Couch 229 - Acetominphen and

Had a string of nightmares last night. How did I do life for years on really poor sleep, having nightmares every night? I see my pdoc this afternoon. Still kind of depressed, so she'll probably increase my vortioxetine.

I don't know if I want to tell her that although she's doing nothing wrong, and openly shares why she thinks something, I always start doubting myself having OSDD-1/DID after I see her. I feel it's something I need to solve because it's so predicable yet affects me negatively for days after. Yet I don't know what I need? She's doing nothing wrong.

The last appointment where she pointed out my different demeanour really unsettled me. But that's on me, not her. I think if she has an observer in the room again, I'll not consent. I and the insiders probably need time to trust her.

Yes, she is bringing her boyfriend to stay at my parents house even though she is still married. If she wants to divorce fine. Do it. The Church won't be happy but sometimes it is best and her marriage has sucked for a while. I would have left years ago.

But don't be married and bring your boyfriend to stay over at my parents house. And don't just show up with him. Warn my parents. She didn't....I did. She lives far away. So her problems stay far away. But now she's brought them right to our house. Plus I've never met him. Now I have to spend the whole day my birthday with him. Plus I'm not sure I'm comfortable with a stranger, a man, staying at my house for two nights right in the next room. I will feel weird being in my pj's in the morning. I will feel weird taking my psych meds in front of him. I will feel weird showing my scars. Why couldn't they just get a hotel room? Or AirBnB.

I know she is rebounding. She's only been separated a few months. I know her heart is fragile. My brother in law stomped all over it. And this guy buys her stuff and treats her nice and I get it. Who doesn't want to be loved? Of course she does. Of course she wants to feel that way. I get it. But don't disrespect my parents like this. My dad is an elder in the Church. She knows what we believe. I don't want my birthday to be all awkward and full of strife. My parents are irritated and disappointed. They want to talk to my sister. I'm like please, not on my birthday. And not in front of the children.

Note: only talking about my sister and her choices. My values are not a reflection or judgment on anyone here. I have the utmost respect for everyone here. I'm only talking about my sister because she is my sister.

it sounds like you live in your parents house and you don’t want your sister to come back since she left, ie married?

No my sister can come. Her husband can come even though I don't particularly care for him. Her boyfriend OTOH can stay at his house. Not stay over at my parents house i.e. stay the night.

Wouldn’t it be for your parents to tell your sister not to bring her boyfriend since it’s their house?

That's partially what they want to talk to her about but since it's my birthday I'm asking them to wait. To let them stay and discuss it with her later and not in front of the children.

The children? Your sister has children she’s bringing? Sorry I’m new.

Yes she is bringing my nieces. I don't think any of my nephews are coming. She has 5 children total all from her husband. The BF has two children with his wife whom he is separated from, not legally.

New cat has a thunder box here, down the cellar, which my mother set up for her, complete with bedding. She’s in there every thunderstorm and heavy downpour. Lone dog doesn’t mind thunder and he loves rain, but he goes down there with her and cuddles up next to the box.

Awe this is sweet. Thanks for sharing.

Sounds complicated. Good luck!

for whatever reason, thunder doesn't really bother him, but fireworks or cars backfiring, or gun fire (I live in a city) really distresses him - he just stands and shakes for hours if I don't drug him up. (It only happened once that I didn't give him the pills in time - I got him when he was about 6 mos old and just after the 4th of july so it wasn't until New Years Eve when idiots shoot off guns and fireworks that he became super distressed). When my person and I lived together, she brought home a dog she had liberated from an unfortunate situation and he was terrified of thunder - he would have to be held until it passed - he would hop on the bed in the middle of the night and throw himself across our heads until one or both of us cuddled him

He can sleep on the back porch or in the car! What is wrong with these people?!

I guess maybe he is driving them to your parents house in his car? Still, pretty shady, grady!

Sheesh i was not allowed to invite my best friend for xmas dinner to my ma's one year. (The only year i asked, btw). The family was all like, "Spouses only!" Its not like i abused the privilege. But yeah.

I don't see the boyfriend as being a big deal but I think adults get to be with who they want. You don't have to let it bother you or ruin your birthday - not your monkeys not your circus. Your sister and your parents can have whatever discussion or disagreement that they want - you do not need to get involved. Just go to disney with your nieces and nephews and leave the rest behind to do whatever they are going to do or go alone and have fun. I am serious -they really are not your problem.

I would tend to agree with you. Glad I don’t have to deal with that mess!

Thanks stopdog.

Disney is next week. Tomorrow is just hang out with the family day. Maybe I will declare we all watch British Mysteries all day. Then no one can talk. Watch the show folks. No talking.

I am suggesting you don't hang out with them if you think they will stress you out. I believe trying to control other adults is usually not going to work and really not something advisable in general. Take care of yourself versus trying to control them.
Would telling them not to talk actually work? It wouldn't in my family

Again agree, that’s good advice .

Today went sideways very quickly. I haven't managed to get half of what I wanted to accomplish done.

Try again tomorrow, I suppose.

*curls up on Couch, whimpers*

Hugs, Lost.

I have the Dillard's song "There is a Time" stuck in my head (they were also known as the Darlings from Andy Griffith show)

Getting even almost half done is still something to be proud of.

I like it actually.

Morning couch. It's break time yay. My cats don't like fireworks either, they generally hide under the bed. Now that we've moved, and have more space in the garage the boxes that used to be under the bed are now out there, so under the bed now is like a cat clubhouse haha. They will all be comfortable under there if any of our neighbors do fireworks. We haven't lived here long enough yet to venture a guess as to how they will be, but so far anyway it's been a really quiet neighborhood. That might change with a holiday.

I booked on to a couple of courses, but didn't manage to do any actual work.

Any work work. I have submitted an essay to an online magazine, though.