Chronically needing T's sympathy

I think I need my T's sympathy too much. Sometimes I think about situations and how she would respond if they would happen to me. Like if I was in a car accident (whether accident or intentional). I'm not sure why this is even comforting to me to imagine her sympathy. I'm not sure why I want it so much. I truely feel bad for being like this. I also feel like I don't know how to get her to care about me otherwise. Crazy.

Those are fantasies/daydreams and "good" for you. I use to do that all the time, use to have bridges collapse and rescue my passenger (usually my niece who I rarely in actuality had with me) by diving for her in freezing water and barely making it to "shore" and being in the hospital and T visiting me because I was calling for her in my delirium and being the only one who could quiet me :-)

I treat my fantasies kind of like I do dreams and just let it tell me more about myself so I was aware of it. Wanting someone to believe you and take care of you (in my case I wanted to be needed and admired, "noticed" for who I am) is not wrong. We need that and often don't get that sense of ourselves as children. It's a "neglected" part of ourselves that needs looking at and helping develop.

Me, too, EV. I think it's probably a common thing for those of us who didn't get the love that we needed in childhood. I fantasize about being in the hospital & T visits me. It might sound sick, but I've even fantasized about dying, and that T would be sad about it. I think the root of it is just wanting to know that we matter to someone, and that someone would be there for us if we really needed it.

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EV, It is normal and fine to want your T's sympathy! I have daydreamed thounsands of senrio's where this could happen. T said I may "use" her as I wish too and need too. I find as her constant presence and caring continue to work they way "into" me, the less I have to soothe myeslf with daydreams, and the more I can sit down sometimes and remember a look she may have given me or a word and that makes me feel full, loved. We're in therapy because we have lifes there weren't "good enougth" and now we're going through the stages again, but this time with a healthy result...its a good sign that you trust your T enought to even want to use her like this!

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