I'm really depressed now and devastated since my friend R and his g.f K ditched me at the last bar that we went to last night after some stupid argument. To make a long story short, he texted me at the last minute to invite me to hang out with him & his g.f at this restaurant nearby. By the time I got it, they left, but then he asked me to meet them at a nearby beach town.

I almost declined, but since I haven't seen him in over 4 years, I accepted his invite. His dad died a few months ago. He never got along with him since he was horrible. He had Alzheimer's so him and his g.f were stuck taking care of him for 5 years, so they could never go out together w/o him around.

He had to sell one of his cars to pay for the funeral. And I found out that he has a ton of other bills such as a fire bill, and he can't get some of his own money out of his savings now, and he has health insurance bills, and a ton of other bills to pay and he's not working for now. Well, when we met, things were fine, and I hit it off with his g.f almost right away as she's easy to talk to. He decided to get a hotel for us so that we can drink more and be safe.

I'm married of course, he has a g.f, and nothing was going on. They got separate beds. And he's never given me any reason to not trust him in the past. It was a cautionary measure so that we wouldn't be driving home drunk. I especially couldn't take that risk as I have one DUI on my record. I learned from my mistake. Never again.

So because I felt sorry for him, I paid for a somewhat expensive dinner although I don't have much money. He then told his g.f that I'm lucky since my husband gives me money for Xmas, and he had nothing, so she got nothing. He then said that I have it good event though we are having serious financial issues with owing the IRS money and being behind on our mortgage. He then bugged me to tell his g.f about some secret that I told him about my marriage.

The first red flag that I shouldn't have ignored was when he got upset with me after I interrupted him in a game of pool. This woman rubbed her body and her boobs on my back when they were next to me. I don't know if they saw that or not. I was so shocked that I almost knocked my drink over. I didn't say anything. She backed off after I leaned away from her. I then told him about what happened, and he was acting like it was no big deal.

I told him that I felt awkward and uncomfortable so we all left after that. He said that I should take it as a compliment and we had our first real fight in 6 years. WTH? His g.f said nothing as she didn't want to get involved. I told him to drop it and that I'm sorry to have ruined his fun. He wouldn't let things go until a few minutes later. Then he brought that subject up again later as we were walking to another bar. Again I told him to drop it.

I felt that it was very inappropriate to bring up something like that to someone I just met. And I told him to drop the subject. Well, he brought up the same subject later that night and then he made some comment about sex and how I should just have sex, not with him or her, or them, but just sex.

He's always been sexually active, and open, but I'm not. He was not respecting my boundaries or what I told him in confidence at all. I was upset and told him enough and that I don't want to talk about things. Before that he let some Mexican guy who could barely speak English buy us drinks most of the time. This guy seemed interested in me and he wanted to take us out to eat, or me maybe.

We said not thanks, but he followed us outside. He wouldn't go away, so one guy who spoke Spanish who was there spoke to him thank god. He finally stopped following us. My friend was like, I don't want to be rude. I told him that we don't owe him anything and that we should go. He was getting creepy by touching me a bit. Buying someone drinks doesn't entitle anyone to touch you. UGH. Again, he thought that I should be flattered.

WTH? We had all had a lot to drink, so I got upset and I said to him, stop it, I'm done with this. He then told me that I have issues and that I was lashing out at him and stressing HIM out! So I left and cried in the ladies room. Two young ladies asked me what's wrong, and I sort of told them about what happened. They gave me their numbers. One even texted me today to see if things were better.

When I came back out, everyone was gone except for the bartender. OMG, they left me there! In a strange place to where I knew no one and I didn't have enough cash for a hotel. I had enough for a cab, so I took it hack to my car. I had to "sleep" there since I couldn't drive home. I didn't want to risk getting a DUI. I already have one.

I'd go to jail in this state for a second one. The bar to where I was ditched was not the one that we saw the Mexican guy at. It was the last bar we went to where he insisted that I tell his g.f about my secret. WTH? I rolled my eyes when he said that I "like" the attention and the ego stroking. I was NOT looking for attention! I'm married and not a cheater at all!

I don't understand why he'd be so mean and pushy. Anyways, he never did text, call, or email me back yet. I left a v.m last night telling him that I couldn't believe that they'd ditch me there. I had enough money to call a cab and I tried to get a hotel room, but they were booked solid. I didn't have much, and hotels there cost a lot, so I had no choice but to "sleep" in my car in a parking lot.

I just sat there and listened to music with the heater on as it was cold. Some homeless person was nearby. I couldn't drive back home then and risk a DUI or my safety, not to mention that of anyone else. At one point a guy holding a gas canister stood by my car. I got scared and turned the car on right away. I didn't leave though. It did scare him away. I stayed up out of fear. OMG, never again!

How would you feel if a good friend did this to you, and would you ever forgive them for it or not? Why would he act so weird and dismissive of me when he was nothing but kind to me before? I don't get it. I don't think I'll ever hear from him again. Even if I do, I can't ever forgive him for this. If he can do this, then what else will he do if he gets upset with me again? It's a good thing that I won't be going with him, his g.f, and his friends to this huge Halloween event out of state after he pulled a stunt like this on me!

[Yoda]

I don't think it is a matter of forgiving him or not but rather could you ever trust him again. IMO he is not trustworthy and he treated you badly. I would block his number and never see him again.

[lilypup]

Run quickly away from this guy! If you become friends with him again, I'd get some new meds. Seriously!

[eskielover]

How would you feel if a good friend did this to you, and would you ever forgive them for it or not? Why would he act so weird and dismissive of me when he was nothing but kind to me before? I don't get it

First off, a GOOD FRIEND wouldn't do this!!!!!! You said you learned a lesson from this. I hope it was that he's NOT your friend & with the crappy morals that are rampant these days....don't go to bars & if you do when you feel something bad & you can't drive yourself, call your husband to come & get you. If you are in a place where you wouldn't want your husband to come & pick you up then you shouldn't be there in the first place.

Originally Posted by Yoda

I don't think it is a matter of forgiving him or not but rather could you ever trust him again. IMO he is not trustworthy and he treated you badly. I would block his number and never see him again.

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That's exactly what I should do. I've been nothing but nice to him all this time, and I was always there for him, and then he ends up treating me like this? WTH? Why would he do this to me? Could he be lashing out at me since he's clearly so unhappy despite putting up such a good front?

Maybe I didn't know him as well as I thought I did afterall. I know that he is miserable inside. He even said that he is broken. He drinks all the time, and he used to even drink at work, and so did his boss. I don't know how anyone can function like that. Then he'd be able to get by on a few hours sleep. He has never been this hostile to me before when we went out a few times one on one.

Originally Posted by lilypup

Run quickly away from this guy! If you become friends with him again, I'd get some new meds. Seriously!

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You're right about that, to hell with him! I don't need friends that badly! I don't understand why he lashed out at me. He is clearly going through a lot, but that doesn't excuse bad behaviour. WTH would he be so mean and dismissive towards me after all this time?

Originally Posted by eskielover

First off, a GOOD FRIEND wouldn't do this!!!!!! You said you learned a lesson from this. I hope it was that he's NOT your friend & with the crappy morals that are rampant these days....don't go to bars & if you do when you feel something bad & you can't drive yourself, call your husband to come & get you. If you are in a place where you wouldn't want your husband to come & pick you up then you shouldn't be there in the first place.

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You're right, a good friend wouldn't do that! Yes, I did learn my lesson finally! The one lesson that he did teach me was that when you talk about your problems to much, you'll eventually wear out your welcome with your friends and that people generally don't care about much that doesn't involve them.

So I'll do that and not trust anyone with certain things. I told him to much about my insecurities, my problems, my husband, my family issues, and then he had the nerve to open his big mouth and insist that I tell his g.f about a sensitive issue? Eff him!

She didn't even seem to care about my secret. She was chill and just didn't want to get involved. Why would he make such an issue of me revealing a secret to his g.f that I just met that day? WTH? Man, he is the one with the issues here! I know that I have problems, but seriously, I would never ever do that to a friend! He must be resentful of me that I have a husband to take care of me and he has to fend for himself. Idk.

About my husband, he trusts me, but he tends to blame me for anything that goes wrong usually with friends, bad situations, and not having the common sense to stay away from trouble, etc....that's not exactly true. Sometimes bad things happen despite your best efforts to avoid them, that's life. You can't always avoid bad people either no matter what. That would be nice if he could've picked me up, but he would've lectured me, yelled at me, told me to not drink so much, etc....ugh!

[Nammu]

I'd tell him not to contact me again until he was a year sober and has changed his behavior. He's definitely not a friend when he drinks, don't know about other wise.

Originally Posted by Nammu

I'd tell him not to contact me again until he was a year sober and has changed his behavior. He's definitely not a friend when he drinks, don't know about other wise.

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You're right about that. We did go drinking a few times before, and he was always upbeat and fun to be with. He was never like that, but he did mention that weird topic about sex once or twice and how I should just have it. Not necessarily with him. He said that it's only sex. WTH?

Anyways, he is obviously not always the happiest drunk. He was probably taking out his frustrations in life on me. He is probably envious of the fact that I have money to spend at times while he doesn't usually. Idk.

The fact that he mentioned money at all and how much my husband gave me in the past was odd. I made up my mind, to hell with him. No friend has done that to me before, ever.

I seriously doubt that he'll call, text, or email me. If he ever does apologize to me, it'll be shocked, but I won't give him another chance to let me down again. No way! He's crossed a serious line and he obviously has no regard for my feelings or boundaries! All that matters to him is that I don't get in the way of him having fun! Eff that!

[divine1966]

Why even associate with people like this let alone be friends? Sound like trashy crowd. He invited you for dinner but then you paid for him and his gf. Sounds like he perhaps invite you so you can pay for them. How do you become friends with such people? They don't sound like friends at all. Is be careful drinking excessively. Hope you stay away from these people



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Originally Posted by divine1966

Why even associate with people like this let alone be friends? Sound like trashy crowd. He invited you for dinner but then you paid for him and his gf. Sounds like he perhaps invite you so you can pay for them. How do you become friends with such people? They don't sound like friends at all. Is be careful drinking excessively. Hope you stay away from these people

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I don't think that was his intention honestly. The times that I have gone out with him in the past, he paid for his own stuff, and he even paid for a few of my drinks.

Also, we were only supposed to go out for drinks. I got hungry, so it was my idea to eat somewhere and I was the one who offered to pay for the meal. He made up for things later by buying me drinks the rest of the time.

He was always a nice guy who I thought that I could trust. He never took me to bars that sleazy in the past. One was OK, the rest of them though, yikes!

He has a lot of friends at those places, or acquaintances he told me. He has been there for me over email in the past when he was stuck at home caring for his dad. I think that all of the stress got to him and he lashed out at me since he is probably envious of me too.

Why else would he mention anything about how my husband is good to me, and how he gives me money, and how I have it so good supposedly even though we might loose our house soon. WTH is that all about?

He can work now, but is taking some time off to enjoy himself. He can get a good paying job again, and he has house that he is planning to sell, and his g.f owns a $1 million dollar house in a big city, so they have assets. They're not that broke. Especially if they can afford to go out to bars as often as they've been doing recently.

So it's not as if he's about to become homeless anytime soon. He just has a ton of bills to pay. Don't we all? That doesn't excuse bad behaviour. To hell with him.

He hasn't apologized to me yet, and he probably never will. No real friend would do that to someone they claimed to "love". He told me the whole night, we love you, you're so cool, you get us, etc....but all that was B.S.

He is a mean, judgemental *** with questionable morals, and he is broken like he said. Friends don't lash out at you when they're stressed out like that or act like they're jealous of you for being better off than they are.

Also, I'm never going to a bar again w/o my husband, or a VERY trustworthy friend with good morals and judgement. And I certainly will never step foot in any low class ones from now on. I'm also going to not really drink that much anymore at home or out in public.

I've gotten into to much trouble that way, and people can be so mean when they're drunk. Not to mention crazy too. I don't like being around that scene, it's not for me. And i definitely will never drive after I've had anything to drink. I can't risk that ever again or I'll go to jail for 2 years. So that's why I had to "sleep" in my car the whole night. It's sad that I couldn't afford a hotel, ugh! And that guy who came up to my car with that gas canister was up to no good apparently. Thank god that I scared him away!

I was so upset that I called one good friend that I have in real life and talked to her for 40 minutes on the phone. I'm lucky that she was able to listen to me talk. Never again! To hell with him and people like him! He is a trashy person for sure!

[healingme4me]

Glad, you're ok, now?

Originally Posted by healingme4me

Glad, you're ok, now?

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Thanks- I sort of am, but I'm still devastated over being betrayed in such an awful way. I feel like a piece of trash that was discarded on the side of the road. I got no apology, and never will probably. Six years down the drain in one night over some stupid things. Wow, just wow. What a jerk! I could barely eat yesterday, and I almost cried when I called a friend yesterday. I'm crying now. I thought he was really my friend. I doubt that he is even thinking of me at all. He's probably out drinking again. Eff him. I hope that one day his bad karma will catch up with him. It looks like it already did.

[RomanSunburn]

The thing that bothers me the most is how much danger he put you in. And honestly, I'm a little surprised his girlfriend let him do that to you.

I'm glad that you have this person out of your life, and your plans for the future sound like good ideas. I hope you start feeling better soon. I know that's not easy especially since you're grieving the loss of a 6 year friendship. But you know that you're better off without him.

[divine1966]

I think you should celebrate getting rid of him and being safe. Nothing wrong with having fun with friends but this sounds way too dangerous. I am glad you are safe

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[FlyingNim]

I agree with others, quicky run away

[eskielover]

I was going to say similar to Divine. Instead of feeling devastated about being betrayed, you should feel proud of yourself for being strong enough & WISE enough to ditch the friendship even if he were to come back & apologize. Be thankful that you had a situation to grow & LEARN from that nothing serious happened to you (which was a miracle in itself). All things to be thankful for rather than devastated by.

The sad thing is however that if your marriage was more of a partnership like marriages normally are supposed to be you wouldn't have ended up in a situation like this in the first place.

You are in the process of learning things the hard way about how important it is to depend on yourself to make wise decisions for your own life. You have depended on your husband for everything & you depended on your friend not to put you in a bad situation. You are learning that neither of these choices have been good for your life. Maybe all these situations are indicators to you that it might be a good time to become more independent & self-sufficient in the choices you make for your own life. It's never too late & even though there is anxiety involved, there comes with it a feeling of pride of being able to make your own wise choices for your life rather than being dependent on others for most things in one's life

Originally Posted by RomanSunburn

The thing that bothers me the most is how much danger he put you in. And honestly, I'm a little surprised his girlfriend let him do that to you.

I'm glad that you have this person out of your life, and your plans for the future sound like good ideas. I hope you start feeling better soon. I know that's not easy especially since you're grieving the loss of a 6 year friendship. But you know that you're better off without him.

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I know! He finally emailed me back. He didn't even mention that he's glad to hear that I made it home safely. Nothing was mentioned about that guy that stood by my car with the gas cannister! He only told me to grow up since the area is safe, and that I'm not an infant. WTH?

He then had the nerve to tell me that nothing was his fault at all, that he tried to set me straight, whatever, and that I supposedly was ordering the most expensive drinks on the menu on purpose. Well, if that was an issue, then he should've said something. I would've been OK paying for my own drinks!

And then he told me that the reason that I had issues with former friends and family is that I'm the problem. He knows what happened with them, but he made it sound like he finally understood why I had problems with them. He acts like I'm the one with the issue, and that's why I got treated badly by others in the past. Not everything is my fault. Sure, I said and did things that I shouldn't have, but that doesn't warrant most of the horrible verbal and mental abuse that I was put through.

It hurts that he would say those things and think of me of being that way, mentally unstable he said many times. He said that he's not sure if it was a combo of the booze, my period, or if I'm truly bipolar (I'm not, but I do suffer from depression and anxiety), or if I'm truly that screwed up in the head.

Obviously it was not a good idea to expose this secret to him. Most people are to quick to dismiss, ridicule, disrespect, and hurt people with mental issues. I guess that we don't deserve to be treated the same way as "normal" people to them. So from now on, I will tell NO ONE about my issues! I don't appreciate having my sanity questioned. He didn't apologize for one single thing at all. I'm better off w/o him in a way.

He was stressed out and lashing out at me. I don't need that kind of stress in my life. He was never this way to me before. I can forgive some things, but the fact that he didn't even care to check on me to see if I'm OK or apologize for pushing my buttons, not respecting my boundaries with his relentless attempts to get me to tell his g.f my secret, and the fact that he saw nothing wrong with that crazy woman rubbing up on me are all red flags. He even told me to take it as a compliment! WTH? Ugh! He's the crazy one, not me, lol!

Originally Posted by divine1966

I think you should celebrate getting rid of him and being safe. Nothing wrong with having fun with friends but this sounds way too dangerous. I am glad you are safe

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Thanks. It still hurts though. He did email me back after 5 or 6 days. A real friend would've called or texted me to see if I made it home safely and apologize for what they did wrong. He didn't. Like I said in a previous response, he blamed me for everything that went wrong.

He told me that it's a safe area and to grow up. He told me that I'm not an infant. WTH? He made no mention of the guy with the gas cannister. Wow, how's that for safe area? lol! Obviously that guy was up to no good. Thank God that I scared him away!

And he didn't seem to think that there was anything wrong with that crazy woman rubbing up against me. God, I should've left at that point! He even told me to take it as a compliment! Wow, how many of you would take that as a compliment? I doubt that he'd be thrilled if some strange guy started rubbing up on him, lol!

He took things that I told him about friends and family from the past and threw them in my face. He basically told me that it's all my fault that people treat me badly, etc....really? It's not! I was verbally and mentally abused by a lot of people. I did make mistakes in the past, and I said and did things that I shouldn't have, but basically the punishment far exceeded any wrong doing on my part by far most of the time, Ugh!

I'll NEVER tell ANYONE about my issues again! I did learn a lot from him though. He told me to not talk to much about my personal issues as a lot of people just don't want to hear about anything negative. So I'll keep more to myself from now on.

Originally Posted by eskielover

I was going to say similar to Divine. Instead of feeling devastated about being betrayed, you should feel proud of yourself for being strong enough & WISE enough to ditch the friendship even if he were to come back & apologize. Be thankful that you had a situation to grow & LEARN from that nothing serious happened to you (which was a miracle in itself). All things to be thankful for rather than devastated by.

The sad thing is however that if your marriage was more of a partnership like marriages normally are supposed to be you wouldn't have ended up in a situation like this in the first place.

You are in the process of learning things the hard way about how important it is to depend on yourself to make wise decisions for your own life. You have depended on your husband for everything & you depended on your friend not to put you in a bad situation. You are learning that neither of these choices have been good for your life. Maybe all these situations are indicators to you that it might be a good time to become more independent & self-sufficient in the choices you make for your own life. It's never too late & even though there is anxiety involved, there comes with it a feeling of pride of being able to make your own wise choices for your life rather than being dependent on others for most things in one's life

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Thanks. I get what you're saying, but the feeling of betrayal hurts like hell. He had no concern for my safety and told me that they made the right choice by walking away from an angry drunk. I was annoyed, not angry. He kept on pushing me to reveal stuff that I didn't want to reveal. How could anyone not get a bit upset at that?

And then he said nothing about how he's glad that I made it home OK. He told me that it's a safe area, and that I'm a grown woman, and not an infant. And that I need to grow up. Really? So I guess I shouldn't have been scared of that guy holding the gas cannister late at night? OMG, and then HE told me that I was delusional? Wow, he is the one with the issue here!

He complained about how I was high maintenance and accused me of choosing the most expensive drinks. Like I said before, if he had an issue with that, then he should've said something. I should've paid for my own drinks since he isn't working.

I think that he's a bit jealous of me since he was always telling me that I'm lucky that I have a husband who takes care of me, etc....And you're right about what you said, I shouldn't depend on others so much. We all need people, that's for sure, but I should start doing more for myself. And I won't go out drinking with anyone again unless it's someone I trust 100%.

It's better to stay away from bars and drinking in public as I have attracted the wrong attention a few times at some places. There will always be sleazy people at most of these places looking for prey, so it's best to stay away from those places as some people tend to act crazy when they drink. I won't even drink that much at home anymore. It's bad for my health and my weight.

He didn't mean to hurt me with his email, but he dd. He apparently thinks that all the problems that I've had with former friends, family, and my husband are because I'm the one with the issue. He's never been like this with me before. I'll never tell anyone about my issues again as it seems like whenever I do, it eventually gets used against me. Apparently he thinks that I have issues. I do, but so does he. I didn't judge him for that. It seems like those of us who have mental issues don't deserve to be treated with respect by people who are supposedly "normal" for lack of a better word, ugh. This will make it so much harder for me to trust anyone again.

[RomanSunburn]

Originally Posted by Shy Introvert

It hurts that he would say those things and think of me of being that way, mentally unstable he said many times. He said that he's not sure if it was a combo of the booze, my period, or if I'm truly bipolar (I'm not, but I do suffer from depression and anxiety), or if I'm truly that screwed up in the head.

Wow. Just...wow. Could he possibly be any more dismissive? Seriously? Your period? Being bipolar? I can't believe a "friend" would say those things. He's beyond out of line. Between putting you in danger and then adding insult to injury... I wonder what happened that made him change so much, but yeah... you're soooo much better off without him.

[divine1966]

So he decided to "set you straight" when drinking and leave you there alone when you clearly were too drunk to drive. Stir away from him

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Originally Posted by RomanSunburn

Wow. Just...wow. Could he possibly be any more dismissive? Seriously? Your period? Being bipolar? I can't believe a "friend" would say those things. He's beyond out of line. Between putting you in danger and then adding insult to injury... I wonder what happened that made him change so much, but yeah... you're soooo much better off without him.

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I know, right? The funny thing is that he told me that he wasn't trying to be hurtful. He never has been hurtful to me in the past. Maybe he was just angry when he typed that? Even if he was angry, he should've at least called or texted me to see if I made it home OK. I had to email him about 5 or 6 days later to get a response from him!

What bothered me the most is that he told me that now he knows why certain friends of mine (who did me wrong for sure) in the past treated me badly. And on top of that, he told me that he can see why I was stalked, hacked, made fun of, etc... He acted like I was the sole problem for the reason why I also have issues with my family and my husband sometimes. He knew the whole story, and I even admitted that at times I didn't handle some situations that well, but I never ever deserved to be treated as badly as I have by them.

I had one former friend he brought up from the same site we met on who let a stranger hurt me when we went drinking. And another time she lashed out at me at her B-day party since they wouldn't let her bring in a cake, and I was the first person there that she could take her crap out on. She yelled at me to let her use my phone and was being really mean.

I let it go since it was her B-day that night. Also, my sister has been putting me down forever for no particular reason, and my parents would nag me about my weight, etc...

I don't get why he'd do that. He then also told me that he was a better friend to me than I deserved. WTH? I was also a good friend to him! He is under a tremendous amount of stress now, so maybe he didn't mean these things? He knows that I have some issues, but to throw them in my face like this is hurtful, and he should know better than to insinuate that I might need help. He also told me that I flip flop to much, and that I was like Dr. Jekyl and Dr. Hyde, and that I was pushing his buttons and making him mad. All I did was stick up for myself. I thought that was b.s. He was pushing my buttons and acting disrespectful, and he wouldn't just drop the first argument that we had even when I told him to drop it.

Obviously I already got help by being on meds. He then told me that I was popping pills which was absurd since all I took were some herbal pills for digestion at dinner in front of him and his g.f. And they saw that the bottle was a large one, not one full of prescription drugs!

So, I guess that I should forget about him then. This still hurts like hell though. I have barely been able to eat since this happened. I managed to loose almost 10 lbs. So that's good.

From now on, I will NEVER EVER tell anyone about my mental health issues even if they have the same problems in real life as people do judge people like us rather harshly.

Oh, and I'm not going to bars again. I need to quite binge drinking. It's not good to mix with my meds. I might drink a little at home twice a month, but not get drunk. That's it. Being intoxicated in public has caused me to much trouble in the past at times with people, and then there was my DUI. I can't risk getting a second one as I'll end up going to jail here if I do for two years. There is no way in hell that will ever happen. I learned my lesson the first time, and I truly regret my past actions.

Originally Posted by divine1966

So he decided to "set you straight" when drinking and leave you there alone when you clearly were too drunk to drive. Stir away from him

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Yeah, he did, and he told me in an email that him and his g.f made that mutual decision and that even a cop, counselor, or any other professional would've thought it was the right thing to do in that case, to be the bigger person and to just walk away from an "angry drunk". Since I got mad at him for being disrespectful, I became the "angry drunk".

And since I cried in the bathroom and had two women tried to console me, I was "using" those women against him. I never asked for their help, ugh! He knew that I didn't have enough money for a hotel. He told me in the email that I'm a grown woman and not an infant, and that area is safe.

Obviously it's not as that creep with the gas cannister who stood by my car was up to no good. He made no mention of that at all. Isn't that weird?

If a friend of yours got drunk, and you knew that they had nowhere to go, and you already got a hotel there, would you just leave your friend at the bar if you two got into a verbal argument or not?

Oh, and to add further insult to injury, he apologized for nothing and he didn't even call or text me to see if I made it home OK or not. I didn't drive home apparently, but he should've at least showed some concern for me. I didn't hear back from him again until I cooled down and emailed him about how hurt I was about things 5-6 days later.

I don't think that you would although I don't know you. You don't strike me as being that petty and vindictive. I never thought he'd be that way. He acted like HE was the victim here the whole time! And all I really did was stand up to him! I have the right to speak my mind, and if he doesn't like it, that's to bad. I won't allow myself to be disrespected.