what's the point

I have no need to go on! I have no friends, no family, nothing goes my way. I just lost my best reason for living. My baby Bucky (more than a cat) of 22 years died last night when he tried to drink water out of
the swimming pool. The worst part is I could have saved him! He was the only reason for me to live, now I have nothing! No one can replace him, or help me to go on. I just want to died, any good recommendations?

Gosh I am at a low point in my life and not sure I have a good way to help you see you are of value. All I have is someone else somewhere gave a cat up or abused it and YOU could be the very reason that cat has a chance. You could adopt it or work to help educate people on cats as you had to do something right to keep that cat alive for so many years. I am so sorry for your loss and pain Nothing can replace no but please do go on

find a therapist immediately or go to an ER and seek help. or if you can't do the above, call a crisis hotline. there are tons of people who will listen. AND there are really good online petloss websites. google in loss of pet or death of pet.....when my dog died, it was all that got me through it. the people on the web. xoxox pat

I hope that you are doing some better today. But I know how hard it is to be alone & then feel that you could have done something to have stopped the situation from happening.

I know that loosing a kitty or any critter that we are so close to is very difficult. There is nothing worse....( I think it is harder than loosing a close person). For some reason, the unconditional love from our critters just can't be replaced & there is nothing like that kind of love. I don't know if you can find another kitty that needs your love to bring into your life....& it ins't replacing the one that died. There are other kitties that need a loving home & it sounds like you are a very loving person that another kitty or creature really needs you.

My american eskimos & my horses are my life.....& I know that loosing my foal this year (it was either born dead or died immediately after birth) was horrible for me to deal with. I also remember that one of my eskimos had a puppy. It kept having problems & then got away from Mom & got too cold. It was too late when I realized that my eskie wasn't producing milk for the baby. I still blame myself for not realizing it sooned...I could have saved the puppy's life.....but I lost it. I know how horrible the feel is, but I guess once I found another creature that needed my love & care, I realized that I was valuable.

Your love & ability to care for your kitty (that is awsome that it lived to be 22 years) is wonderful & you are a wonderful person that has alot of love to offer to another critter to so badly needs love. There are so many in this world that are out there, needing the kind of love that you have.....it would be horrible to deny others of your love.

What you have is valuable....you are a wonderful valuable person....& that is really the point......think of what you have to give to other critters that need the kind of love you gave your kitty. It is a way to honor the life of your previous kitty.....giving of yourself to give another kitty the kind of life that your other kitty had. You are very special to be able to care that well for a kitty & give it a long & loving life......

Remember there is a point to your life.....it isn't over when there are so many in need of you. I know a lady that takes in kitty's that are in need of special care & love that wouldn't have anyone & wouldn't even be alive without her care.

Please don't feel that there isn't any point to your life.....you are a valuable, loving, caring person & you are needed.

Love,
Debbie

i am doing doing better, but i still miss him. it is very hard. the worst thing is how he left me. i can't imagine what he went thru. i would rather it been me.

What you are going through is normal. It would worry me if you hadn't said you were doing better. Loss like that means your life will never be the same, but you can go on. Life is precious. We only get one chance at it, and even on bad days beauty and hope are around us. We just don't see it.

Helping someone else, if only to offer to help mow a lawn helps you also.

I know I said that I was doing better, but today something hit me and I feel very bad and worthless. I know that I have worth somewhere, but right now I don't feel it and believe I never will. I really wish I had someone to hold and talk to, because I feel like my time is about up. I'm thinking I am in need of some serious help, but everyone I talk to sounds like they are hateful and don't want to be bothered. People don't understand. My Bucky would lay in front of me in bed and be covered with the blanket and resting his head on my arm and I would hold his front paw with my hand and give him a gentle squeeze and then he would then squeeze my hand back. He would come to my car right to my door and greet me when I got home. He would look at the microwave and meow when he was hungry, and I would cook him special chicken. He stood right beside me when I would fly my model planes. He laid beside my telescope when I looked at the stars. He followed me everywhere. When I shopped for food, everything I bought was something that we would share. I can't express the bond that we have. I want that back! I need him back! I know I need some serious help.

My name is Matt

admitting that you need some serious help is the first step..acting on it is the hard part..the people here are great at listening and at giving advice but sometimes that can only go so far..It sounds as if you need to heed the advice that was given to you early and either call a hotline or seek a therapist where you can talk to someone one on one. I have a cat myself as well as many other pets..but my cat is my baby and we too share a special bond..I can't imagine life without him..but I believe that your depression over your loss of your loved one has triggered something deeper within you and I think you need help to control it before it spins so far out of control for you that you lose sight of yourself. You came here for help..we are always here to listen..but now it is time for you to step up even further and seek the help that you have so openly admitted that you think you need. You mentioned that you have no friends..have you thought about seeking a support group of some kind..I am sure there are some out there..You never know until you check into it..that way you can talk about your feelings AND meet people at the same time who are dealing with the same issue that you are..this could be greatly benefitial to you. I don't know if they actually have loss of pet support groups..but you never know until you look and see..its worth a shot..and if anything talk to SOMEONE face to face or to a hotline..Good luck to you..Stay safe and again I am sorry for your loss.

22 years?
That's really old for a cat.
You spent a lot of years with Bucky and I'm very sorry that you lost your friend. I can't imagine how painful it must be on top of everything else you're going through.
((((((AriesMars)))))))
Please hang in there.
I know getting another cat is not going to replace Bucky or be as special or make you forget him but it may make you feel better and you'll have a new little friend to cry to about it and I know it'll make you feel a tiny bit better 'cause you'll know you're needed.

Please hang in there. You have worth and meaning. We are here only once as for as we know, and the odds against any one of our being born are great. Each one of us won a lottery by being born.

I think there may be pet mourning support groups. Please talk to someone if you feel too depressed. It is small comfort, to realise you spent more time with Bucky than most people spend with generations of cats. 22 years is a large part of your life. Just remember, your life means more than you know.

ariesmars, i am so sorry ot hear of your loss, loosing a pet is hard as they are part of the family. i recently lost my dog of 13 years old.

i have looked up a few websites for you, just a little starter to help you on the road to recovery, check some of them out and see what comes up:

http://www.bluecross.org.uk/web/site...orialIntro.asp - that one is the uk site but im sure they will have links to other ones. there is an email address and a phone number for support. you could try the email support initially, see how it goes.

http://www.vetmed.ucdavis.edu/petloss/ - im pretty sure thats an american one.

http://www.petloss.com/ - that one is american

and finally

http://www.aplb.org/

there are plenty more, but i think these are the best ones to try, i found these using google.

i hope this helps.

take care and dont forget, we are always here as a back up support for you, you are most certainly not alone in this. you have so much support for you.

and dont ever feel you are worthless, i can see a very special person in you Matt, you are gifted with alot of care and emotion for other living things, that is definately worth celebrating.

I'm still hanging on, however I realized something tonight when I was alone. What I realized was I'm a loser. I can't make friends, can't get a job no matter what I do even with a professional written resume. I'm just a 28 year old loser who collects carts at a grocery store. When i try to talk to someone after a few words, they walk away from me. I don't laugh anymore i just chuckle. When I look into the mirror, i am very sad at what I see. I'm just an ugly loser. There is nothing left for me.

((((((( HUGS ))))))) ~ ~ ~ ((((((( HUGS )))))))

May YOU find a NEW reason for living.... for we all need YOU around, and so does some one else.... some one out there loves you more than you know.

LoVe,
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