Couch 79: Spend some time on Couch 79 (snap, snap)

Tiptoeing in...

Granite, it sounds like a lot of crappy things are happening at once. I know this might not help, but the truth is, with both the scrapbooking Czarina and your BFF, those things reflect on them as people, and not you. Hope you find a way to reach out and get some relief, you deserve it

Tiptoeing back out... still no time for anything, but kinda miss this place...

When I first mentioned knickers on this forum, the Americans didn't know what they were!

Crabalocker fishwife, pornographic priestess.
Boy, you been a naughty girl you let your knickers down.

((Granite))
I can see that you are very upset and feel rejected.

What exactly does it mean to be "restructured out"? Did she change the day or the time of the meetings to one where you can't be there?

Hi Sally. Did I miss the news about the couch baby?

I am the eggman, we are the eggmen, I am the walrus goo goo ga goob!

Hey nice to see Sally Brown back, I guess your newborn is taking up most of your time

I'm so ticked at my T. We had a very good session but she ended really abruptly: I really struggle with those. I worked it out, and emailed her a very short comment to wrap up, like three sentences. Told her (on a topic related to our session) that my husband and I had decided against sending him to a very expensive wrestling event in favor of a family vacation. My T mistakenly assumed I was planning to send my daughter to see the wrestling (we did once) and told me it'd be much healthier for her not to go anyway.

You know what... I know I'm the client and my T is loyal to me and not my hubby, but honestly, I don't want or need her judging him or us for every little thing. My daughter is NOT allowed to even watch wrestling in the house. My husband watches it after she's in bed, though she may occasionally hear a snippet. The event is a once per year thing, three hours.

Now listen, I'm not saying it's neutral, but you know what... first we weren't even taking her and second, it would only be three hours: I don't put watching wrestling three hours once as child abuse.

Jeeze, I wanted to go off on her about all the things I find harmful that "everyone" does, normalized things so much worse than watching grown men have fake fights for three hours in the masculine version of a soap opera, but I didn't. I don't want to quibble, I just don't need her complicating what should've been a simple reply with her judgement.

Do I love the idea that my kiddo watched it three hours, no, but jeeze... can she please save the judgement for the serious things?

Leah123, I must admit that the most irritating thing my T ever did was pass judgement on the way I parent.
I told him he is not invited ever again to comment on my parenting technique.
I think you do a great job with your daughter and I'm sure that you can trust your own judgement as what is appropriate for her. You know though that Ts are just human beings and sometimes put their oar in where it's not warranted.

Thanks. I'm not pretending that wrestling is wonderful or inspirational or as good as broccoli for her, I mean, I appreciate that it is at heart, a violent, if staged entertainment. But yeah... I just... I want her to understand... my little family culture isn't perfect, you know, we're not in Nirvana here, but... we do work SO hard to do things right and give her a healthy happy life. My husband loves wrestling and I love my husband and if it were something serious, then... I could understand her chiming in maybe, but... I can't consider the three hours once a year as in that category.

Ugh I'm feeling so defensive. Stand down, Leah, stand down, ha.

Thanks.

How about adult child abuse?? The first night i sat with my mom after her lumpectomy, she wanted to watch wrestling. I scanned the post-op instructions for ANY injunction against it; the closest i found was: "activity as tolerated" - it did not specify as tolerated by WHOM. But as i later informed her oncologist, the instructions needed clarification, as watching wrestling was NOT tolerated by this caretaker

Ha, okay, I can see that. It's definitely not for everyone. Not so much for me either, but I can see the appeal of this event, it's a huge spectacle, fireworks, music, drama, celebrities, and of course, the wrestling. Me, sigh, I'm an opera lover, but I married outside my species. Good for diversity I'm hoping, ha. Still waiting to see if marrying tall will balance out my munchkinism with my kiddo.

I just did a Google search on my name and apparently there is someone who has my first name as his middle name and has the same last name as me

Tee hee. My daughter is 5 and she's already catching me up!

If you google my name I am apparently a tall afro-american ceramic artist.

Also angered the American post-grad student next door by repeatedly playing this


I didn't even know she was American, apparently studying our culture (?) and didn't want to remnded of US

Things aren't going so well for me these days.. Had to go to a baby shower for sil tonight.. I got there and found out my brother and father were coming.. Two of my abusers, was not prepared for that! Made it through though. Sooooo much more going on with the other side of my family. To top it off I am preparing myself for t to cancel tomorrow b/c his son has been sick all week long, who has a chronic illness and it gets worse when he gets cold/flu stuff.

Woah
Just googled demisexual
That'll be me then.

Therapeutic neutrality is a myth, and frankly, a cop-out. (By which I mean they are neutral when it suits them, and when not, not. It allows them to be useless or interfering as the mood takes them.)

Madame T disapproved of my parenting style - she thought I was too indulgent. I was very relieved when a friend (my parenting role model) pointed out that it was none of her business to give me unsolicited advice on any subject.

I sometimes think I an that but probably think that I am more Asexual than anything else

Go Munchkins!

BPA... no, you didn't miss the announcement! Here's the little man who's taking up all of my time and energy . Love this guy. I present to you Baby Brown, born June 15th at 2:38 am, 7 lb. 15 oz.!

ETA: I will probably take this photo down after a little bit, so if you miss it just PM me. Trying to get back to PC one little post at a time!

Congrats Sally!!! He is sooooo cute!

Sally he's adorable!

He is soo cute. Congrats to all the Brown clan

look at those beautiful eyes . what a beautiful baby brown . congrats sally brown