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Thanks ((( OK)))) I need that everything today has been a huge mountain then I come here for *support* and .....

Big hugs to you Sleeps. I'm so sorry things are so rough.

WHOA! I didn't have a problem with your feelings. Goodness! I thought I had validated how you are feeling. I know this is tough for you. Perhaps what you missed in my post is that the subject line is triggering... even for me...and my T isn't going anywhere! I'm going to need to iggy the thread, if I can, because I can't handle the idea anymore...it's wearing on me.

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Only thing is its not his fault..

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I dont feel like he is my Threapist anymore..just some dude I adore

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I can go back but part of me wonders why ...

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still though my T has not always followed the rules...he has JUMPED over many boundary lines....I guess I will see this week maybe ..I am like going in a circle and can't seem to stop it. You would think he would email asking me something..anything...he has done so before..even just to chat on himself which is good with me ..I just feel way rejected and alone or something by him.

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I'm very sorry that you are going through this. Part of it does sound like his doing, crossing the boundaries, and that's why a T shouldn't do that... it hurts the patient so much.

Take care of yourself, sleeps. I'm sorry I upset you.

Hi sleeps, it rained most of today so that umbrella looks darned good. I am sending you something very special. It is called a Jane smother hug. My dearest friend used to hug me tightly and she was taller then I. (doesn't take much) So I would be smothered into her. It was a lovely comforting feeling. I can still remember the smell of her wool sweaters. This is the most precious thing I have to offer. I hope you can let it in. And sleeps, she always used to tell me that sleep helped a lot when the world was out of whack. Be well.

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Lots and lots of hugs - I'm sorry you are missing your T so much, and this is such a difficult and painful situation. Thinking of you

Hugs,
ErinBear

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((( EVERYONE))) THANKS I will say more tomorrow I am kinda needing to leave or be silly right now...all is ok

but I need to make it clear my T promised me this would never happen......he PROMISED ME .....

GOODNIGHT ALL

I am sorry Sleeps. I hate to see you go through this.

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I'm so sorry for you.

Your T was very wrong to make a promise that he could not keep.

Your T was wrong to cross the boundaries.

Your T has not behaved in an ethical and professional manner.

You are allowed to feel angry about this. BUT NOT AT YOURSELF!

When I felt angry towards someone who has done wrong to me. I have written down my true feelings and then burnt the letter straight after. It helps to put the feelings down and then burn it.

Hope this helps in some way.

Hugs.

Sky no problem I can understand and respect if someone needs to use Ignore..I don't but I DO skip say whole areas of PC ...I do not feel my T did anything unethical or that I am just

Awww thank you Wisewoman..I know how much Jane meant to you and she was such a kind soul..I sure could use a hug like that..ya know I dont think...thinking on it now...that I have been hugged in person in maybe years...well minus hugs for rent...I mean real sincere hugs

Well, there isn't any way I can find to ignore any one thread.

Sleeps I'm trying to help you through this...really. I only quoted some of the things YOU said about T, to let you know I only know what you are telling us, and plus to remind you that you did say he crossed the boundaries etc. Also, to show that you are "all over the place" with your feelings, an understandable result, imo.

How long has it been now, since you've had any contact with T, and what are the prospects of continuing therapy in some form or fashion with him or anyone?

((( erinbear, petunia ...Brian....OK ...))) thanks yeah I will move on and all but I have been ruined by this

((( Fuzzybear ...Timeo ))) thank you so much for being here for me it means a lot
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((((hugs))) For sure you have been greatly affected by this! But you still need help IRL...whether your T that made promises that you wouldn't be in this situation is the one who does that or not. Trust is the biggest issue when it come to therapy.

It hasn't ruined you, sleeps, you are not ruined. You are bruised from it... nothing that has happened has made you any less a person than you were. You are still worthy of all the good stuff you can find!

Thanks for understanding Pegasus I agree with you that he should not have promised and here I sound like I am waffleing but I am really not..I do not think he crossed what I call my boundaries or anything and I REALLY DO think he meant it when he promised but.........he didn't live up to that promise and I asked point blank..I am not a huge online detail person but I made it clear I didnt want to be dumped or I would start moving away....but he said and SWORE money would NEVER be an issue even if the clinic said no..he said he did not let others dictate how he did therapy...but ya know... he bailed on me a year later ...and that hurts ...and wounds

(( Sky )) Thanks I know you are but I won't see another T I WANT MY T.....and he cannot see me cause of cash ...the cash he said would NEVER get in the way and he didn't lie he really meant it but it was foolish of him to say what he did and I didnt post all that but ,,,,I can see him IF I have the money but I swear to God I don't I just don't....It has been I think 3 months since I seen him
I do feel and am profoundly ruined by this

I am still listening. I don't know how you get closure on this kind of thing. I would wish you to find another T that a charity could pay for.

Thanks Wisewoman but no way..I will not see another T for free or even if they paid me..I want MY t

Maybe you oughta just make an appointment. Then when the session is over REMIND him of the deal.

Along with your beautiful insect smile, hand him some Monopoly dollars and walk.

Ya almost made me PIMP ...ya know..he would lol at that monopoly money....
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Maybe you oughta just make an appointment. Then when the session is over REMIND him of the deal.

Along with your beautiful insect smile, hand him some Monopoly dollars and walk.

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Ok... then go see him. "Accidently forget" your checkbook. Remind him, or at least discuss this further! He should (ooo did I say "should?") at least help you with that!