Cutting (trigger)

i just cut again, but i am noit getting the relief i usually do, i guess i need to do more. these are some of my best so far, deepest anyway.

Rather then thinking of it as needing to do more why not think of it as you are ready to stop this habit. There are better ways to deal with emotions then cutting. We just have a tendency to forget them. Try to think of different ways that you can cope with your emotions, if you try different coping tools you will find that you need to cut less. Eventually the goal is to not cut at all. I hope things get better for you.
Carrie

what better [edited] ways are there? i dont know any

You really sound like you hurt. I feel for you. It's dangerous when you keep cutting deeper and feel like you didn't do enough because you are not getting the relief that you expected. Is there someone safe you could go to for help with this? I'm concerned. Just like with drugs, the more you cut, you become desensitized (or develop tolerance), and it can escalate because it takes more to do what you got out of it the last time. But it never solves anything - it will just keep taking more and more. You have to deal with those feelings, and stop running from them. They always catch up if you run away, but if you work them out and resolve them, then you can prevail. The feelings are real, whether or not you hurt yourself and show them on the outside. I really am sorry that you hurt so much.

Nicole, you're responding with anger again. We are all trying to help you here. Please let us try to help you without getting snapped at.

One way is to talk about the feelings that are causing you to want to si. Another way is to write about your feelings. You could also try distracting yourself. Watch a movie, read a book if you can concentrate enough. Draw a picture. Eat some icecream. Go for a walk. Call a crisis hotline. There are some ideas.

Maybe you could go inside and ask someone inside to take over for a while and someone else to talk to you? (I don't remember if you can talk to everyone inside yet or not)

I care about you, Nicole, and I want to be able to help you. I really do. But you have to help yourself, too, or none of us can help.

Your friend,
Angela

sorry i snapped, dont worry i wont post anymore

Nicole,

You can still post! Please do! Like I said, we WANT to help you here! Not just me, but Zenobia and Rapunzel are trying to help you, too!

I was just telling you that we are here to help and not to hurt you or make you angry, and asking you to remember that.

I know it came from your pain. And I am sorry you hurt that much.

Your friend,
Angela

P.S. I think I worded the post asking you not to snap at us wrong. I think I wasn't very understanding of you and that must have hurt. I'm sorry. I hope you can forgive me.

Nicole:

No reason to not come back and post. Please do...there are alot of caring people here especially Rapunzel and Angela who just want to know you're safe. It can take alot out of a person just to post on these issues, because it can be so very triggering. I think it is generous of them to offer their advice even when it is something they struggle with everyday. Something we all struggle with everyday. I know it seems like the comments were insensitive, but really they are just rational and I think you're very angry right now and hopefully you will see that people really do care and mean you absolutely NO HARM.

please don't turn away. we all do care.
Kimberly.

well... that isn't really the kind of posts we like to see... but if you insist, and they aren't deleted, please use the "TRIGGER" icon to warn others... I 'm sure you wouldn't want to trigger someone else , right?

welcome, though.. I hope this site, forum, helps you...

Hey sorry everyone. I shouldn't have taken my anger out on you guys. Everyone here is such a great support, I don't know why I am so stupid. I just am though. I always get angry at the people who are trying to help. Anyway I just wanted to apologize. I will try not to post when I am angry, so I don't bite your heads off again.
Nicole

Nicole,

I think anger like that comes from self-protection sometimes. That and frustration because you're feeling a little helpless/hopeless right now maybe? What do you think?

Angela