Dating website?

That was probably fine to comment on her makeup then. Its more of an art form. If she doesnt respond in two weeks or so, i would write another short note letting her know you are still interested.

btw i dont like facebook.... i never use it :/

Oh commenting on artistic make up could be ok then! It's different. I am generally wary of men who immediately focus on my looks, makes me suspicious. My fiancée is the biggest dork lol there are women who appreciate dorks

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I belong to many dating sites,I don't like them,I prefer omegle.com I always have better conversations,meet more interesting people and no pressure of romance,it's really best if you add your interests on Omegle.

But even when men write something other than flirting, still many women don't reply. So, I'm not sure if the content of the message is that important. I'm not sure even how women select the men to respond to. A girl responded to me 4-5 times, and then she stopped for no obvious reason. So, the whole game is very frustrating for men. We read many profiles, and try to form a good message, yet we get nothing, and if we get something, it turns to nothing later. Not to discourage you or anything, but I quit online dating sites already. They take too much time with virtually no results.

yeah, i dont invest alot in any of this... relationship stuff isn't my strong suit anyway, i mean im a nice guy and can treat a girl really good but i just hate the games

dating website..been off and on for a year, the older you get the more the dating pool gets smaller. but i digress, women rarely answer. men.. sometimes youncan tell they use a template message. everything seems to be determined by how great your photo looks. if you find an open minded person, theyll meet you for coffee and that can be the beginning of a chance... sometimes i think that online dating is the alzy way to meet people and most people bave issues, admitedly me too. the trick is not to dive into a serious relationship right away. even if the person says they want that, most of the time they dont and either will tell you, fade away from you, or at behave in such a way that they dont tell you they dont want to be with you. then there are folks that are upfront on keeping it superficial.. but you have to put a time stamp on that bc if not one person might expect more .

i feel like online websites are the fast food of dating

I don't think online dating is any different than any kind of other dating. Men I've met online were no different than men I've met elsewhere. The difference is that online gives you more options. Depends on a life style people might not know available singles in real life. Most people I know socially are women and married men. There are many single men out there but I don't know too many socially.

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Whether she responds or not, I'm proud of you for putting yourself out there. Way to go.

thanks, i've looked through some of the sites over the years but just never attempted to contact anyone because of before stated reasons

but this site seems cool because it has alot of things to match yourself with someone, can see what they think about different things if they answer questions and blablabla

this girl just answered practically everything the same way i did so i had to try
even the few things that she answered different were really indifferent - i didnt think a girl existed like that

would be nice to get to know her though, would be a cool friend if nothing else - a shame that there is no real way i could just tell her i just wanna hang out or whatever - cause people probably dont believe anything anyone says on them sites - atleast the guys - if i was a girl i would be skittish too because of all the douche bags

On online dating sites, it's easier for people to meet, and it just makes things easier for women especially to filter men, because men don't message women they don't find interesting in the first place. In real life though, you can chat with a women you like a little, even if things don't work out eventually. I've found that talking a little even if it doesn't work out is better than sending a woman you like a message after reading her profile and she ignores you from the outset. But at the same time, I cannot imagine a woman receiving maybe 20-30 messages at least a day can (even if she wants to) talk a little with all the men they message her. It's just a game.

@elevatedsoul: If you like her that much, try with her again later, and see.

certainly

i've been a single loner for far too long

this escapade has inspired a song in me...
if she does respond i'll tell her i wrote it for her

Sounds good. Good luck in that. I've been a single loner for a long time, too, just to let you know you aren't alone

When I did online dating in my 30s I received once over a 100 messages a day ( the first few days and weeks ), no not kidding, it got less over time but still it was enormous number, at least 20 new once a day. I couldn't possibly read them all, I was always a busy person, it was mortifying. I then got too busy and had to put dating aside. When I did online dating later in life most certainly I was not receiving that many at all. Dating pool significantly shrinks as we age

. I have to say that when I was receiving that many messages most men didn't read my profile. They went by my looks. My profile popped up and they were oh wow let me message her. They often asked questions that clearly indicated they never read my profile at all or didn't pay attention. That's why I am wary when men just focus on looks right away. Like that's all what matters

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Men have to take initiative in everything including dating. Women like to act passively. I rarely get a response from a woman. She won't acknowledge she isn't interested.

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If this woman is young and good looking she might not be physically capable of answering that many messages. One would need to quit her job to do all that. It's just not possible.

I am surprised to hear women like to be passive. Girlfriends I have quite often contacted men themselves. I did that as well. I don't know too many passive women nowadays. I don't experience men having to take initiate in everything at all. I lived on two different continents. It's pretty equal on both continents, in my experience. Maybe it was the case 50 years ago. Or maybe in some regions. I don't see it neither in the US nor Europe.

She looks attractive to me. 😍
Perhaps American women strongly dislike Asian men. I am referring to Chinese.

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They dislike Asian men? In my experience women date all kind of men here including Chinese. I dated men of various cultures. I can't speak of all women though.

It's still the case that women in general are the ones who are approached, on the Internet and in real life. Maybe some women take initiative, but still most women don't. Just go to a bar and see how things go. There is still expectation of men to approach. I'm not sure if it's a bad thing, because for me I would hate to let a girl down if I didn't like her after she approached me. I prefer to be the one who is let down by a girl.

Definitely different cultures and ethnicity play a role. People are in general inclined to date from within their own races and ethnicity. There was a statistical study about that. But again, it's not a rule, especially if you're born in a multicultural country. If not, the challenges are greater due to language and cultural barriers.

I don't have patience for a woman who beats around the bush. I move on to the next girl

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I agree. If they don't respond then keep looking

well i tried to take initiative, i did read her profile, quite a bit acutally.. i compared alot of things and thought for quite a few minutes if i should try to send a message, but ultimately i thought i would be a fool not to try to contact someone that had so many interests and commonalities as me...

she's not like a universe model or anything, i could see where some guys might not be attracted even... but i think she is really pretty, her personality is superb... and thats what really made me start feeling so attracted :/ dont get me wrong by saying she's not a universe model... its just i can see where some guys might could look at her as less than perfect, but thats not whats important to me... i dunno if that makes sense... i think she is pretty...

i totally get that girls her age receive so many messages, (she is 22, her age just changed over from 21 so i guess it was her birthday the other day..) i dunno how they go through them all... but im hoping that some how she'll see that i actually paid attention to what she was saying and am genuinely interested in being friends...

i keep trying to update my profile with more questions and things to broaden the search but everytime i do and i click the match button she is at the top... like no one else matches with me as much as she

like i said i dont use these sites very much, i've just looked through them because ive been kind of a loner and a lonely one at that for quite some time... ive just never been good at meeting girls - and probably when a girl was interested in me i wouldnt notice because i was doing something else... drunk or something probably

havent had a response yet and im trying not to fantasize or get in too deep... by continuously viewing her profile and obsessing or whatever, but the last time i checked she still hadnt logged in from last week so... im just hoping that she'll be able to delete all the dumb dumbs comments and see mine and respond so we can just chat, i need someone to talk to atleast that is like me and believes in things the way i do - would be nice to have a good friend

drinking tonight so pardon any grammar mistakes

Hm you mentioned drinking twice in one post?

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well, i used to have a problem with alcohol... but i dont drink so much anymore...
sometimes i will drink to try to blow off some steam though... its better than some of the other coping skills i have...
its not really a problem anymore though ... i dont drink to get drunk like i used to...
its one of the things i have made alot of progress on...
sorry if it was a little redundant... i know these things turn girls off...
but it really is under control now... i dont drink like a moron drowning in booze anymore...

Oh good job improving

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