Couch 238: Appreciating Small Progress Couch

Jun 27, 2022, 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

If she doesn't, I volunteer. *grabs flaming torch and pitchfork*

She's old, right? Piece of cake.

The couch has so many heroes!

Jun 27, 2022, 05:04 PM

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Originally Posted by East17

I'm so sorry comrademoomoo, that's abysmal. I had a T end nearly 5 years work by text once, which was a hell of a shock, but we had reached a point where we were only meeting occasionally. Even if you've had a difficult therapy relationship, no one deserves to be dumped like that, and especially not in the midst of trauma work. Can totally understand why you would feel gut punched.

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Via text! That's beyond harsh. I can relate to your shock. It's also the powerlessness. How can you process anything with a text or email?! Such cowardice and disrespect

Jun 27, 2022, 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

I'm so sorry....that's really awful for her to do that over email with no explanation when you were in the middle of that sort of work. If it were an illness or sick family member, something like that, you'd think she would have told you. Did it sound permanent?

Hugs, if wanted.

It is not clear whether it is permanent. She gave me a referral so I can work with someone to support me with the ending. She said she was sorry to let me know in this way. She was very clear that we can't have contact now. She also said she would be in touch in a few months, but I don't believe this. Even if she intends to be in touch in a few months, how can I trust her again?

She took a short time off last year when she had a family bereavement but she explained and gave me context. This feels very different. Also, her counselling directory profile is still active and showing that she is accepting new clients so I don't believe her generic explanation about needing time off.

unaluna · Jun 27, 2022, 06:42 PM

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Originally Posted by comrademoomoo

The couch has so many heroes!

We go anywhere for cake.

NP_Complete · Jun 27, 2022, 08:22 PM

I would be devastated if my therapist dumped me out of the blue like that. I certainly was when he was giving me several months warning. I'm sorry you're dealing with this comrade. Do you think you have it in you to try with someone else at this point?

atisketatasket · Jun 27, 2022, 10:08 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

We go anywhere for cake.

You are such a cheap date.

We go anywhere for a five-course dinner with a nice Beaujolais.

And then cake.

All gluten-free, of course.

ElectricManatee · Jun 27, 2022, 10:13 PM

I'm so sorry, comrade. She seemed to offer you a place and relationship where you could get some real inner work done, and the loss of that must be profoundly painful. Your relationship matters to both you and her, and you deserved a different and better ending, if that's what this is.

Quietmind 2 · Jun 28, 2022, 12:37 AM

Hugs if wanted, CNS

Quietmind 2 · Jun 28, 2022, 12:38 AM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

I cannot believe how difficult Amazon make it to get in contact with a human being. I've written an email about my book experience and the steps I would like them to take, but I have no way of actually getting it to them.

Somehow I need to reach the people who write the policies.

Mega corporations make it really difficult, and sometimes having a post go viral or tweeting senior management works, if nothing else.

Quietmind 2 · Jun 28, 2022, 12:42 AM

Wow at your T, comrademoomoo. I'm so sorry. She couldn't even tell you face to face... and right in the middle of such difficult and delicate work too. It's abandonment, isn't it? Please keep posting here if it helps.

SlumberKitty · Jun 28, 2022, 09:06 AM

Hi friends.

Dental appointment went well.

tri for dental work

Possible trigger:

Since my insurance changed I had never been to this dentist. Well it's more like a clinic. I guess you just get whoever is there. So they did x-rays both the regular kind and the panoramic kind. Then I saw the dentist who did an exam and was able to painfully pull out the piece of bone that was coming out of my jaw. He was like, that's weird. I know you can get them like if you have had an extraction or something, but I never have had an extraction. It was pretty painful getting it ripped out but it was painful when it was stuck in place also. My gum is a little sore this morning but I already know it is going to feel better. Then I got my teeth cleaned. All in it cost me $255 which isn't too bad. My crappy insurance did not cover very much. But that's okay. Now I can proceed to healing!

SlumberKitty · Jun 28, 2022, 09:07 AM

I have a T appointment tonight. I guess I kind of have stuff to talk about, but I kind of don't. This will be interesting!

SlumberKitty · Jun 28, 2022, 09:08 AM

It's Taco Tuesday! I am buying Tacos for me and a coworker today!

LostOnTheTrail · Jun 28, 2022, 09:11 AM

There's a difference between burying a problem and solving a problem, isn't there? I'm not going mad?

Just got riled up enough to call Amazon about the book situation. They suggested uninstalling and reinstalling the app.

SlumberKitty · Jun 28, 2022, 09:17 AM

HUGS Lost. It is so hard to fight a big corporation about stuff. It is hard to even get a live person to help you! HUG!!!!

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 28, 2022, 09:20 AM

Glad you got through the dental work, Kit. My dental phobia is so bad I haven't seen a dentist in like 6 years (trigger for dental stuff)

Possible trigger:

after having a tooth pulled which in itself wasn't awful but then i got dry socket and that was so very painful and made my phobia even worse, he had to shove a dissolving bag of something down into the socket and that hurt so much i can't even describe it. I really need to find a sedation dentist and go get a checkup.

SlumberKitty · Jun 28, 2022, 09:21 AM

I hear you Artie. I don't have a dental phobia per se, but I just have had really bad dental insurance for the last five or six years so I have been neglecting to go. Good thing is everything is in fine order.

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 28, 2022, 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

I hear you Artie. I don't have a dental phobia per se, but I just have had really bad dental insurance for the last five or six years so I have been neglecting to go. Good thing is everything is in fine order.

I literally start shaking as soon as I sit in that dreaded chair! My dental insurance is pretty abysmal as well.

SlumberKitty · Jun 28, 2022, 09:26 AM

Crap. It is only like 7:30 AM and I am already taking anxiety medication!

ChickenNoodleSoup · Jun 28, 2022, 10:05 AM

I have had lots of work done on my teeth, mainly due to genetics, some of which was very painful, but I'm thankfully still not scared of the dentist. Teeth are one of the most important things to keep healthy, I'm glad I learned how to deal with that somehow... still not fun though.

AliceKate · Jun 28, 2022, 10:13 AM

In my country, dentists are breaking the law when they hurt you. Anesthesia is a must. Is there no law for that in the US?

Mind you, my dentist is a little rough around the edges (he's an ex-army dentist), so he can be less observant about that when he gets impatient.

LostOnTheTrail · Jun 28, 2022, 10:16 AM

Uninstalling and reinstalling the app got rid of the 'recommendation' for me, but I still don't like the thought of it actually being available on the site. Hopefully not too much longer.

ChickenNoodleSoup · Jun 28, 2022, 10:25 AM

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Originally Posted by AliceKate

In my country, dentists are breaking the law when they hurt you. Anesthesia is a must. Is there no law for that in the US?

Mind you, my dentist is a little rough around the edges (he's an ex-army dentist), so he can be less observant about that when he gets impatient.

Here, in Switzerland, anestehsia is certainly not done for most normal procedures. It's done for pulling teeth or such, but for scraping your teeth to clean them, doing stuff to braces, putting a filling into a hole that isn't caries... none of that is done under any anesthesia, and I think that's mostly a good thing.

SlumberKitty · Jun 28, 2022, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

Uninstalling and reinstalling the app got rid of the 'recommendation' for me, but I still don't like the thought of it actually being available on the site. Hopefully not too much longer.

HUGS Lost. I wish that you could have certainty that you wouldn't see that on your Amazon site. HUG Kit

SlumberKitty · Jun 28, 2022, 10:29 AM

I tried some deep breathing for the anxiety. It helped a little but it's barely taking the edge off. So is the medication. I have a PRN anti-psychotic that I can take but I know I will regret it. The anxiety will go away but I will be like so sedated. It will be so hard to work and think and process. So I am trying not to take it. The anxiety just seems to be ramping up into a panic attack. I texted my T but in all likelihood she isn't up yet.

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