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#481
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#482
Anyone take sertraline? I took my first dose this morning. I was warned it might cause anxiety and I am feeling anxious, but I don't know if the side effects would kick in that quickly or the idea was planted in my head or I'm just feeling anxious today.
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#483
My dog got her feeding tube and stitches removed today. And she gained .5lbs! We have one more vet appointment in 10 days to do blood labs, but it looks loke she's in the clear! And I no longer have to feed her every 8 hours. Just 3x a day. No more 4am feedings! I am so relieved.
Things with G still aren't great. I guess it's a little better. But I almost feel like now he's a leech because he says he's not going to give up trying to be a support to me. He reminds me of a bf you're trying to break up with who won't go away. And I feel stuck. My pdoc gave me a referral to see another therapist. I might look into that. But if I go with someone else, I feel like I'll be cheating on G. I just want L back. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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#484
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So you could in fact be feeling something from it. If it's at all tolerable, I'd give it a couple weeks to see if the side effects fade. Hope it helps! |
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#485
So G pointed out something interesting to me: I caretake men and women caretake me. This has been the pattern my whole life (minus my mother). And the few men who have to somewhat caretake me (a doctor or nurse or even a mechanic), I don't trust except to do what their role is. And that might be why I'm so resistant to G: because he's a man trying to caretake me. Even saying that almost disgusts me. Not like in he has ulterior motives. Just that it is so foreign to me that I don't know what to do with that.
Maybe he can be useful to learning about myself from his perspective, but I don't think learning how to accept care from a man will help me in the long run. I just don't see any possible situations where I would need to depend on a man emotionally. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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#486
Oh that IS interesting. I am so averse to women caretaking - its like a foreign language to me. I remember ONE TIME my aunt and her SIL put me to bed in the afternoon because they realized i was constipated from PMS - that was a total outlier. My mother never even noticed when i had my period. She forced me to go to school even if i had really bad cramps, i was just supposed to ignore it.
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Writing my way through...
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#487
Hello couch, hugs and head nods all around as wanted/needed/appropriate.
I'm getting ready to go out and be sociable, haha meeting one of my work friends for lunch at a local smoothie place I haven't been to yet. Every time I drive by it I think "I need to go there sometime". I bought a box of cheez-its last time I was at the store that I haven't opened yet, when she texted and said let's go out to lunch I was like oh thank you, you just saved me from scarfing on cheez-its this afternoon. I don't know what possessed me to buy them, I know better, I can't control myself once they're open!! I'm okay looking at the closed box. |
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That is interesting, Scarlet. Though what jumps to mind is your H--might you want to depend on him at times? Or do you mean more in the sort of authority figure role? |
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#489
Yay! My drivers license renewal can be done online this year! Im really only using it for ID at this point. So now i dont have to rush to get new glasses or cataract surgery in order to pass the drivers eye exam. God bless Uber and buses.
Ooh! Taking of Pelham 123 tonite. I dont think ive seen this version yet. With Denzel! |
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Writing my way through...
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#490
Spent about 4 hours with my friend this afternoon, such good talk. I miss sitting next to her when we used to work in the office! I need to get together with her more often, we talked today about planning a crochet afternoon (she learned when she was younger & wants to try picking it up again) and lots of other stuff.
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More revelations: my views of men actually started from my father. He taught me and my sister to be "strong, independent, free-thinking women", and to never depend on a man for anything. He wanted us to be opposite of how he viewed women. All the while, we were learning how to stereotype people by genders. I think I'm attracted to strong women because my dad is attracted to strong women. I was taught those traits to be appealing. And when I find women like that, I aspire to be like them. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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#492
Hey Artie, from your Dear T post, I have those "what's the point" feelings, too.L says it's one of my protector parts. I wonder what yours is trying to protect you from? In my situation, with L's leave, it was protecting me from future pain. Instead of running from that pain, we did deep emotional tunnel work, and that really helped. I find that doing the deep work often relieves those "what's the point" feelings, and helps me feel more grounded and in control of myself. Maybe you just need a re-do of your session? To get the support you were hoping for? Or maybe a call or email would suffice?
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Oh - y'know, I think you hit on something there. We have been doing some really deep work the last couple of Fridays and now I won't see her until the 15th so I bet this is a reaction to that more than anything else - the "what's the point" I mean. Even though I'm the one who can't make it on the 8th cuz I have other plans that day, I wonder if I feel a little like I'm blowing in the wind or something with 2 weeks between? Hmm. it's interesting too what you said about protector parts. "what's the point" could be coming from that too, in addition to the other, because while it's been really good work the last 2 times, it's also been super-hard emotionally and maybe something in me is trying to protect me from more of the same? Oops my lunch is over I gotta sign back onto work. |
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#494
In other news, I finished my mom's requested afghan last night, with the exception of weaving in the ends (turquoise is her favorite color):
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Writing my way through...
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#495
I'm thinking my next one is going to be a Valentine's day one, red/pink/white.
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#496
Artie, very pretty!
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#498
(trigger for medical stuff)
Possible trigger:
Thankfully H is going with me to hold my hand (assuming they let him come in with me of course). The closer it gets and the nervous-er I get, the less dismissive he's being about it thankfully. Well he has to drive me in any case cuz I'll be taking a valium 30 minutes before the procedure. |
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#499
Um -
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Actually i think it was removed during the Carter administration. It might have gone in during Nixon or Ford. |
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Hugs, Artie. I hope it goes well and isn't too painful. Can you take ibuprofen before it at least?
I do understand your fears though. Also, if someone took their photo while getting one but *didn't* feel much pain, I doubt they'd post it online. So that's not an unbiased depiction of the pain level. |
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