Couch 181: The Symmetrical Couch

Good morning Couchies, Church trunk or treat went well last night. We didn't run out of candy and we shut it down a little after 8 when all the families are packing it in for the night and then the night belongs to the teenagers and young people which tend to cause us trouble. I got home at 9 which wasn't bad. The cutest costume I saw was a little bitty boy maybe 2 or 3 who was a fireman. So cute. My arms and legs are sore this morning from dragging huge trash sacks full of candy to the trunks. Kit.

Oh and I saw my first Christmas commercial this morning. For Wal-mart. I guess it is officially holiday season. Kit.

It depends on who says it and their tone of voice/body language, if I know the person I might take it as a joke but if I don't know the person I'd find it offensive.

Would you take this as offensive? A neighbour who was very unfriendly to me also had an unusual voice. I mentioned this to a therapist, I said she had a funny voice. This neighbour was so rude, she didn’t even offer me a cup of tea. The therapist reprimanded me for being offensive about the neighbour. The term funny didn’t strike me as offensive, given the context. The therapist said “I would not have minded if you said you didn’t like her” and snarled at me. As was the therapist’s custom.

Odd. Or maybe it’s all me me me, wrong wrong wrong

How did you word it, Fuzzy?

For example, did you say "she has a funny voice" or did you say something like "she has a voice that sounds like (something offensive here)"

Was you saying to the therapist that you said to the neighbour face to face that they had a funny voice?

I just said to the therapist “x has a funny voice” .. I didn’t say anything to the neighbour about their voice. On the other hand, the neighbour gave me a very dirty look. This is true .. I do look a bit unusual for a human (this is also true)

Since I’m a bear there isn’t much I can do about looking like a bear

So the therapist, in effect, was saying my thoughts and words are unacceptable.. in that session. I also don’t know why “I don’t like x” is more acceptable than “x has a funny voice”

I don’t easily take a dislike to someone. Just because I said she had a funny voice, to that therapist, didn’t necessarily mean I didn’t like her. But I certainly didn’t like her unfriendly behaviour.

Ugh! H having a bad day. Of course that means I'm going to be chewed out all day long.

Our poor puppy fractured her shin bone last night. H thinks she must have run into a wall or something while playing? He had to take her to the vet because I had already taken my night meds. Doctors don't know yet if she'll need a surgery or not. So we have to try and keep a 5 month old puppy calm for 6-8 weeks. Not fun.

Ugh. Unfortunately, the DON'T's of love languages mean more to me than the do's. All of the above.

My Mom asked me if I wanted to read a eulogy at Grandpa's funeral. I declined, but I feel bad like I'm letting the family down or something but idk, I don't want to have to stand up there and say something. Ugh. There's plenty of my show off cousins who can do it. Kit.

PS I'm so bored today. Kit.

I would think it should be okay to say to a therapist that x has a funny voice. Your therapist has to keep confidentiality so she can't tell x. If you went up to x and commented on their voice that would be inappropriate.

Definitely let them do it! My cousin's husband did all the yakking at my mothers funeral, and let me tell you, i was just plain grateful. He was sincere. I didnt want to get hit by lightning.

I really hate feeling completely fine with something T says in session and then thinking about it later and being not so fine with it...Why can't my brain just work in real time, damn it?!?

Please try and trust your T and your relationship with him. You know how good things are with you and you know how annoying and evil Anxiety is, don't let anxiety always win.

It was so good not to see Info today. I got to go instead.



Of course I still need to produce tomorrow’s lecture.

*puts hallowween goodies in the thread and wanders off leaving them unattended*

local shop's trying to sell the hallowween stuff off cheap now

Celebrating with you on breaking the bonds

I hope you had a good time, tisket

I think I do something similar. It's almost like I hear what's being said but I can't really process it in the moment. I have to take it away and think about it before I can form an opinion or respond. I once apologized to my therapist and told him it must be frustrating to deal with that on his end.

I also do this a lot. I have a hard time processing in the moment. She really wishes I could so she could be there right then and help me through it. But she also says it's normal.

Those blinky things are like an overly excitable guessing game.
You went to the aquarium? Fishing? To the beach? bbrrr up there in chilly northeast.

I do think that not going to a therapy appointment can be a good thing.

Maybe she was playing cards?

I've had this happen too.

This is another example of me being more normal (and “sane” whatever that means) than they (he) wanted (due to their errors )

I too have a hard time processing in the moment.

*Grabs a piece of chocolate* Thank you! I got these really nice Halloween erasers at Walgreens a few weeks ago. I'm going to wait a few days and hope they have more cheap that I can get for next year.