Where Do You Sit?

Do you sit as close as possible? Farthest away? In the middle? Wish you could sit closer? Farther?

I've just been thinking about where I first sat and where I sit now and wonder where others sit in relation to their T

I think I'm somewhere in the middle. Although I always sit in the same spot, it sometimes feels too close or too far away. There's a third place to sit--a chair--that neither of us sits in. One day, my therapist got up in the middle of session and moved that chair farther away from me. I must have kept looking at it because it was closer than usual, or seemed so. I don't know why she did that, and I wish I'd had the presence of mind to ask. I'm sure if I asked now, she won't remember it, but it makes me think she's very aware of space and how I react to it.

Theres no option really. There is one seat and it doesn't move.

On the couch which is the only option, which I have no control of as far as nearness or distance, so I didn't really vote. It is about 5 feet-ish away from where T sits and seems comfortable. In his old office we were closer because it was a more confined space, and that was okay too.

There are two uncomfortable looking chairs, a big couch, and my t's chair. So I always sit on the couch, and even on the same side every week, and t sits in her chair. Sometimes she moves it closer, which I like simply because I feel much more connected to her. But usually she keeps it by her little table, and that's okay with me, too.

She always sits in a chair and that leaves the sofa for clients. I sit so I face her directly.

You can't move the chairs. I think there's about 1 or 1.5 meter between T's feet and my feet. Think it's ok like this. Too far apart would be weird and closer would be very uncomfortable, at least that would be for me.

The couch is in the middle with a chair facing it on either side. I used to sit on the side of the couch farthest from T's chair, now I sit on the other side of the couch and occasionally we 'kick' each other because I'm so close. Some days her chair is closer to the couch and some days it's farther away. I've often wondered why it moves. I asked the other day, I think that's the only time she hasn't answered one of my questions.

I started sitting on the couch for both of them, then insisted on a chair. This means dragging the chair out before we start, so I can put it wherever I like. I just like chairs better than couches. Usually I stay the typical 5 feet away, though as one of them has a habit of infringing on my personal space, I give her more room.

The farther away the better. T1 used to have a larger office when I first started, and I sat as far away as possible, always in the same spot. He now has a much smaller office, and has 2,chairs, his desk in between and his chair. It feels too close.

my therapist' s office has a couch and a loveseat I usually sit on the loveseat and my therapist sits on the couch.the other room which my
therapist calls it the comfortable room has two chairs and a couch I sit in the chair facing her when she and I have a session involving doing an exercise in which I need to sit upright to do the exercise my therapist is teaching me so that I can do at home in between sessions







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I sit as close as is feasible to the door. I do not want to be trapped by the woman.

I don't really have a choice of where to sit. T has her chair, then there's a love seat across from her chair..where clients sit. There is one extra chair in the room alongside T's chair...but it would feel awkward to do therapy from there..having to glance sideways.

Once, feeling rowdy, I sat in PrevT's chair just to see what she would do. She didn't flinch...and sat in the client chair.

I'm pretty sure I could overpower either of them if they tried to get between me and the door.

All I care about is the door not be locked.

My T's office has two chairs facing each other and a couch. She sits in the one chair, and I sit in the other. We're a comfortable distance away.

My marriage counselor's office has a leather couch and loveseat in like an L shape, then a chair across from the couch. I sit on the side of the loveseat closest to the couch, my H on the other side of me. MC sits on the couch, generally around the middle cushion, sometimes a bit closer to me. It can be awkward in some ways, because H can easily look back and forth between me and MC, and MC can do the same with H and I. But I kind of have to choose to be looking at MC or my H (or the floor, on occasion!) So more like watching a tennis match for me, I guess.

With my p-doc, she recently got a new office with a couch and loveseat. I sit in the middle of the couch, and she sits in her desk chair. it feels like she's really far away from me, but I don't want to be like "Could you move closer please?" Since that seems kinda weird!

I used to sit on the couch in T's office and it was so uncomfortable I was fidgeting the whole time. Now I sit in a chair next to the couch and its the same distance to T's chair. Some days it feels like her chair is closer and other days it feels farther.

I always sit on the couch in the nearest spot across from T, a few feet away. In my pdoc's office, there's only one big, comfy chair to sit in, right across from her, although sometimes we sit on the floor.

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my Ts first office was small. there was a loveseat and a chair. i felt like T was too close to me. he started sitting in his desk chair and i liked that better. these days Ts office is bigger. i sit on the couch and he sits on the other side of the ottoman and we play cards on top of it.

OMG I so want to do this! Though, the T room is in her home, so it might feel a bit rude?
There are only two chairs, they can't really be moved, about four feet apart. I'd probably like to be closer, like on Ts lap say...though how I feel this week I'd like to be in the garden/my car/at home

Once the client chair was shoved back when I got there. I said I was miles away and T said to move the chair if I wanted, but I didn't...I thought maybe she'd moved it back because I was coming

My T has 2 chairs and a 3 seater couch. She used to sit in the chair closest to the door, but I asked her to move to the one by the window so she'll be closer to me. But she's still so far away. We have to reach all the way towards each other just to exchange the tissue box, and even then we barely reach.

I've told her that I hate the furniture arrangement, but she can't change it. It's not her office. She rents it from another T. But it is a nice huge corner office.

My T's room is pretty small and there is really only one place for me to sit. There is T's chair, a loveseat, and then a desk off to the side with a small desk chair. I always sit on the right side of the loveseat, that way T is right across from me. I really like the room, it's feels intimate compared to a couple other rooms I have spent a few sessions in.

I once did a couple counseling sessions at my university and that room was the worst! The chairs were small and uncomfortable and there was too much going on in the room, it was distracting. I felt more like I was going to an academic advisor's office than a therapist's...

furthest away from him and closest to the door. there is a chair close to him...but i cant imagine anyone sitting that close !
i sit across from him.

I said "varies depending on...." because she's still setting up her new office. Time before last, all she had in there was 2 lawn chairs and they were pretty close together, across from each other of course. Last week, the couch was there and her chair at an angle to and kinda across from one end of the couch where I sat. I dunno what it's gonna look like next week! I expect soon it'll be "set". It doesn't really matter to me where we sit.... I'm just so happy to be back in the same room with her again when we talk.

This is an interesting question because I actually struggled a bit when starting therapy a few months ago, because I felt like I was sitting too far away from my T.

She sits in an armchair opposite another armchair and there is a big table in between, we are about 7 feet from each other. Occasionally we used a different room where we are much closer, its also got books in it and is generally less echoing and empty. I find myself feeling much better in the more natural room and sitting closer.

go figure!

T sits at her desk on the left side of the room. I sit opposite of her on the couch but off to the right, so I guess I occupy the furthest spot away, just because the arm is on the right side there and a table where I can set my stuff.