Couch number 33!!!!!

Thanks Granite..That made me laugh so hard. Yes, you need a special license and he has it already. Its a CDL-A with Airbreak endorsements. That license gives him leeway to drive anything, other than a tractor trailer because you need schooling for that.

you are so going to have to let us know if you cave and ask him if he looked and or is going to look .i dont think i could keek my mouth shut. i went through this for 3 years with my ex and i know i could never do it . sending you so much strength.

Jersey, just print out the ads and give them to him. You don't have to say anything out loud.

maybe even just print it out and leave it on the table

Thanks MKAC-thats a good idea.

Granite, I will keep you guys posted. Thanks for letting me vent here. I really need the release. That helps tremendously. I'm gonna go clean..keep my body and mind busy. See you all later!

I didn't have cold dreams last night - I had an extra blanket - but I did have a noise dream. It was probably either the train or the hospital helicopter, but I was dreaming that the power had gone out and come back on and somehow triggered the alarm clock, but I was dreaming that my ambien had me too sleepy to get up and turn it off. No more yogurt before bed for me - my stomach was growling really funny! So effin strange. Dreams all night.

wow seemed like a night for strange bad dreams last night

Does everyone get skills and coping mechanisms in Therapy?

No, not directly. I think I have learned/taught myself some of those over the years as a result of therapy though.

I do if I ask for them, but I have had to ask. In the beginning I didn't realize that and I'd become so frustrated. I think there were probably times woo, when she'd give them to me and I didn't realize that she had.... I'm a little slow like that when I'm in a bad depression.

Nightlight- I've had dreams like that before. I had them so much that at some point I was able to tell myself it was and dream and all I have to do is relax and I can come out of it and sure enough- I could wake myself up instead of freeze.

Granite- Thanks. I'm planning on sticking around. I miss you and everyone here. Sometimes it's hard to know what to say lately, but I'm hoping on changing that around. I need people contact pretty bad.

Not specifically. He's always been big on self-care, so he questions me regularly on how I've taken care of my own needs.

He's a psychodynamic T more than anything and doesn't give me specific things to work on.

I'm beginning to think my just talks in circles , about the past and its so cryptic and down right confusing. I just want simple answers...ugh. I was better off without therapy.

Know what you mean. If you want specific things to work on, do ask---ask if he can tease out a couple of major themes---and if he can give you ideas on strategies that have helped others-----------or
I guess you could take his questions as direction and work on answering.
What Do You Do To Take Care of You? There are many paths---and it's okay to check out many on your journey...

My T definitely focused really heavily on coping skills and grounding tools when I first started. The focus was definitely on getting me the tools I needed to get out the suicidal depression I was in. We still have to go back over those things. Maybe you need someone more CBT oriented?

I need to take a college course on it and teach myself apparently. I think Wiki mentioned it once, about not dwelling on the past. I very much need to live more in the now. Thanks

I kept dreaming about my cat who died last year. I didn't think it affected me that profoundly, but I guess it did. We're coming up on the one year anniversary. Kind of berating myself in my head. It's a cat, for goodness sake. The one year anniversary of my dad's death just passed, as well as his birthday, and in a couple of weeks, it will be the one year anniversary of my father in law's death, and I am dreaming about my cat and agonizing in the dream over not being able to find her.

Maybe the cat is a symbol ?

i'm not at all great with dreams MKAC but maybe your cat represents all the loss that you have had in the last year. sounds like you are comming up on some miserable, hard days ahead. i know how close you were to both of them i hope you will be able to find some way to honor them and make thae days special and less painful for you

My T sent me to DBT group for those.

jersey did you feel that the DBT group helped you at all. were you one to participate or kind of sit in the background

I'm over it, this is T two and I don't want a third. I have a CBT workbook I bought, I think I'll start looking at it.

Are you maybe just not fully accepting that they are gone? Not being able to find the cat in your dream could mean that you have form more of an acceptance that they are gone and not just away and coming back or something? I'm so sorry it is so painful.

It was very structured. You had no choice but to participate. But the skills group was just about learning the skills. There was not actually any "therapy" going on. You were not talking about yourself and your problems. You were just learning the skills. The leaders gave everyone a binder, we learned a new skill every week then there was homework on it. Seriously was like sitting in a small group class more than anything else. It helped me. I learned a lot about myself thru those homework assignment and learned not to turn to a bottle and pills to cope, but more healthy ways.

lol i cant believe i have hung around here on the couch most of this morning. usually I'm out of here freaking about T lol. anyway i need to go and pick up junk and stuff from some stores and then maybe come home and nap . you all have a good day . jersey type it here. let him be . see ya all later

MKAC hugs and my thoughts are with you. i didn't know your dads anniversary and b-day has just past. I'm sorry.

stay worm all

ok i'm really going

I'm gonna put post it notes all over the house that say "Jersey, don't freak". Just as a reminder to myself.