Are people in your life extremely unsupportive during your hard times?

So is job developer from the disability services? Does job developer know your issues at work? I keep suggesting you work with disability services on learning appropriate skills. It sounded like you don’t work with them anymore. So you do work wuth them? You have to ask for assistance. Not in finding a job. In learning how to behave on the job

“Having a thing” for a manager isn’t appropriate. Now you can’t help what you feel but you can and should keep “having a thing” to yourself. Yes it could cause trouble for him because you make it sound as he dud something wrong. He probably asked to be transferred as he felt you causing him issues.. Stop talking about him at work

He is a victim of harassment and so was your Arby's supervisor. How come you don't see it this way?

I do. Kinda.

That’s why if they kick anyone to the curb it’s be me not him. I was even told once before to leave that man alone.

Yes and yes. She’s worked with me since 2007 and kept trying to tell me to stop my infatuation with managers. So now I contacted VR myself bc she doesn’t encourage me to find my next job

Btw, the district manager (a rung above GM) told me during her talk with me that the GM reserves the right to talk to whoever he wants. She could talk to him on my behalf but he doesn’t need to talk to me if he don’t want to.

It was such a serious talk than I expect to be fired if o had any more incidents. And now I had 2 more in a week.

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So now I contacted VR myself bc she doesn’t encourage me to find my next job

No one in their right mind would encourage you to find another job until you get your mental & emotional issues straightened up with intense therapy. All you do is create trouble at every place you work & no one would ever encourage a person to do that until the issues are resolved that continually create the same problem. You seriously need to be on disability until you get this crap you are doing resolved & CHANGED with professional mental health help.

So if you were told to leave him alone, then why do you go around work telling everyone how hurt you are that he won't talk to you, including supervisors? You don't follow direction.

The support you have come on here for is comfort for your pain from the rejection from how the GMs “put you through hell”, you want advice how to get around the system so you can keep working and keep up your same behavior.

Everyone has weighed in about you changing your faulty thinking and behavior. You don’t want support with that.

It’s triggering to others here who feel frustrated by this thread and they have to step away and stop reading it.

But you have no consequences, Ruby. You can be financially supported by your parents and keep going from job to job doing this same behavior. You know it. I know it. It’s upsetting to know that others will keep on having to deal with your behavior and unsuspecting employers will keep hiring you.

Obviously, no one here is going to give you the kind of support you really want here. Everyone who is making great suggestions are wasting their time because you don’t want to hear it. You want to do what you want to do and you can do it. You are doing it. You will continue doing it.

I just want to point out this reality to you and anyone reading and feeling frustrated. If someone wants to act antisocial, and they can do it, and they will do it, no one with no power over the situation can stop them.

I feel relieved at least knowing that you are not a physically dangerous person. You are working at job for the most part, and being a disruptive person to others and causing yourself unnecessary emotional pain.

Not physically dangerous or rude or bullying cuz I was brought up to be a nice, good person. I’m super extraverted and I love socializing.

As for harassment, I went from
1. Pestering TF out of the coworker who didn’t want to be friends. Trying to pay her to be friends. Rude to others
2. Not rude to anyone but coming in on my days off regularly to chat up my supervisor
3. Never even coming in on my days off anymore and never rude to anyone (until recently).

I progressively improved. It’s just painstakingly slow. And I’m just heartbroken that it still isn’t normal level. I guess next step would be

4. Not trying to talk to supervisor every chance I get. Or always asking where they are or when they’re working
Things like that

It’s too late for me here but next job will be different cuz step 4.

Many of those things you had multiple warnings and only stopped when legal action was threatened. It's not quite the progress you are suggesting it is which is why you need to stop working until you can get some professional help.

You may not be violent or dangerous now, but this stalking behavior could hurt someone even without malicious intent. It could cause an accident, it could certainly lose the GM his job. You are hurting other people. That is not nice.

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My job developer and then my workplace straight up said today that my former GM will not get in trouble. If anything, they said, I’m the one in trouble. I’m so relieved. I asked what trouble?

“We’ll talk later.”
Me:…

I think they want me to quit but idk

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You don’t understand. We are not saying your manager did something wrong and will get in trouble for it. We are saying that you talking about relationship with him might cause him to explain himself. Your imaginary “relationship” could cause him distress because he might have to explain why you, his subordinate, claim to have relationship with him. Although it’s not true he might have to explain. Making stuff up about people at work is a no no. Stop talking about him

I’m just so relieved he’s not gonna be in trouble. I was scared for days.

As for me, I don’t have much of a future here. So glad for labor shortage. But thank you for clarifying!!! My heart is indescribably bursting with RELIEF.

If you worry about him being in trouble, then you need to stop ever bringing him up. Shortage is irrelevant. People get fired just the same

I’m about to. I’m fine with that. I went into work today and I’m surrounded by people who stopped accepting me several weeks ago. That makes it hard to behave myself. The manager trainee snottily asked me to do something.

Me: what hood are you from with that attitude?

She is black.

I got sent home. They’ll call me with what they’ll do and when I asked, told me I have zero possibilities of transferring.

God this place become toxic. I really don’t want to be there anymore.

You created the toxic environment with your own behaviors. Don't blame anyone but yourself

I swore I was going to stay away from this, but am not doing such a good job in that area.

I agree with Eskie. YOU created the toxic environment. No one to blame, but yourself.

As for asking a supervisor "what hood are you from", not to mention a black supervisor, I'm surprised you were not fired on the spot. Not only is that grossly inappropriate it is racist!

Several people here said it seemed like you were trying to get fired. I suspect you accomplished that today.

You seem to take pride in your bad behavior. You need to talk about your twisted thinking, delusional beliefs and bad behavior with a professional. And not go to work until you’ve addressed those issues even if that means being placed in a sheltered group home.

You and you alone are responsible for your behaviors. You are blaming this ridiculous and frankly racist behavior on other people. No. Ruby, YOU are the only one responsible for this.

What did you expect the outcome of making that remark to be? Did you think you were cool for that level of sarcasm? I am also beginning to doubt this is any relation to ASD because typically people with ASD have trouble with sarcasm, but you clearly do not.

Do you even contemplate how you made the other person feel with that racist remark? All you seem to care about it is yourself. I think you need to look at that.

And you need to stop working if you are unable to stop yourself from making racist remarks.

I went in today ready to have a good attitude.

Then the minute I step inside, 90% of my coworkers cold shouldered me. They gave me wide berth or snap at me. How would you feel in that environment? 90% is a large number.

When I got sent home, I explained that people haven’t been accepting for several weeks. The current GM said I can’t except people to accept me if I’m constantly yelling at them.

So I requested a transfer but she said no.

You come on & post as if you hear absolutely NOTHING you are told. So either you are incredibly, unfit to work any more or you are making this all up just for attention & to see how people will respond to your pathetic behavior you are claiming to have. Like Lizardlady, I try to stay away from this nonsense but not easy to not respond when what is said is so incredibly dysfunctional

Have a good rest of your day. My best effort in no longer sufficient in a place where literally NOBODY likes me.

New change of scenery = fresh start.

It’s too late for me here

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Then the minute I step inside, 90% of my coworkers cold shouldered me. They gave me wide berth or snap at me. How would you feel in that environment? 90% is a large number.

YOU created that environment. What you are experiencing is 100% the consequences of YOUR BEHAVIORS. Get over anyone feeling sorry for you cause you have done it to yourself

I really hope my previous GM doesn’t know that I hit rock bottom or WHY I hit rock bottom. His 2 possible responses would be

1. Good riddence. Don’t have to deal with her no more. OR
2. He’ll be so terribly sorry for ceasing to care about me cuz that’s what made me no longer able to handle anything.

Either way it’s not good. Number 1 would be detrimental for me. Number 2 would be detrimental for him.

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I really hope my previous GM doesn’t know that I hit rock bottom or WHY I hit rock bottom.

The rock bottom you hit is your own making & has NOTHING to do with the GM at all