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![]() 88Butterfly88, lucozader, unaluna
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#777
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I just cleaned my whole house like a manic crazy person. Perks of being mentally ill
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![]() awkwardlyyours, LonesomeTonight, lucozader
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![]() 88Butterfly88, anais_anais
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#778
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I know I'm slipping into a more depressed groove when I start letting the dishes pile up
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#779
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It looks like a good email, Luc!
Also +1 in your pocket, DNA. Today my brain decided that it wants to be depressed and overly critical. Time to go numb. Ugh. |
![]() LonesomeTonight, lucozader
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![]() junkDNA, lucozader
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#780
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(((Daisy))) shut up Daisy's brain!
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![]() unaluna
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Thinking about the differences in how my sisters and I dealt with our abuse situation.
I went nuts by the time I was 12 and cut off all contact. My middle sister got into drugs via an ex but is still in regular contact with everyone. The youngest became a born-again christian and has a good relationship with the parents.
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#782
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And we never talk to each other about parents or what happened.
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![]() lucozader, unaluna
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#783
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((Daisy)) brains can be extremely miss behaved. We should start a "how to be a good brain"- class for our brains...
@dna: I'm in, good luck! @lucozi: sounds perfectly fine, I think
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I do not wanna be afraid I do not wanna die inside just to breathe in I'm tired of feeling so numb |
![]() anais_anais, junkDNA, lucozader
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#784
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I would love to become a good-brained person
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#785
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For some reason the old law school "egg shell headed plaintiff" is going through my head. https://www.law.cornell.edu/wex/eggshell_skull_rule
http://www.columbiaforensic.com/eggshell-law.html At 4th of july -it is the lighted squib case. I love lawyer talk. And I think something just disappeared. Wasted cleverness or cleverness tossed into the universe? Half full or half empty? We may never know.
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Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. Last edited by stopdog; May 29, 2017 at 10:34 AM. |
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#786
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I want a good brain too. But alas, mine got scrambled.
I wanted to be a lawyer when I grew up. Once I got to high school, I thought that I wouldn't be smart enough to get through law school. Curse my scrambled brain. |
#787
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Luc - good email. It's the stuff on your mind, which makes it good. send it away.
![]() jDNA, I'm in if there's still room. |
![]() junkDNA, lucozader
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#788
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OK, so D and H are both off today for Memorial Day. We have marriage counselor at 2, and H's mom is watching D while we're there (and for a bit after). I had asked H last night if he was taking D anywhere (in the hopes that I could get some work done--I work from home and have two things due tomorrow), and he said he wasn't planning on it. I was like, "Uh, OK," since I know he's been doing some other stuff with her this weekend (though one was taking her to the child care thing at the gym so he could work out, then they did pool together).
D has been super clingy with me for much of today (wanting to be on my lap, etc.) since she got up at 6:30, though she's been up with him or in her room for part of the time. H had talked about wanting a hair cut, and i mentioned how D seems like she needs one now, too. He asked if she wanted one today, and she eventually said yes. I figured H was OK with it. But then when they were leaving a few minutes ago, I told H I appreciated him taking her out, and that if he wasn't feeling up to it, then he didn't have to go. He said, in a rather cold voice, "I'm taking her, OK? I don't want to talk about it." I said he sounded angry at me, and he was just like, "I'm taking her. That's all." I said I was sorry and he just seemed irritated. Incidentally, it's only an hour earlier than he would have had to leave to take her to his mom's anyway (MC is right up the street from his mom's--and we generally drive separately there). So now I suspect I'm going to be in for it in MC's office, with H complaining about having to watch her for a chunk of the weekend--we went out with friends Sat. night, and his dad/stepmom watch her then. And I had brunch with some (female) friends yesterday--which is the sort of thing H encourages me to do, get out of the house and see people more!--so that's why he had her out a few hours then. Then the three of us (me, H, D) were out together for dinner yesterday. And I've been the one getting up when D gets up, which is 6:30 or so lately--and I am NOT a morning person!--while H can chill in bed (though he'll often be awake) for another couple hours. So it's not like I'm not making big contributions. It's just, I'm already nervous about marriage counseling today because of the conversation with MC at end of session yesterday. Now I'm afraid H is going to lay into me. And then it's likely going to end up again, how H is right, and I need to be working less and taking care of D more and giving him a break (when I do a whole bunch of behind the scenes stuff for her, too). And MC will agree with H and I"ll feel like this needy, pathetic person. So kind of dreading the appointment now... (Also, if it makes any difference, H will be doing his sport of choice at some point the next two weekends, so I'll be solely responsible for D for like 4 hours or more each of those days. So to me it evens out. But I'm sure he'll just get pissed if I point that out...) Just dreading what he's going to say. Anyone want to hop in my pocket? |
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#789
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![]() atisketatasket, CantExplain, junkDNA, LonesomeTonight
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#790
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I'll pocket-ride, LT.
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'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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#791
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Hmm. I know taking care of D has to be stressful for both you and H. Especially days like today when school is out, but your routine is still the same. Perhaps it's just me, but I would probably be frustrated if I were your H. Between you asking about your Hs plans with D and the haircut, it's pretty obvious that you're trying to get them out of the house. Why not just ask? "I have 2 things due for work tomorrow. Would you be willing to take D out for an hour or two so I can get some work done?" This is in no way saying that you don't do enough with D or that you should somehow be doing more. Just that the way you and H communicate about what you both need in regards to her care may need to change. Im also 100% willing to admit that I'm off base here, especially since I don't know the dynamics in your marriage. Regardless, I hope session goes better than what you anticipate. ![]() |
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#792
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![]() atisketatasket, junkDNA, LonesomeTonight, SoConfused623
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#793
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I'm wondering if he's feeling run down (I know he's usually sore after the gym), but if that's the case, he needs to TELL ME. And then I'd have just said I'd make do. (Can you tell we have communication problems???) TMI alert: Doesn't help that a certain time of the month started last night, and I have pretty bad cramps, plus for some reason (hormones I assume), I'm super sleepy the first two days of it. So I was wiped last night and went to sleep when D did (like 9:30), when I'd intended to do work after she went to bed. He was up till like midnight, based on an e-mail he sent me. I feel like I'm just whining here...and I did send H a text asking him to please let me know if he is angry/annoyed (or if he's not), just so I know what to expect going into MC. I suspect he'll be pissed at the text, even though MC in session will often say if I'm worried he's mad at me, to just ask him point blank (and of course "anger is OK!"TM MC). Even though that tends to annoy H (and he'll even say in session that it would be annoying for me to ask, but then MC will say it's OK for him to be annoyed at me). And I did try to ask him before he left, but he refused to answer (which to me means he's annoyed...) Save
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#794
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Yeah that is hard. I don't have much advice bc I am single and never been married. All of that seems super frustrating.
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![]() LonesomeTonight
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#795
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LT - given your "daddy issues"
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![]() junkDNA, LonesomeTonight
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#796
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My H and I do this as well. He'll be feeling something, I'll ask what's bothering him. He'll say it's nothing or that he doesn't want to talk about it, which I take to mean that he's frustrated with me. I'll ask if he's angry/frustrated, to which he'll usually reply, "no, but if you keep asking I will be." I didn't grow up in a household that modeled healthy confrontation, so I'm frightened of any confrontation now. On the plus side, it's nice that you're seeing MC today so that you guys can navigate this incident together in a safe place. |
![]() LonesomeTonight, unaluna
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#797
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![]() CantExplain
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I have a couple of ideas (which may or may not be useful - I am not saying they are the answer)
1. Husband's being annoyed is his problem. If he does not tell you when you ask, then what good does it to worry about it. He has made a choice - let him deal with it. 2. I can't tell if you directly said "I have to work - you have to take care of D and get her out of the house" if you didn't - then perhaps that directness might help (it would help me -if someone said "I have to get some work done today" I would not then go to that meaning "And because I am working you have to do X" - my natural response would be "okay do some work then" and then I would go off and do my own thing) 3. D is, even with her disabilities as described, in my opinion (for what it is worth) capable of being told - mom is working so you have to sit and play quietly for an hour. Set her up in the room next to you or her room or in the room with you - but with the direction that she cannot get in your lap or talk to you for X (reasonable) amount of time. I don't think parents have to be interacting with their children all the time - even if child is being whiny or clingy (something like - a hug and a kiss but mom has to eat her breakfast so you have to sit in your own chair right now)
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Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
![]() atisketatasket, CantExplain, junkDNA, LonesomeTonight
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#799
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![]() ALso:I may have cancelled therapy today 90% bc I didn't want to shower. ![]() |
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