Couch 241: Twin primes!

i having to self soothe with disney before i go into a major spiral

oh well (8 char)

Hugs, Stressed.

My son and his gf felt like that when they were here last week; they couldn't wait to get back home as it seems Oregon has most definitely become "home" to both of them already. The missing him is a little easier on me knowing how happy he is living there.

whats going to happen if i do end up in a major spiral?

Hugs, willowtigger. Keep posting here if it helps.

struggling to fight self harm urges

So this afternoon I am trying to learn the Jasmine stitch (crochet), considered one of the more difficult ones to learn, and my first attempt is rather hilarious so I thought I would share it. I'm not going to frog it, gonna tie it off and keep it for posterity for after I figure it out:

That's better than my first efforts, Artie! Looks like it will be pretty when you get the hang of it. I so admire you for sticking with the crochet. I never reached a point where I could switch my brain off and just focus on the next stitch.

I'm sorry you're struggling.

Little Luna. Safe and home!

But cigars can be used for things besides smoking…

I hope she has fun. For what it is worth - I have always admired how you describe your relationship with your children. While not fun to have them leave home I guess - I think it is a sign of good parenting when children fly the nest and thrive.

Thank you, I needed to hear that.

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Adorable! Glad she's home.

Awww. So sweet. Until they wake up and eat all your shoes. Very cute!

People were so prolific several generations back. I'm trying to track down one person from their great-great-grandparents who had 11 children. That's like an entire soccer team! I don't know which of those 11 was the great-grandparent and I've only eliminated like 4 of them so far. This is hard work.

I've started dealing with the mess my ex left in my garage after 5 years. I've been taking stuff to the e-recycling place or goodwill, which is where he bought all this stuff. So far: 2 intact printers, plus one that he took apart; a TV; 2 VCRs; a stereo; a CD player; 3 microwaves, but I unearthed a 4th one today. I'm finding this process distressing on multiple levels, just one of which is monetary, because I paid for all this stuff, and it's basically just trash now. It's hard to think back on that part of my life, especially when I'm having to touch things from that time and those things were an indication of things going horribly wrong, without being kind of transported back to that time.

I don't even know why he bought all of that stuff. I feel like I should have done something more for him. I know he was being abusive towards me, but I still feel like I should have done a better job. Maybe he wouldn't have done what he did.

Having been through that thought pattern—whether it’s an abusive parent or an abusive partner or an abusive workplace—it’s a way the abuse continues long after the fact.

Yeah, sure, anyone who’s been the victim of abuse can find something different they could have done or been better at. But here’s the thing: if you’re responsible for any mistakes you made, well, so is the abuser. And they are responsible for the abuse or worse.

tl;dr post hoc isn’t proper hoc, correlation =/= causation.

Whatever he did is on him, not on you

so then sometimes a cigar is not just a cigar?

Awww! So sweet. Glad she's home!

Hugs if wanted, NP. I'm sorry it's so painful to go through all the stuff. And it isn't your fault what your ex did.

Does your local library have a genealogy expert? They can be wizards at this kind of thing. I've also heard of people on Facebook (maybe they call themselves adoption angels? or search angels?) who have expertise in genealogy and like to help adoptees connect with their birth families.