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#926
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Yeah that sounds accurate to me haha. Here's the graph thing. ![]()
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#927
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Good point. After I wrote that, I realize that I also get angry like that when I perceive something to be similar to hurtful treatment from my past. I get triggered by certain types of behavior.
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I'm sure there are plenty of people who are totally content with their attachment style I would certainly not demand that anyone change anything. If it works, it works. I also have people in my family who are perfectly content with their attachment style, but could have more satisfying relationships if they worked on viewing things in a different way. That isn't my business to change that either, even though I am directly affected. All I can do is determine my level of contact and involvement. |
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#928
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I just got home from Central America. I went from 93 degrees to 3 degrees in a matter of hours. I'm sick of winter and ready to head back to CA.
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#929
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Actually, really really REALLY REALLY REALLY deep down, I don't agree with myself. I'm human and have the same needs as all other humans. But dismissive avoid ants are also self-abusive bullies. Better to be mean to myself and disavow any feelings of that nature, rather than admit to weakness. Any non dismissive feelings simply do not exist. (even though they do) So even the inner turmoil is sucked down under the surface, where it festers with no outlet. So we can have mood mental health issues even when "nothing is wrong" and we're totally "happy" with life. Go figure.
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#930
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Yeah... Sigh... That email from stbx has my brain on overdrive. He deals with his discomfort by pushing it outside of himself, being manipulative and abusive. And by care taking, oddly enough... I never saw that before... He's trying to 'take care' of me still... Though I'm experiencing it as intrusive and manipulative and selfish. Though part of me is feeling bad for not appreciating his 'care'. Ye gods I have a lot to talk about tomorrow with T... I guess I really don't want to be dismissive-avoidant after all. It would make me abusive. (Please note I'm not saying being dismissive-avoidant makes people abusive in general. I just see how that happens with me and stbx, probe mostly because we're not dismissive, just trying to pretend to be.)
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#931
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I have to skip T this week due to time conflicts between appt times and babysitting. Blah! So... end of next week. Not sure how I will manage.
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I started writing a letter. I am a complete mess; I can hardly control it. Trying to stuff it back in the box.
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#933
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Oh, cat. I can't imagine how hard that box was to open. (((cat)))
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#934
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I had hoped I could just write it without the box spilling open, but I guess that isn't really logical. Blah. I finished it and stuffed everything back in the box. Stuffed my journal back on the shelf. Not sure that I will do with it yet.
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#936
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I think theres a Groupon for that! Or a pill, or an herbal remedy, or a voodoo chant, or something...
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#937
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(((Cat)))
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#938
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Ive been wondering about this question myself. |
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#939
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I can smell the weather too. NYC would not have closed down that day (a month or so ago) if they had me on staff.
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#940
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I feel better having written it out. Just not sure what I want to do with it.
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#942
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"Take me with you, I don't need shoes to follow, Bare feet running with you, Somewhere the rainbow ends, my dear." - Tori Amos |
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This. So much this. Thanks Hankster. I just wish letting go didn't hurt so darn much though ![]() Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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#944
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Blahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. That is all.
*sits in the corner*
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I don't experience dismissive as bullying myself. If I did, I suppose I would change it. If someone wants to change their attachment ways, then I would not try to stop them, but I don't find mine bad so I am happy with it.
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#946
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Just a dearth, eh?
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Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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#947
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I couldn't answer the questions. They left me confused. It asked about the relationship I'm in but I'm not in one and I don't want to answer as if my ex isn't my ex because I don't want to do the same things again. For example, I let him control me but I'm not doing that again... I hope. I mean, I don't have to make the same mistakes again. So I gave up on the quiz... Maybe I'll look for another one.
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I just discovered that 50 Shades of Gray was spawned from Twilight fanfic...
Oddly, it makes complete sense... Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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'... At poor peace I sing To you strangers (though song Is a burning and crested act, The fire of birds in The world's turning wood, For my sawn, splay sounds,) ...' Dylan Thomas, Author's Prologue |
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I haven't read either. My partner got me to some of twilight but I found it rather uninteresting and then too violent
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Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
#950
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