Couch 79: Spend some time on Couch 79 (snap, snap)

I may be a bit overly angry on your behalf. Sorry.

Rts I would be livid not disappointed.

Rts... I have a feeling I missed something, I hope you are ok!

I'm fine...I've got the monkeys back in the cage..... Circus is closed for the evening. Sorry to have upset the couch.

I wasn't willing to ask. It was my choice.

Cool whip!

Eh, I put the cool whip away. I think I just need to go to sleep!!

It's soooooo fun to wake up to the sound of my son yelling moooooooom can I come down stairs... That kid is persistent.

My monkey comment was not intended to make you feel badly; I'm sorry. I just meant that I recognized that you were making a choice and I should not be blowing up on your behalf when you are clearly making choices that you feel are right for you.

MKAC... Not my monkeys not my circus...is a great saying and a great way to remind yourself not to get drug into other peoples problems. And so when I think of things in reverse...it's my monkeys and my circus...it's not very nice of me to let my monkeys loose on other people...what was I trying to accomplish? What was my goal? Of course I wasn't thinking that way when I posted...but once I did I realized it wasn't a healthy thing.

I do apologize for hastily deleting my posts cause now the flow of posts don't make sense.

Ready, my regret is that I made it somehow unsafe for you to post and get support. You should be free to post about things that make you sad or upset without feeling like you are somehow imposing on others. Because you are not. The incident would not be upsetting for me at all if I did not like you so much. I did not articulate what I was intending as support in a supportive way.

So I hope you do feel free to post about things that upset you in the future. Please just let me know what responses (if any) might be helpful and not make you feel like you need to not post or delete. I really don't want to make things worse.

MKAC...

Everything's good.... I don't feel unsafe on the couch...

Moving on....

I am really loving this home routine app. My house is so much cleaner. If only I would treat it like it was direct orders from a drill Sargent or something... Cause I still skip over my most hated chores... Which for me is going through the mail and filing important papers. My goal today is to get through that.

kind of been hiding in my head these days but just want to say love you all bunches and a nod in stops direction

rts, my H loves that kind of thing, too. He loves the kind of structure it gives, and for him it means that he can relax and not think about the things that are not done on that day, because there will be another day for those.

I don't sort the post either RTS. And won't pick up my clothes, or put the bins out.

Hope you're okay granite, and that your head is a kind place to be for now.

I have stopped taking my anti anxiety meds. No idea why. I have finals this week, and start a new job next week, so rubbish timing . Just thought I'd see what would happen...watch the space

Well my problem isn't relaxing it's avoiding so this app helps me see not only what I have accomplished (love the little gold stars for tasks accomplished) but it helps me see what I haven't accomplished...like a sort of accountability system for me....

I should admit, here, that I haven't seen the app, only systems that work in (what I assume is) the same way. H used to print lists from some website that I have, blissfully, forgotten the name of, with the day's chores for every day of the week, and the weekly chores, and the monthly chores, etc etc.

Hi Granite... Been missing you but know this was a rough week. Did you get many crafts done? I was thinking about you when I was walking around a craft store yesterday to get something for my son for a school project. For a moment, I looked around for something to try....

Well I would never presume to keep track of anyone else's chores. This is just a personal thing for me. No one in my family even knows that I use it.

My partner likes things like that give her stars/sort of thing for accomplishments. I have never been motivated by star sort of stuff -even as a small child it pissed me off. My mother always said I was a very difficult child to motivate.

MKAC... How is your D feeling? How long till the results come back?

SD... Where you a very intelligent child? Like did you learn to read early, etc? Did people say you acted like an adult as a child or that you will make a very good adult?

My son was those things above and I think he saw right through those motivation tactics.

I on the other hand was a very gullible child..

(I know you are intelligent)

I didn't mean to imply that you did, rts. I know I've made H frustrated and disappointed by not adhering to the schedule. I am a horrible wife in so many ways.

I am not certain it has to do with straight intelligence. My sibling is intelligent and he was very easy to motivate. My partner is also quite intelligent and loves apps that give her stars. They both were really into grades and such.
I think I am probably just gullible in other ways. I did read very early and growing up it was suggested about the adult thing from time to time. I have always hated feeling manipulated. And a grade or a star was not going to make me do something I was not already inclined to do.