What to do when they come back?

You are completely right...

But I've gotten a little smarter as all this stuff has progressed.

Like the night she went out with her friends, in a rage, saying she was divorcing me... And I went and took photos of all her designer purses, handbags, and jewelry, and saved one of her receipts with her account number from the jewelry store.

These were all purchases I had no say in, and those are all assets she didn't claim in court.

These provoking emails I send her are twofold... It is me venting, and also looking for a reply. You see, she has claimed in the past that she hasn't gotten emails from me and my lawyer. Well... Somehow she replies to the ones that tick her off .

What’s her telling the kids unacceptable things had to do with your upbringing ha She’s not even denying that she was literally threatening her kids! Your upbringing isn’t in question here! Her terrible parenting is!

Also she does know the truth. She just thinks she can get away with everything because she is creating a false narrative. But everyone is on to her. Including her kids

When you took those pictures of what she had you knew she was going to lie. A part of you knew she was deceptive and manipulative. It’s important to look at the kind of person she really is and realize that nothing you can do will change that. This never meant you are not good enough. The anger you are feeling is the part of you that cares about you and wants to protect you.