cancer and family history

As I have been with gf for 27yrs. and watched her worry as one more female family member, succombs to breast cancer. Her mother enduring for 14yrs.(without pain meds),after radical removal of cancerous tissue, and the chemo and radiation.
GF and I moved home 7 yrs before her passing. And the last year gf quit her job,to be with her mom as much as possible.Right up to the day she died,,,and gf was holding her hand as she took her last labored breath. Then told her father ,"she's gone".
Now 18 months later gf has reason to worry of the family history that knocks on her door. And today I felt that which I did not want to face again in her life,,major lumps in her breast. This was important to her for I use denial as a general rule in life.
I hope for the best,and dread the worse.....As now she trys to sleep,all the while tossing and turning. Earlier I gave her the soft and reassureing touch and the words and tears that naturally follow.
I post this in hopes that if she reads it she will know to come here and gain the support of the wonderful people that visit this sight daily ,for just that reason,,,,,,support.
Wish me luck in guiding her here ,and the kind ear she needs, when I can't be here for her .
Thank You,
(wmd)

So sorry for all of your pain and your GF, I wish that I was there to help her through this time of need, as I have experienced this same disease with my sister for the past 9 years. A very wise person told me once to be with her, and love her. This I do every day. Now that the end is almost here for her, I don't know if I can face life without her. The good news about that, is my sister is the bravest, kindest,
woman I have ever known, and she would not want me or anyone who knows her to not go on and live. She will always live in my heart and those whose lives she has also touched. She will live on in everlasting life for eternity.
Beautiful Post Wmd. I pray for you both.
"52"

please know that i am here for her and for you whatever you may need........

Now I find the need to write again,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Team in place for surgery and gf now really has to come to grips with this ,,,,,,,,,,,,paperwork and pre -op is all that is left. I trust she is lucky to have seen the signs early enough and she has stayed the course and has now not missed any appointments...............earlier it was a hard convince to find the truth which was already known. Denial is a defensive mind set. Acceptance is a period of adjustment,,,,,,,,,,,,Thankfully she has many female family members and friends to see her through,,,,,,,,,,,Me ? I will always be on the sidelines,,,,,,and continue to be her Rock!

I say this with the full benefit of my own experience with Breast Cancer, all you CAN do for now is to be there for her to lean on and love her unconditionally. Hug her lots cause that's all we really need at the moment. There isn't much you can do to stop what she's about to go through, so just let her know you are there and that you will get through this
together.
My mother died from this disease as she didn't have Mammograms done until it was too late. She had a full radical Mastectomy, but it spread to the lung and brain. In the end, she couldn't bare us watching her go, so she shot herself instead. Now I grieve for her suicide, and the fact she would have died from Cancer.
As for myself, I am again having to go through yet ANOTHER biopsy on the same breast they took half off of in 2003. It was a malignant tumor. I endured six and a half
weeks of radiation to boot. Tamoxifen jr. chemo. drug for three and half years, and now again, a new spot in a different section up by my armpit???? What in blue blazes does God want from me, I wonder. I wish he would stop testing my strength. Go pick on someone else for a change!!! Maybe he's chosen me so MY children won't have to? If that's the case, so be it!!!
I see a surgeon next Monday. Please say a prayer for me that it all comes out in a good manner. I can't go through this again and again...................I feel mutilated enough already.

Drummergirl,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Yes this is a ,,,,why me infliction,,,that is as I call it a WTF! and there are no shoulda ,woulda , coulda's,,,,,,,I hold hands with you now ,for as two come together in the name ,,,HE will hear,and answer our prayers............

((((((WMD AND G/F))))))))))))))))
((((((((((((drummergrl))))))))
My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Hi!
Right now with this Bi-polar thing going on and my new dx for suspicious lesion, I feel like I've been short circuited somehow. Being bi-p is like having a circuit board go haywire and being able to do NOTHING to stop it's hazardous course!!! I'm still so numb from Mondays dx. I don't know what to feel. I have already thrown my tizzy fit, but
I feel like that is somehow NOT nearly enough????
I do see the surgeon Monday afternoon. I am also seeing
my new pdoc in the a.m. I wouldn't cancel him as it takes 3 mos. to get in to see him. He's that well known!!! Very good
and my youngest works for him. She told me he's very foremost in the treatment of bi-polar disorders/ autism in children. Well, he's got a new child now, he just doesn't know it yet!!! lol......................

This cancer, this monster that feeds from the inside. Has no heart, has no soul, takes away those we know. Four stages this beast, G/F is stage three............More tests are needed to see if four.

Next monday the insert under the skin of box like thing for beginning chemo. Do scans of heart, before radiation. They wish to slow and decrease size before they cut and remove.

So again I say WTF.....Now she sits in backyard with her three dogs. They big huggables they are, 110lbs.--115lbs.--140 ? lbs...And they walk close by. They are her LOVES. Me?.....Still her rock (but crumbling slightly)

what a difficult time for both of you.......sending prayers your way

What a hideous disease cancer is that holds no prejudice. For the patient and the family or care giver it holds pain, and suffering,
sorrow, and leaves all at a loss for words.

I think that the only things that the patient, families, friends and caregivers have in common are the stages of grief they all go through, and the hope that they all have.

Before cancer touched my dear sister, I had no idea of what it was all about. Never even realized the strength of prayer or the meaning and depth of the word hope.

For everyone and all that are in this situation, I wish you hope, prayer, strength, and God's love to help get you through this hard time. Thank you.

((((wmd))))

my heart goes out to you and your gf....... i am sorry you are both going through this...... i also have a long family history of all types of cancer....... my mother and both her sisters all died of brain cancer, and all had breast cancer as well. my father and brother died within 3 months of each other, both from colon cancer. and my sister had breast cancer and a double mastectomy at 40. it is a tough, evil, unforgiving disease that i wouldnt wish on my worst enemy, because i've seen so many people i love suffer from it. i know when my brother was 4th stage and in constant pain he relied on those who loved him to stay strong for him...... and i understand how the rock can start to crumble.... but please keep trying. sometimes with cancer, hope, love, and support can go a long way in making things a little easier to bear......

you will stay in my thoughts......

747 , as is said ,,,,,,((((((((((as one door closes another one opens ))))))))))))))

52 ,,when I am strong I will burn up cell phone You are you ,,,,,,,,,with the answers I may need ......

bella(violet) the name of the street I live on Violet.....my Hold of Love is in a place which I share and freely give My Love and mind will be for your losses and the know that where you have crossed in past of bridges that are freash and memorable I will keep dearly on my walks ,,Thank you ,,,,,,,,,

Hello (((WM @GF))). I am sorry regarding your struggles for you and your GF WM. I hope the best for you and your GF in the future. Take care. Soidhonia

( quotes from lyrics to songs) then a little me ,,,,,,,,,,,,and lyrics again

I bring a beavy of Angels,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,and then another song.

( Tina Mc Bride )Build it anyway,,,,,,,,,,,,Do it anyway,,,,,,,,

believe it anyway,,,,,,,,,,,,Love them with all your HEART.

Love them anyway,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Do it anyway.

They'll forget tomorrow you sang it ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,sing it anyway.

I'll dream,,and do it anyway,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

Hold her hand.

Be the stand of trees that put the strength in me ,, and share care LOVE,,,,,,,,,, Cry at times , then never show,,what you know,,or see,,let her know I still be me.

Hey Baby,,is that YOU ?,,

Life throws you curves,,learn to swerve?????????

Go to bed ,,dream of you that's what I'm doing these days.

I wake up and tear drops fall like rain.

That's what I'''m doing these days.........................

Put on that old song we danced to,,,,,,,,,,,,,>>>>>>>>>>>>.

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((((((((((((((wmd))))))))))))))))

my thoughts are with you. i hold your hand when you are down, you are such a beautiful person, i wish you and your g/f so much love and healing.

hugs, love, Jinnyann xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Sorry Jin but I am about to blow this popsicle stand

I don't know if this will help, but I used it when doing a eulogy for my grandpa in August. My aunt, who is an oncology nurse, gave it to me.

Cancer is so limited…
It cannot cripple love,
It cannot shatter hope,
It cannot corrode faith,
It cannot eat away peace,
It cannot destroy confidence,
It cannot kill friendship,
It cannot silence courage,
It cannot invade the soul,
It cannot reduce the eternal life,
It cannot quench the Spirit.

Oh Girl that is so Cool >...... Donna worked on onocology floor at hospital that was child ward >>>>>.. And it killed her years ago yo see a child have a birthday one day and not be there the next,,,,,So she has a lot of places to seek strength from > Again Thank You Girl.

What an odd trip it's been >>>>>>>>>>. Weak as the treatments may do the body ,,,,,,,, Therefore the soul greets with compassion those that care .

And as the drugs may breakdown the cancer,,, also has those around picked up the pace. But some times the sleep is better ,, and then the phone rings,, " How you doing " She prefers I tell them she is resting and then I say " She will call you back ",......

This is what it seems to be ,,, those that LOve and care ,,,, And when the time and strength returns then they may share.

Personally I awake as she ((( in her dreams ))) calls for her mother.>>>> Then get up and stroke her scarf,,, that now is her hair>>>>>>>>>>> But that is temporary >>>>...........Care has to always be there and as always ,,, know you might just have to move on at the end ... Ya never know .. Just be of hope . Let it be and watch and see ,,,, what they may need . Hugs are easy.

wmdwright,

I know of what you speak! I've seen 2 Aunts die of the disease and one more continues the fight. I find difficulty counting the number of family members that die from this disease in one form or another.

I don't know where you get your strength, but bless you for it.

Oh my Friend AAAAA >>> Strength,,, I will have for now ..... But son of a bi-ch I know not how???

>>> A T M ...... I just watch the person that was so on the go and wanting to be active , Now sit and crochette,,, Wearing ahat I have had since 1975, It is a northern winter hat with that heat reflecting material stitched into it .