I am HURT. I am ANGRY.

Yes. I am upset.

I refuse to open my mail anymore. Tonight I got a bill from the landlord's for half my sercurity deposit. As it seems Cliff (my EX brother/EX roommate) had them split my deposit with him. Cliff knows this is wrong and I went over with him, why he doesn't get half is because he didn't pay half and if I gave him half I would essentially be giving him back half of my money. Regardless, it happened. I am calling tomorrow and complaining. I am not paying it. I will not allow anyone else to pay it either. Apparently he said he showed them something saying it was okay. Something that I never wrote. Can they do that? THe place was in both our names? But doesn't the sercurity deposit stay? Its up to me to give it to him if it were his? Or the check comes as a two part name? IS this illegal? IT does not sound right to me at all? What am I supposed to do? I am already short money being off a week for nearly dying and having my baby die which probably was a result of stress from this stupid crap last month. I cant sleep. ambien sucks. i am sick of being poor. i am sick of people taken advantage of me. i am sick of feeling alone in life. I am sick of nothing mattering. it is one vicious circle. there is no happy medium. i will never get ahead. i cant do this anymore, how am i supposed to? I dont understand how i constantly am being thrown to the gutter in each attempt i try to do good. i really am not a bad person. i have my days because i am mentally ill to a degree but still....what is up with this....i give up....there is nothing that will ever make anything half to okay...this is it....my spark of life has died.......I meerly exsist on this planet. grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.....................what next? What next?

i am so sorry to read of your pain......you have been through so much........now it is all taking its toll on you.....i know that it is so difficult but you must try to gain strength and know that you will get through this......if there is anything i can do for you....please let me know.......

That's a lousy situation. Its doesn't seem right to me at all, but I'm no lawyer. Can you call one?

VL sorry to hear this... would it help to know that this is common? There is rarely a lasting GOOD event where ppl share apartments, dorms etc.. something usually happens and it's often about money! Knowing this, do your best to recover your fair share, but be ready to move on about it, ok? Learn from this... you will need it often in the future (get everything in writing, make copies of everything.. etc) I have heard your positive words in chat and all and know you can get through this.

It not only hurts financially, but the personal hurt, imo, is more. We can always hope and improve financially... but cause others to respect us and care about ppl in general? Nah.. that's their problem... don't beat yourself up over this too long: make a plan and follow it, but don't take it personally.. that isn't worth it. TC

i'm sorry Vl...it happened to me in college and the hurt is really about being betrayed and "lied" to. i hope you can move on from it and remember "what goes round, comes round"....

vulgerlove,
You wrote,[..got a bill for half...can they do that?...is this illegal?...ambian (expletive)...people taking advantage...feeling alone....no happy medium...never get ahead...can't do this anymore...thrown to the gutter...not a bad person...I give up...my spark of life has died...I (meerly)sp? exist...what next....?].
I could offer you support from my perspective if you would like. I own many rental units and my partners are lawyers and I could have a legal opinion sent to you from them regarding your situation with the deposit. When I ask them to do these type of opinions, there is no charge to you ,for anyone on a mental-health forum is a friend of mine.This depends on the state that you are renting in and some other factors. I could offer you a web site for your understanding of these laws if you would like.
I have a broad-based knowlege of security deposits for I have to follow the laws concerning that. They can be tricky.
My overiding concern is that you solve the delema that you are in now concerning the reaction that you are having with the security deposit and how it is affecting your well-being.
If you feel that you can understand this on your own, see the following and click on your state:
http://www.landlord.com
Best regards and I hope you find out about the laws concerning your security deposit and if you would like to hear from my perspective here, let me know.
Lou

Thank you everyone. I called the landlord today well, the snotty lady in the office and she was rude. "I am sick of you guys arguing. I am not going to listen to it anymore." Apparently she is going to let the owner call me. I told her I wasn't paying my deposit again. I shouldnt have to.

Karma is right.

If it doesn't work out I will elt him know he can do the right thing otherwise I would be more than happy to take him to small claims court and that well cost him close to double and it will be collected because i will garnish his wages.

and when his unemployment check comes in the mail, i think i will put return to sender on it. To heck with him.

Thank you all for listening.