Couch 204: The Refactorable Couch

I think you are referring to the acta diurna, the wooden or wax tablets posted around Rome with the latest gossip about the hot gladiators?

Have you’ve read any of my posts? Trust me, if I haven’t been evicted you aren’t going anywhere either.

Geez, Lemon, was it really necessary to do all that? I admit I'm feeling pretty upset about the way you went about things due to my own experiences with the only two roommates I've had. They were both really passive aggressive and it honestly made me want to die at certain points because I could not escape the constant tension. I would try to make things better - olive branches like what your former roommate did with the chocolate bar - and it never made any difference. I felt so helpless and trapped.

There's being assertive and there's being aggressive or passive aggressive. I'm not saying you should have subverted your own wants or needs to "keep the peace." But there is also a difference between not feeling like you have to be nice to everyone just because and feeling like it's ok to treat someone you're living with the way that you did and make their life a living hell. If you recognize that you aren't required to be nice to anybody, you might want to take that a step farther and recognize that other people might feel the same way and not take it so personally when someone you've just met does something like she did. Yeah, it wasn't a great thing for her to do - but if she felt like she had grounds for a complaint, then by your logic, why must she be nice and hold her tongue to keep the peace? Since you didn't get kicked out or imprisoned, I assume her complaint was minor. She was in the wrong, in my opinion, to not address it with you directly, but I'm just saying you didn't have to go nuclear on her.

And my unsolicited advice is that you not use strategies like this with people because at some point, you'll mess with the wrong person and reap what you've sewn. I had and continue to have so many fantasies about ways I could take revenge on my former roommates and pay them back for just a tiny amount of the misery they caused me. They would deserve it. But I am trying to content myself knowing that the way they act will catch up with them and I don't want to risk having to pay for taking my vengeance.

I started taking my new med a few days ago and I feel like I can't sleep. Each night I've been waking up constantly and tossing and turning. I don't want to blame it on the med this early on, but it doesn't seem like a coincidence. I'm so incredibly exhausted.

I started taking my new med a few days ago and I feel like I can't sleep. Each night I've been waking up constantly and tossing and turning. I don't want to blame it on the med this early on, but it doesn't seem like a coincidence. I'm so incredibly exhausted.

What time do you take the med? Could you try switching the time--like if you take it at night, try in the morning or vice versa? I've found with things I've taken in the past, with some I do better taking at night, others in the morning.

It's very possible that the medication could be having this effect. I had the opposite problem. Can you contact your psych doctor to maybe try an alternative.

This is probably TMI but I feel like my insides are preparing to get a cycle which shouldn’t really be since I haven’t had a cycle in over 4 years from the microgestin I take.

I sometimes feel that way on the Lupron. It just never actually happens.

What forms do your hallucinations take?

I think it may be connected to the huge amount of stress you've been under, if they started recently.

Are you searching for a new T?

I survived my cousins wedding in Vegas. I drove the whole way there. I drove half of the way home and my Dad the other half. I hung out with two of my cousins, an aunt, and my parents. I think everyone except my parents think I'm a loser in that family so I was really uncomfortable. My Mom kept pointing out my anxious habits. Um...unhelpful. so I ended up feeling like the freak I probably am. I might be being too hard on myself. But at least that's over. Another cousin is getting married soon. Haven't gotten an invite yet. No invite, no present. That's my motto! Here's hoping no invite comes!!

Sounds more like your mom was being too hard on you. I wonder if living with her is good for you.

These are quite lovely! I love the cow herself, and i love the greenerywork on the pig. And the birdie is gorgeous.