Couch 221: Definitely Spam!

At work I'm supposed to scan a 20 foot trailer filled with documents. Yeah, I've done 11 folders. UGH. This is going to take me the rest of my life!


And my company should really invest in a staple company. Just about every other sheet is stapled. Which means I have to pull the staples out to scan.

At least I can listen to Christmas music through my headphones!

OOOhhhhhh thank you so much!! That sounds lovely. I am going to add the ingredients to my shopping list and make it this weekend! I'm looking forward to cooking more - that's my biggest plan for not having school after next month (taking at least one semester off, maybe permanently). H's diabetes is a little out of control right now too (dr just put him on a new med) so I'm going to get a diabetic cookbook and be doing a lot more cooking for him too. I love to cook, it's so relaxing for me, but I hadn't been doing it much at all anymore.

I bought the last one and she can't make anymore. It's a ceramic heart that I intend to break and put back together using a kintsugi kit I bought. I was thinking of leaving part of it missing since our work isn't finished. It feels representative of our therapy. I hope this is not a stupid idea.

I think it is a very touching idea, myself. So much so that I reflexively put my hand over my heart when I read it and said "awwww".

Oh I think that is a lovely idea.

Don't know if he's willing to go meatless, but I used this book quite a bit and enjoyed the recipes.

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NP, that's really lovely.

I find going meatless easier and more enjoyable when I don't think about the fact that I'm going meatless. I much prefer to enjoy good vegetarian meals on their own merits than to think of myself as being denied something. It's weird how the exact same foods can feel different based on the narrative you put on it.

Agreed. And I think your T will be touched by it.

We were having a phone session a couple of weeks ago and he mentioned that someone had recently told him about kintsugi and asked if I'd heard of it. I almost blurted out "yes, and I'm going to make you a heart". I had planned on including a note with it explaining what kintsugi is, but I guess I don't have to since he already knows.

I've met people that can't fathom a meal without some sort of meat in it. I guess that's what I was thinking about when I phrased it that way.

People can be weird about food even when it doesn't impact them. I went to a family Thanksgiving meal with my ex once and one of his cousins or something decided to make fun of me for not eating the meat. I wasn't calling attention to it, just enjoying my mashed potatoes and dinner roll. How does this affect you? Leave me alone.

Just got off the phone with my parents; we decided I'm not going to visit them this December because it's too risky with the COVID numbers the way they are. (I'd have to fly across the country to get there, and then quarantine once I arrived.) I'm sad and disappointed because I haven't seen them in two years or so. (I'm also a little relieved since dealing with my parents has the possibility of becoming explosive.)

Ugh.

Oh yeah, I totally understand. I lived in the Great Plains for a while and meat is a way of life there. If I asked a coworker what they were having for dinner, the answer was usually a word meaning "meat" with any other words being an afterthought. I like how vegetarian meals are often a more harmonious melody of many flavors and textures rather than just one thing.

Possible trigger for SH although there's nothing bad discussed.

Miss Penelope got in trouble today. She's grounded for awhile from going outside. I let her go out in the backyard with the big black cat, and went back to work and me & H took turns checking on her. At one point he went out to check and couldn't find her. Big black cat walked over to the fence on one side of the yard and just stood there so H went over and saw Penelope in the neighbors yard!! The big cat showed him where she was, pretty cool. Yeah, so she went 'sploring. H yelled at her to "GET YOUR BUTT IN THE HOUSE" lol which I heard of course and she comes tearing inside and hid under the bed. H said he saw her over in the other yard and when he yelled she leaped up on the wall and down into our yard & into the house. We didn't think she could get over the wall... fooled us the little stinker!!!! The one time Stormy went over there (he's the big black cat) was before we made the wall higher. He was grounded for 3 weeks and hasn't tried it since.

eta: oh yeah a little bit later she came into the office where we both were doing this super-meek little "mew" as if she were saying "I'm sorry." lol

Wow your kitties listen good!

My cats go in and out - sometimes they visit the neighbors. Sometimes I don't know where they are - they always come to a can being opened on the back porch

Your cats also listen good.

New cat and lone dog are currently cuddled together over a heating vent—blocking any warm air coming out.

One of my cats is right next to the space heater - I don't know how he keeps from getting burned. The dogs care more about a/c than heat here - one of my dogs lies by the door in the living room, or the wall with the cold window when we go to bed, to get a little cooler.

My first dog used to lay in front of the fireplace with her feet practically in the fire. She must have really enjoyed being toasty. Miss that dog. She was a sweetie.

Today has been most productive i cleaned my kitchen thoroughly and cleaned most of the window sills in the house of the gecko poo and ant nest debris that i couldnt face before the pest man came

Aw, that sounds really sweet and meaningful. Weird that your T just happened to mention kintsugi. Maybe you could find a different heart from another shop on there if needed.

The date last night went fine. While he was walking me home, the guy asked if he could kiss me goodnight and I said that it would be OK if we weren't in the middle of COVID but b/c if COVID I had to say "not yet." He was good about it. Though... I dunno, maybe I shouldn't say this here... TW for issues of health and weight:

chihiro--it might be better to let him down now, then, and stop seeing him...because trust me, that guy gets rejected by people all the time, not just romantically, for his weight.

Not trying to guilt you, if you think it won't work for you physically because of sex or your more active lifestyle, that's completely reasonable and it's good you know that now, but no point in continuing to see him, for your sake too.