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Very true CE. Definitely doesn't apply to everything.

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No need to apologize for saying your opinion, thoughts or feelings...

I really feel like I've been posting too much about myself on here lately.

To be truthful it isn't helpful cause I really don't know what response I want...sometimes I just react post to something I read and sometimes in moments of weakness I must be looking for sympathy... But no matter the response it doesn't seem to really help.

I think I will go back to writing in my journal or take up primal screaming.....

Im watching a charles bronson robert duvall movie. Jill ireland is married to robert duvall, but then she met charles bronson. Thats pretty much the plot of all bronson movies

I don't think it wrong or weak to look for sympathy here.

I'm sorry but Gone Girl does not have Affleck Full Frontal….I must've blinked.

Hey BiP ...how's the little mouse guy doing today? Is he in rehab for his wheel addiction?

I think Mac was right and it was anxiety or hunger as we worked the escapee was in the store room heading for the food. Once we feed them they settled down. But it reminded me of the mouse plague we had in our state when I was a kid, just the mice reaction to being hungry. I remember a moving carpet of mice when I opened the stable one morning. Stupid things that trigger memories.

Ready, you're supposed to post about yourself on here. Please don't stop!
Me, I've been right cranky lately and I'm not entirely sure why...

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i do the primal screaming from time to time. nobody knows, never even told t... sometimes though it just helps... i go into my bedroom, close the door, and just scream into my pillow... so far no one's heard me.... i don't know how healthy it is but it calms me down sometimes.

Apparently, when I mention that I have read an armchair psych book and it didn't work for me, because it is based on cultural concepts that are alien to me, then I am closed minded. Yeah, whatever.

Awake. Took tomorrow off from work, lied said I wasn't feeling well. In a way, I am I not feeling well. I just have no desire to leave my bed tomorrow.

I've been sleeping rather badly and feeling really crappy, mentally - irritable, lonely, sad, confused, all in a lovely heap. I could have slept in this morning if I hadn't had a meeting with two students... who never showed up for their tutorial. I'm sure they had good reason, but I can't understand why they didn't email and tell me. I spent a couple of hours preparing for the tutorial, too. Grrr.

And I don't want to go back to therapy, ever. I will go back of course, but I just don't want to. I am too broken for it to work.

Omg im closing my eyes now - please tell me when its safe to open!! As he ages, he is going to resemble Newman from Seinfeld...

(Ah! Nothing like little affleck-bashing to start your day! )

Staring at my anti-discrimination forms and CBT homework. Ugh.

I'm so sorry you don't find the responses helpful. I do not see you as thinking of yourself as a victim and I don't think it is weak to look for sympathy. I think the problem is that sympathy feels weird to you. Maybe we could organize an experiment. You post, I respond with anger on your behalf. Someone else can try kind empathy. Someone can try advice, and Stop can respond with her signature, "there, there." Then you could see if any of those are helpful and we can all adjust our responses accordingly. I like you very much and would hate to see you stop posting.

Yeah. What Stop said.

im sorry if any of my responses have been less then helpful. im not always good with my words . I don't think you are posting to much at all .and getting sympathy and support isn't a horrible thing

I say something similar all the time. My T compares it to being a nurse in an ICU. There is one patient with a heart attack. One with cancer. One with injuries from a car wreck. The common denominator for all of them is the nurse, but that doesn't mean the nurse is the actual problem or cause of the issues. I actually think a lot of therapists are not that skilled and it takes a while to sort through and find the right one. I tried more than 6 therapists (too lazy to stop and count them all up) before finding my current therapist.

One big lesson from marriage counseling for me was realizing that just because I choose to stay does not mean I have to just accept my H's behavior or the way he was treating me. I could choose to stay AND insist on being treated well.

NOT that I am saying I have this all figured out, or that you have to do things in any particular way just because it has happened to work out okay for me. I am sharing this just to try to show that maybe, you are being way too hard on yourself and settling for way less than you deserve in several of your relationships. Just maybe something to think about.

Granite... I wasn't thinking of any person when I wrote the above.... I think its me. I think I'm just realizing that maybe what I'm looking for isn't something anyone else can do for me .... stuff I have to do myself. Thats why no matter what someone says its not "helpful"...in making the situation different or allowing me to accept the situation that I can not change.

all responses are helpful in the sense that I feel heard which is great!

LOL... see my post to Granite about why posts haven't seemed helpful. though responses do help me feel heard which is a good thing.

I don't think of Stop's signature response is "there, there"....because that feels too patronizing to me and I don't feel Stop's responses are that... but I can't seem to put my finger on it...

I wasn't busting on Stopdog. At some point she mentioned her response being "there, there" to someone's pain, but that they didn't seem to see her sincerity or think it was helpful. Or am I mis-remembering, Stop?

I absolutely love that this "expression" seems to have risen above cultural differences. I think I can even hear the sigh and the eye roll that goes with it....

MKAC... I didn't think you were busting on SD... I was just response posting... '

the LOL was about having you all respond and doing a test to see which response is better..

Well back to work... working is my favorite part of my life... (I'm being sincere....)

T has been less than helpful to me as I reached out to him this morning.. Oh well, back to bed I go.