Couch number 33!!!!!

I've only made it through my first year so far. Two more years of a bachelor degree. If I want to go on to do anything with it at least another year for honors or two for a masters. Then two to three more on top of that for anything like clinical psychology or educational psychology. I'm not sure I'm smart enough for second year at this stage though. I'm not very academic, so I'm just doing my best...and muddling along. Though all good marks so far, some how.

oh gawd...yea, I would not like a question at all. She just says "so, we hit on a few things today....we talked about you contacting Doc X and doing Y, we spoke about letting FC take over that portion of your mom's books, and we also talked about you letting someone come in to help you pack your home And you said that you would ponder the cancer group and possibly even contact them via email. (Not exactly what she said, but generally.) We are working on me accepting that my ability is limited, that I am in need of assistance and that there is assistance out there for me. We also have been talking about me letting go of my volunteer stuff for a set amount of time.

I freeze when I'm put on the spot too. I hate it when I walk in and my T has taken to now saying things like "what are we going to work on today"? Geez T, let me find my feet...

I need to add that it does not feel like she is giving me an itinerary at all, nor is she telling me what to do. It just feels like a sum up. Things kind of spin a bit when talking and I used to feel woozy after t and unfocused. This slight "zone in" time helps me to refocus and I feel like I accomplished something in session. Like I've actually made progress or a step forward. She never tells me WHAT to do, just helps me figure out options.

Ugh. I'm having an issue with my group T....One particular member is angry with me because I have closed the door on the idea of ever falling in love again. I have no idea how to respond to that. I appreciate her anger, as it tells me that she cares about me. Other than that, I really don't know what to say. ACK.

THAT I would prefer. My T sometimes does that, especially when we've covered a lot of things and if there are action items that came from the session. Most times, though, he just wants to be sure we are both on the same page. I'd prefer that he tell me what he knows - rather than asking me.

I remember him asking me once....and I told him that I wasn't able to answer because my fear got in the way. He seemed surprised and then suggested that I consider doing some writing after the session about it because he wanted to be sure I took in what was said during the session. I was able to do that with no problem. Just don't ask me a question and put me on the spot. Hate hate hate that. (Do I seem triggered by that idea? LOL)

Tell her you closed it, you didn't lock it and throw away the key. gezzz louise

If it was me I'd just be as straight up as possible, if it's really something you don't want to dig into right now. I'd say I appreciate the concern, but it's just where I'm at, and the anger isn't making me feel any better about the situation.

wow that would be awsome if my T did that because i often get confused about what the points were and what i need to be getting out of it .and i often more then not forget a lot of what is said . i bet it does help ground it in your head

i am not so sure i would be able to do that either but i think i would be willing to give it a try because i really do get really confused about what i am supose to be understanding

My T has sometimes stopped near the end to ask something about what I'll go away and be upset about, from the session itself, and that's quite helpful for me.

OK peeps- I'm off to the shower and the store.... and T. Talk to you all later. Have a wonderful day!

wiki did i say i love your T

"What did you take from today's appointment"
would make me insanely enraged. "Nothing you pompous condescending a ss hole"
Particularly when the woman keeps telling she does not judge effectiveness at each appointment but as a whole. Which is not useful to me because why do I care how she judges it. What matters is if I find it effective.

Have a good one Karebear.

I'm off to bed. 3:30am. I have a funny feeling that I'm not going to get through much of my textbook that I need to catch up on, again.

And, may I say, this "parts" therapy (which I was so against), isn't so terribly awful when she puts it into a form that I can manage. It is more like
"a part of you feels that way, but that's not all of you"
NOT
"a part of you is a kid and can't manage those feelings"

Does that make sense? I am responsible and in control...those feelings AREN'T all encompassing, they are a part, a small part.

good luck in T today. it always help me if i start with just saying hello to my T. in fact she kind of insists on it. and go from there

that makes a huge amount of sense wiki . my T doesnt do parts T but has refered to differnt parts of me feeling differnt ways. not baby parts and so on.

Ah yes, that does make perfect sense.

agreed.

I always think about when I meet with a client, I detail what they need from me. What kind of reports they need to generate, how they need to view their books. Every client is different, and I curtail my plan for their needs. At the end of a meeting I always review. "We want to A, B, C, D. You are going to send me/grant me access to A, B, C, D. " A plan. I've been lacking a plan. I find it refreshing.

I realize this wouldn't work for everyone though, and I am not saying it should. I am a data person, I like information. I really appreciate that she has adapted to my style so quickly. I also appreciate that she is using my current stressers to help balance my life NOW and not haphazardly try to drudge into the past. I think she may have skill.

Interesting. Just interesting.

(((karebear))) good luck in T.

Sorry I'm blabbering guys. Guess you have hyper wiki today.

I love Hyper Wiki... come to think of it I love , anything Wiki

i am off for a bit to do dishes clean flower and craft .love you all bunch and be back in a bit

Later chickie...don't clean too much, save some for laters.

So lola has got her Janice on today. Not sure if I should be scared. lol

Just getting back to my roots!