can decide how "heavily" to get into it at a given time. Therapy is work, however, so you do need to be willing to work with the therapist. Why, you could even begin with your concerns about therapy. If you don't feel like you are establishing a "therapeutic bond" with one, then you can try someone else. You might even be able to talk to the receptionist, if one is available, about what kind of therapist you are looking for, and go from there. You can deal with current issues that are distressing you or head into the past. Some of them are willing to work on a sliding scale for payment, if you don't have insurance.

Sometimes it's nice to still believe in Santa. Hope you find the right answer for yourself soon.

Venus it is hard to balance. You are right when you say you have a full plate right now. I think that it is very insightful that you are aware you will need to spend a certain amount of energy into your healing. I am not sure if there is ever a right time to start you know? The money would be well spent because you would be investing in yourself and making your life as full as possible. Could you start with a t by stating what you have said here so far? Best of luck. Please keep us posted on your journey with this.