Couch 238: Appreciating Small Progress Couch

Kit,
I saw this the other day when "window shopping" for L at Bryan Anthonys: Meaningful Jewelry for Her

It reminded me of your tattoo

RIP Larry Storch. I loved F troop

I have beem amusing myself with Worldle.

It is fiendish. I have played six times and solved it once. The geography of Africa still defeats me, much as it did in high school. Also I keep entering names of countries that no longer exist. My memory still thinks Zaire exists.

I need help! My son has OCD and i dont know if i am being encouraging by telling him he 'xan do this, it will be ok' He is having anxiety around his dog that he was reunited with yesterday and i am struggling with trying not minimise his feelings but i dont know if i am saying the right things. He feels overwhelmed at the moment i keep telling him to take time and he can get through it. I have no experience with OCD.

So happy for you!!!!

You're not too much. My T says "needy" is "connection/comfort seeking".

I hadnt heard. I know he was your favorite.

That was a great and crazy show.

Thanks, Lost! I think this sets harmful expectations as well. The saying should be "make sure all of your needs are provided for and then give!"

Dear Kit,

I think that message is aimed at people who have extra money to go on fancy vacations to Europe but then claim they can only give the minimum 10%. I do not think that message is aimed at you, specifically. It might help to talk to your pastor about this?

As a single woman nearing 50, and someone who has the privilege of having a substantial amount in retirement accounts, I must say that single women... and married women for that matter!!!... really need to look out for their financial health in retirement. Nobody else will be there to support us. This is something I worry about often.

I urge you to consider the whole picture of your financial health, not just how you are doing this month or this year.

Kit, can you maybe think about what a just and loving God would want for you? He would not want you to neglect saving for the future and risk ending up depending on government aid when you're older...just so you can give extra money to charity today.

If you're giving extra by not buying Starbucks but making coffee at home instead, that is "giving til it hurts." Or giving up cable TV and reading books instead is "giving until it hurts." But neglecting your financial health... which it sounds like you are doing... is not okay and IMHO is not what God would want for us.

Just some things to think about.

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Thanks. I guess I will find out when she writes back.

Exactly, MP.

Thanks for putting this more eloquently than I could manage.

I l9ve Worldle and play it everyday. I really need to move up to the part where they rotate the silhouettes. I too sometimes use old names. I thought I knew geography but am quite surprised at some of the new European countries like North Caledonia.

I also love to explore the country in Google maps after to see what their stores, food, and hospitals look like.

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Originally Posted by Daffydungle I need help! My son has OCD and i dont know if i am being encouraging by telling him he 'xan do this, it will be ok' He is having anxiety around his dog that he was reunited with yesterday and i am struggling with trying not minimise his feelings but i dont know if i am saying the right things. He feels overwhelmed at the moment i keep telling him to take time and he can get through it. I have no experience with OCD.

Please google Obsessive compulsive disorder and do some research on it. Has your son seen a mental health specialist who diagnosed him?

willowtigger is a dumbass, she read something wrong in chat

Watching Scarface with a young Al Pacino. I am soooo in love.

I think he is a good actor but not attractive in any way - I mean sure I am not attracted to men to begin with -but there are some men I find handsome or whatever -but Al Pacino always seemed on the verge of going bonkers no matter what character he played

Another way im a freudian - Al reminds me of my mother?!

Was that before or after he went to overacting school and started shouting everything?

Unless I am losing my mind, to my knowledge there is no country called that. There’s New Caledonia somewhere by Australia, which is a bunch of islands but that is not a new country?

Does he have a therapist? Pdoc? Medication? Every OCD is different. My husband has OCD and in his case unless he performs the compulsion and gets whatever he is obsessing about under control, there is nothing you can say or do that stops it. I mean there are some strategies he learned in therapy but I mean again what works for one person doesn’t work for the other. What’s his OCD about?

I was wondering the same. I have OCD, but I know it presents differently for everyone, so my issues may be completely different from his. Mine is also more heavily "O" with more obsessive thinking than compulsions.

And I'm trying to think of what someone could say to help me with it at times, and I'm not sure--like you're saying here, Divine, at times, there could be nothing that stops it. I think just being accepting of it and doing your best not to express anger or frustration over thoughts/actions that may not be completely under his control/that may seem ridiculous or weird to you (some of what I obsess over seems ridiculous to *me*, but I also have trouble shutting it off at times, particularly when I'm under a lot of stress).

I will say that "Everything will be OK" is not particularly helpful to those with OCD and/or anxiety (which I also have), because the natural thought, at least for me, in response is, "But how do you *know* it will be OK?" I know that you, Daffy, and others who say it mean well, and maybe it would help you in a similar circumstance. Something like, "I'm here for you" or "I know it's difficult" can be more helpful.

Yeah on a logical level my husband knows it will be ok but on emotional level things just don’t feel right. Like on intellectual level he knows that the door is locked and we won’t have robbers breaking in but OCD doesn’t operate on intellectual level so things need to be done certain way to elevate the anxiety. No amount of saying how it’s ok will help. It feels ok to me because I don’t have OCD but it doesn’t feel the same to those who have ir

Sorry, I meant North Macedonia.

I have something called extensor tendonitis in my foot. It really hurts even when I'm just sitting here and I'm finding it difficult to find a comfortable position for my foot. I expect walking to hurt, but just sitting here? It feels like my body is falling apart lately.

Oh ok. Got you. I thought something happened and I didn’t know! Yeah it’s a new name they recently adapted for not a new country Macedonia (former part of Yugoslavia).

Sorry I better shut up, I am a bit geography junky and am biased towards small countries. People made funny comments about a small country I am from such as: “is this a new country?” “is this a part of …(insert your choice of large surrounding countries)”? “There is no country like that, I’ve never seen in on a map”, “do people there speak (insert random names of languages from unrelated regions)?” Etc etc etc One time a man said in response to telling him name of my country “Salam Alleikum”. Hhmm OK…Wrong region.

I thought you guys were talking about that one Marx Brothers movie where Groucho takes over the country.

ETA - Yay i did a load of laundry! Honestly i havent done laundry in so long. I do have tons of clothes, and i will wash stuff in the sink. But mostly i am celebrating that i have the energy and stamina to accomplish this task, minimal as it was. God im gross.