Couch 121: An Intimate Chat.

Aug 23, 2016, 08:12 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Crocus

Finally I can change my mood from the glaring red "IN PAIN" which has been true for a little too long. I ran into my best friend when I came from my (very upsetting) T session this morning, and he asked if I wanted to go for lunch. (This is the person I have felt alienated from for a little more than two months, and whinged about here as well, which makes me feel a bit guilty now.) We had a great talk, and I feel quite a lot better. And ready to get back to T on Thu and talk things out with him as well, which I think I need to do.

(((Crocus))) so glad to hear it!!

Ellahmae · Aug 23, 2016, 12:29 PM

velcro003 · Aug 23, 2016, 12:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Crocus

Finally I can change my mood from the glaring red "IN PAIN" which has been true for a little too long. I ran into my best friend when I came from my (very upsetting) T session this morning, and he asked if I wanted to go for lunch. (This is the person I have felt alienated from for a little more than two months, and whinged about here as well, which makes me feel a bit guilty now.) We had a great talk, and I feel quite a lot better. And ready to get back to T on Thu and talk things out with him as well, which I think I need to do.

Yay!! Don't ever feel bad for venting in here. I am SO glad you and you're friend are back on good terms. Did you talk about what you were feeling last time, like you were too much for him?

atisketatasket · Aug 23, 2016, 12:54 PM

Is it just me, or do students all look the same these days? My aging, my eyes, or a genuine phenomenon?

stopdog · Aug 23, 2016, 12:57 PM

Students often look alike to me - but I don't think it is a new thing. It is worse when they are all wearing blue or grey suits - I can't tell who any of them are when they are dressed like lawyers.

Aug 23, 2016, 01:30 PM

Agh i am so stressed at work today. Nothing but crap calls and mean people and i need to just breathe and stop thinking about everything so much. I bought a turkey sandwich for lunch and am focusing on the delicious taste and trying to calm down. Mainly the stress is from my boss "get out of ACW!" or that call is too long or whatever I'm on a project she knows nothing about so she needs to get out of my face before i go home sick. Argh.

Thanks for letting me vent.

Sent from my LG-H345 using Tapatalk

Aug 23, 2016, 01:32 PM

At least I'm not checking my email every 5 minutes anymore. I'm over that...!

Sent from my LG-H345 using Tapatalk

Ellahmae · Aug 23, 2016, 01:51 PM

Juyst think about your upcoming scalp massage, art

precaryous · Aug 23, 2016, 02:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by stopdog

Lawyers are your friend.

SD, Many times I have thought- I wish you had been my lawyer....

Ellahmae · Aug 23, 2016, 03:55 PM

Husband signed himself up for a bi-weekly activity, I was happy for him - plus it gets him out of the house and I could be alone and I was so excited. Then....

He brought me into it so now I have to go and I don't want to. At all. It'll be distressing and I don't want to do it but he doesn't hear me. It's frustrating.

Aug 23, 2016, 04:07 PM

I'm sorry, Ellahmae. My h drags me into stuff with his friends sometimes when being home alone is what i need most. Last time he did it i threw a fit because none of the other adults would take turns supervising the kids in the pool. He hasn't made me go since then. Hmmm. Maybe i was onto something.

Sent from my LG-H345 using Tapatalk

Ellahmae · Aug 23, 2016, 04:35 PM

This is an ongoing thing every 2 weeks. I'm going to try talking to him about it when I get home but I'm pretty sure it's going to end with him pouting and me feeling worse about myself and falling back down into crisis mode. I texted T about what to do and I hope she sees it in between sessions. Cause I don't know what to do. I really don't.

atisketatasket · Aug 23, 2016, 04:49 PM

Back from the lawyer. Being stalked is just as much fun as I always thought it would be.

Aug 23, 2016, 04:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by velcro003

Yay!! Don't ever feel bad for venting in here. I am SO glad you and you're friend are back on good terms. Did you talk about what you were feeling last time, like you were too much for him?

Yes, we did talk briefly about that, and I told him how I had been reasoning around that, over the summer. There is nobody else in my real life I could possibly have that kind of conversation with, so I'm really lucky to know him. He is also the only person I know in RL who is in therapy so it's always interesting to compare T experiences.

Aug 23, 2016, 04:52 PM

EM, that sucks. I have a sort of similar experience and it's really hard to deal with. I hope your T gets back to you.

@@, ack. I'm sorry to hear that.

StressedMess · Aug 23, 2016, 05:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Back from the lawyer. Being stalked is just as much fun as I always thought it would be.

(((@@))) I have experienced it, still do get 'stalked by proxy' it's a terrible feeling. Good luck to you.

StressedMess · Aug 23, 2016, 05:22 PM

Art, I also had a crappy day between callers being nasty and new policy making me question 5 years experience and supervisor not having my back. At the end of the day I was thinking longingly about a drink and a smoke, both of which I abstain from. Hope you're feeling better now!

velcro003 · Aug 23, 2016, 05:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Crocus

Yes, we did talk briefly about that, and I told him how I had been reasoning around that, over the summer. There is nobody else in my real life I could possibly have that kind of conversation with, so I'm really lucky to know him. He is also the only person I know in RL who is in therapy so it's always interesting to compare T experiences.

I'm glad. Did HE think you were being "too much?" or was it you who thought so....?

(seriously, just wondering)

Aug 23, 2016, 07:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by StressedMess

Art, I also had a crappy day between callers being nasty and new policy making me question 5 years experience and supervisor not having my back. At the end of the day I was thinking longingly about a drink and a smoke, both of which I abstain from. Hope you're feeling better now!

Thanks, having a margarita now! Hope your day is going better too.

Sent from my LG-H345 using Tapatalk

ruh roh · Aug 23, 2016, 07:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Back from the lawyer. Being stalked is just as much fun as I always thought it would be.

Be safe out there.

Ellahmae · Aug 23, 2016, 08:26 PM

Yup. Should just keep my mouth shut. Stop trying to find out who I am and just do what others want and expect. That's my purpose. Nothing more. Everything less. I'm not a person. No point anymore.

Aug 23, 2016, 08:34 PM

Sending safe hugs to you Ellahmae. I'm sorry things are so rough right now. You ARE a person, you are worth listening to, and I'm sorry you're not being heard.

stopdog · Aug 23, 2016, 10:13 PM

Why would one do that? Others don't get to dictate to you whether you are a person or not - their response to what you choose to do or not do is their problem - not yours.

granite1 · Aug 23, 2016, 11:42 PM

yup and things just keep getting better i just fell down the stairs and think i sprained not one but both my ankles. i was suppose to drive some friends to the beach tomorrow.

Aug 23, 2016, 11:45 PM

I'm sorry, granite. I hope you feel better quickly.

Menu

Couch 121: An Intimate Chat.

My Support Forums