Couch 79: Spend some time on Couch 79 (snap, snap)

There are two or three areas in life where I know that my experience and the way I live through things is not fully human. Sex is one of those. And PC is where I get confirmation of my non-humanness. My problem, not anybody else's, I know that. But it does make me think that I should probably try to come here a bit less often.

Dude, im standin right next to ya.

Cold comfort, i know.

At least you have a cat. Well, i HAD a cat, but not for very long. And a couple of husbands. And a job.

I think you ie one hangs on to the things that matter. I have my books. And i love my pc.

Mast....I think if you were to risk being open with other women on PC...(in pm of course).. You may find you are not as not fully human as you think.... But as long as you never have a private conversation with another woman who also has issues will you know... Big risk I know....

I've taken that risk and found my experience in two separate areas of sex were not that uncommon.

I think there are a range of experiences. Some people feel that way about sex, and I don't think it is wrong. I also don't think it is wrong to find sex as intimate and so on. And I have found for me it can fluctuate. But I don't agree that those who do find it so are irrational, fantasy fluffs any more than I think it has to be intimate to be useful. I don't think either is absolute.

rts, I am sure you are right, but it is a risk I will never take. For me it could not fill any purpose, and nothing would change or improve. It's good that it helps other people to talk about these things, but for me, talking could only make matters worse. And it is only a problem for me, not for anybody else, so it's ok.

Trigger SI

Mast, I guess we all have areas where we feel we don't operate like 'normal' people. Sometimes, with my lovely friends whom I love a lot, I feel like I'm from another planet. Like, none of them seem to throw things around, or self harm when they hear random noises, or wake up crying and sleepwalking.
But I bet they all have their own little bit of not normalness. The friends I'm closest to, I know that they do. And you identify one of yours is sex, and that's not uncommon. At the moment, I'm really struggling to 'get there' iykwim, and have had a horrible, sick realisation that when I SI it is a sexual feeling....so although I do enjoy sex with my h, it's not all normal, by any means. Xxxxx

Didn't mean to cause a stir, or make people feel bad.. I know sex is quiet the controversial topic.. I needed to vent a bit, I am sure T and I will talk about it next appointment. Sorry.

Baking bread and watching college football.

I'm romantic and rational.

I managed to find the answer to my question above - it's actually called a postnuptial agreement. I never heard that term before.

Humans? Who needs them?
Give me a world of Stopdogs and Mastodons!

Its an indication of if and how well connected the two sides of your brain are its different for men and women, on a continuum.

I am trying to have a relaxing non stressful day and evening .just hanging out crafting and watching tv so far it is working

It's 8.30 am on Sunday of the Labour Day weekend here, and THE LANDLORD IS MOWING!!!!!!!!

Healed, It took me several minutes to work out that my T was talking about sex when he first asked about intimacy in my marriage.

Honestly it was nothing.Just wanted some advice but i'm a bit paranoid at the moment. I'll ask again when I'm feeling better.

Stick iPad in a bag o rice or a while

My T keeps trying to get me to talk about sex. He finally came straight out with it session before last. I looked at him like he had three heads - I have a SNs child, I'm working up the courage to get divorced, I'm trying to make friends and I need to get my career kickstarted and you want me to talk about SEX?! Are you freakin' NUTS?!

I am finding the reactions to therapists and the topic of sex to be interesting. I took the one discussion earlier as being more about a therapist thinking their opinion was super important than the underlying topic.

Finding out interesting facts tonight....did you know that Lake Superior is so cold offshore that drowning victims do not decompose so they never surface?

Well, I kinda terminated. I wonder how it will blow over, sigh.

Am trying to weigh how much of this is me being wronged, how much is PMS, how much is almost no sleep, and how much is my remarkable skill at getting worked up in a jif. For the record though, my T's being presumptuous and that makes me mad in an almost instinctive way. The bull and the red cape. I tell myself I'm not the bull, but can't quite deal with the bait of her judgment.

They are just so very wrong and misguided sometimes. I hope a break or termination (whichever it turns out to be) works out okay. Is there really no way to carve this area out of the therapy? Sometimes one must be very firm with therapists, but I have found that being quite firm and simply not rising to their bait, eventually gets them off the subject.

I dipped my toes in it some years ago. It is shockingly cold. I would never have thought of this.

Holy hell your husband is an asshole, Ready. Why the **** did he not just follow you to the parking lot and drive you back??

Or he could have gotten into your car and let you go inside to relax while he drove the car to the parking lot and walked back. You doing it was NOT the only solution. Not even close.