Couch 246: Choose Change

unaluna · Nov 26, 2023 at 09:07 PM

Jersey girl whats the haps?!

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 26, 2023 at 09:12 PM

Hi Jersey!

LonesomeTonight · Nov 26, 2023 at 09:34 PM

Hi Jersey! How are you doing?

Jersey 4 · Nov 26, 2023 at 10:49 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Jersey girl whats the haps?!

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

Hi Jersey!

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Hi Jersey! How are you doing?

Hey everybody! I posted that earlier then dozed off for a bit. I was tired. I just need to see some familiar faces these days. Things have been a little crazy and just need a place to land. Hope you all don’t mind me hangin for a bit.

WarmFuzzySocks · Nov 27, 2023 at 01:32 AM

Glad you’re here, Jersey..

Jersey 4 · Nov 27, 2023 at 01:45 PM

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Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks

Glad you’re here, Jersey..

Thanks WFS! I hope you are well. I have a lot of reading catching up to do on everyone. ❤️

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 27, 2023 at 02:03 PM

therapy is stupid hard right now. or maybe it's both hard and stupid. something just snuck up on me out of the blue in the middle of working and I had to stop working and go type it up and then I started crying and now I need to go for a walk before I can focus on work again. navajo rabbit.

LonesomeTonight · Nov 27, 2023 at 03:04 PM

Hugs, Artie. I hear you on that. Some stuff in today's session got me emotional, and then I was crying to a U2 song (Ultraviolet, with the repeated line "Baby, baby, baby, light my way") on the way home and just sort of want to curl up in a ball now.

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 27, 2023 at 03:05 PM

Thanks LT and hugs back. I'm sorry you're feeling that way.

LonesomeTonight · Nov 27, 2023 at 04:54 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

Thanks LT and hugs back. I'm sorry you're feeling that way.

Thanks, Artie. We just covered a lot of stuff today, including a bunch about my D near the end of session.

It's kinda funny--right at the end, he said how today's session had been a bit disjointed and scattered (I'd also commented on this). And I said, "What, I need to come in with more of an agenda next time?" And he replied, "Or I'll just cancel my next session and we can try again now." I wanted to say, "Could we, really?"

unaluna · Nov 27, 2023 at 05:31 PM

What a tease! And not in a good way. My guard was always completely down in t, so i would have taken that totally seriously

Ugh! No wonder my last FEELING in t was feeling like a cat trying to escape out an open door. I should probably therapize on that!

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 27, 2023 at 07:32 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Thanks, Artie. We just covered a lot of stuff today, including a bunch about my D near the end of session.

It's kinda funny--right at the end, he said how today's session had been a bit disjointed and scattered (I'd also commented on this). And I said, "What, I need to come in with more of an agenda next time?" And he replied, "Or I'll just cancel my next session and we can try again now." I wanted to say, "Could we, really?"

omg what a terrible tease!! I wonder what he would have said if you'd said that. There are certainly times when I've wished L and I could keep going for another couple of hours. Friday was decidedly not one of those times, however. I could hardly wait to flee.

I hope we can continue the same momentum this week, though. Even though it's super hard work we're into, it's good too.

stopdog · Nov 27, 2023 at 08:08 PM

I always was ready to leave -the idea of staying longer seriously creeps me out

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 28, 2023 at 12:51 PM

Most of the time it feels like I've been there for about 5 minutes when I see that time's almost up...

unaluna · Nov 28, 2023 at 01:10 PM

I think 40 years of 45 minutes programmed itself into my jeans.

LonesomeTonight · Nov 28, 2023 at 02:38 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

Most of the time it feels like I've been there for about 5 minutes when I see that time's almost up...

I've gotten pretty good at being able to tell when I have 20 minutes left--which for me is ideally the cutoff for bringing up a new topic (though of course I don't always follow my own rule). I tend to keep a closer eye on the time in the last stretch, too, as I don't want him to have to say "We need to stop."

I'm worse at judging the earlier part of session. Sometimes, I feel like I've been rambling/we've been chatting a long time, but then I look at the clock to see it's only been about 10 minutes. Other times, it's more like 25.

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 28, 2023 at 03:14 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

I've gotten pretty good at being able to tell when I have 20 minutes left--which for me is ideally the cutoff for bringing up a new topic (though of course I don't always follow my own rule). I tend to keep a closer eye on the time in the last stretch, too, as I don't want him to have to say "We need to stop."

I'm worse at judging the earlier part of session. Sometimes, I feel like I've been rambling/we've been chatting a long time, but then I look at the clock to see it's only been about 10 minutes. Other times, it's more like 25.

oh i feel that so hard - i don't ever want L to have to say "we need to stop" either. too much of a reminder that it's her job I guess. so i tend to keep an eye on the clock, as she has a 2nd one facing the couch. she always says it's her job to mind the time, but then if that's true why is the 2nd clock there in my face! I think one of these times I'ma go in there and turn that clock around to face her and LET her. Although like una said I'd probably sense when time's almost up anyway just because I'm programmed too.

atisketatasket · Nov 28, 2023 at 11:24 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

I always was ready to leave -the idea of staying longer seriously creeps me out

I have some sort of therapy-provoked condition where I start to fall asleep halfway through.

I see Visa now irregularly, but always for 30 minutes only.

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 29, 2023 at 12:22 PM

H bought 3 pineapples because they were 50 cents each the day before he went out of town for a week haha. I guess he thinks i must really like pineapple...

unaluna · Nov 29, 2023 at 12:44 PM

Reminds me of the joke, "Artie chokes 3 for a dollar at Safeway." Its probably on google, its at least 40 years old!

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unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,900 (SuperPoster!) 13 68.7k hugs given	Nov 26, 2023 at 09:07 PM #441 Jersey girl whats the haps?!

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert of my soul Posts: 7,584 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,995 hugs given	Nov 26, 2023 at 09:12 PM #442 Hi Jersey!

LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 21,594 (SuperPoster!) 9 76.1k hugs given	Nov 26, 2023 at 09:34 PM #443 Hi Jersey! How are you doing?

WarmFuzzySocks Magnet Member Since Jun 2017 Location: in the garden Posts: 2,358 7 15.7k hugs given	Nov 27, 2023 at 01:32 AM #445 Glad you’re here, Jersey.. __________________ Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine)

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert of my soul Posts: 7,584 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,995 hugs given	Nov 27, 2023 at 02:03 PM #447 therapy is stupid hard right now. or maybe it's both hard and stupid. something just snuck up on me out of the blue in the middle of working and I had to stop working and go type it up and then I started crying and now I need to go for a walk before I can focus on work again. navajo rabbit.

LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 21,594 (SuperPoster!) 9 76.1k hugs given	Nov 27, 2023 at 03:04 PM #448 Hugs, Artie. I hear you on that. Some stuff in today's session got me emotional, and then I was crying to a U2 song (Ultraviolet, with the repeated line "Baby, baby, baby, light my way") on the way home and just sort of want to curl up in a ball now.

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert of my soul Posts: 7,584 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,995 hugs given	Nov 27, 2023 at 03:05 PM #449 Thanks LT and hugs back. I'm sorry you're feeling that way.

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,900 (SuperPoster!) 13 68.7k hugs given	Nov 27, 2023 at 05:31 PM #451 What a tease! And not in a good way. My guard was always completely down in t, so i would have taken that totally seriously Ugh! No wonder my last FEELING in t was feeling like a cat trying to escape out an open door. I should probably therapize on that!

stopdog underdog is here Member Since Sep 2011 Location: blank Posts: 35,048 (SuperPoster!) 13 1 hugs given	Nov 27, 2023 at 08:08 PM #453 I always was ready to leave -the idea of staying longer seriously creeps me out __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert of my soul Posts: 7,584 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,995 hugs given	Nov 28, 2023 at 12:51 PM #454 Most of the time it feels like I've been there for about 5 minutes when I see that time's almost up...

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,900 (SuperPoster!) 13 68.7k hugs given	Nov 28, 2023 at 01:10 PM #455 I think 40 years of 45 minutes programmed itself into my jeans.

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert of my soul Posts: 7,584 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,995 hugs given	Nov 29, 2023 at 12:22 PM #459 H bought 3 pineapples because they were 50 cents each the day before he went out of town for a week haha. I guess he thinks i must really like pineapple...

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,900 (SuperPoster!) 13 68.7k hugs given	Nov 29, 2023 at 12:44 PM #460 Reminds me of the joke, "Artie chokes 3 for a dollar at Safeway." Its probably on google, its at least 40 years old!