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Keep us posted..........
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#77
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I sent my Pdoc a text last night. Ok it actually turned into 6 texts. I saved them all to drafts before sending them incase she was reading them while I was sending them and interrupted me mid-text. I haven't heard back from her but I am more than positive that we will talk about it in my session with her on Tuesday if I don't hear from her first. She usually calls me on Mondays after I get home from work to check in with me.
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#78
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I'll keep you posted if I hear anything before my session on Tuesday...
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OK, be interested to hear what her response is......
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#80
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Thanks for following the thread PoetGirl!
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Cats,
I hope things go in a positive direction with you're session. Good luck. Hugs! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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Thanks so much TryinToGetBy, I really appreciate it!!
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Got a text from T. Apparently we need to discuss boundaries. She said she is going to make an outline with times and restrictions to when I can and can't text her, etc. So not looking forward to this. I told her that and she said that I need to be able to learn to accept boundaries without using a child's rejection process. What is that supposed to mean???
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Not sure that's clear, but the best my mind can do this morning! |
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PTSD, good luck with your session. I know boundaries are SO hard!!! Poetgirl, I think you answered the question about child's rejection process very clearly!
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I guess so. I just don't understand why she is doing this now. I asked her if I did something wrong and she said "No, not at all, I have just been to lenient with you and need to set more boundaries."
Absolutely dreading my session today!! |
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Cats, I'm keeping you in my thoughts as you go to you're session today. Getting used to new boundaries will be hard at first, but you're T is doing this to help you. If she told you that you didn't do anything wrong or cross any boundary so far, then she may be doing this to challenging you and if she didn't think you can handle it, she would leave things as they are as long as you weren't crossing boundaries or doing anything wrong.
Sending safe hugs with you to you're session today. (((((((((((Cats)))))))))) You can do it! |
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Hey hun,
I really hope the session goes ok. I hate the way T act about boundaries. I think it's unfair when they all something and then all of a sudden react like we have been doing something wrong when they decide to envoke different rules. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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I understand the thing about new boundaries being hard very well.....my T allowed hugs for a long time (allowed me more than she allowed other clients,even, for whatever reason), and when she took away all physical contact forever, it was devastatingly hard! I was crushed. It has been 2 months since she did that, we have managed to repair the rupture and go on with the new boundaries.....I have managed to tolerate it, the pain of the boundaries has diminished and I am even thankful for them in a way, though I have a session here and there where I think, oh this one was hard, too bad there's no hug. But you do get used to change after a while, even if it is hard.....
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PoetGirl, I thought of you immediately when she said that we were going to practice more boundaries. I am terrified that she won't allow any more hugs!!
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I also REALLY do NOT want to have restrictions placed as to when I can and can not text her. That doesn't seem fair. It's not as if she is obligated to reply. What really bothers me is that when she saw me last Tuesday she said that she would call me the next day, I am STILL waiting for that phonecall!! She still hasn't called me back. When I texted her last night asking her to call me she replied and said "No I can't 2nite. We need to discuss boundaries more clearly in tomorrows session. Ttyl."
DON'T WANT TO GO TO "T" TODAY!! |
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I am definitely in your pocket, Cats, and will be hoping for the best in your session!
I hope T doesn't take away hugs either.......restrictions on texting would be easier, I think, looking at it from my point of view, to deal with! |
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I completely understand why you don't want to go to therapy. I would hate having those kind restrictions placed on me, especially after being allowed to do it for so long. I hate boundaries, whether they are good for me or not. I wish you the best of luck for tomorrow- I hope it goes well
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I know it wouldn't be as bad if this were a new thing that we tried and not she is changing but it isn't. I have always been able to text her whenever and whatever for however long since I started seeing her. I started seeing her 8 years ago!! That is why this doesn't seem fair to me. If I haven't done anything wrong I don't see how there is a problem. -Sigh-
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I will definately be a pocket rider and a little shoulder hugging fairy for after the session.
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After 8 years, it is just possible her boudaries are shifting for some reason. Could be personal, could be professional. Where in the past she might have been willing and able to accept texts at any quantity at any time of the day or night, perhaps she feels differently now. Boundaries do change for people, particularly over such a long period of time. Part of what we have to learn as adults it to understand how other people's boundaries do shift at times and we can still respect those boundaries.
A change in boundaries is not saying you did anything wrong at all. Boundaries aren't about punishment. |
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That is how she started off. So it looks like I am only able to text her during the week now. Not on weekends. She didn't say how many so I guess that is still at my discretion. She is only going to call me on days during the week that she doesn't see me. Not too bad but I still cried. At the end I asked her if I could have a hug. She said no. I started crying immediately. She apologised because she was kidding. Gave me a big hug and told me that she knows that this is going to be hard at first and will feel liike rejection but it is for my best and to make me become less dependent on her. -Sigh-
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Thanks. She said it was because she got medical info about boundaries recently and needs to follow them. I said "So if you had never read that than this would never have happened" She said "You're right,,,,no wait. You're wrong. It would have changed eventually I just wanted to wait until you were a little stronger." And yes it could have been much worse. I dissociated through about 70% of it and she kept making me repeat what she was saying to make sure I heard her. Then she made me say it back to her in my own words to make sure that I understood it.
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I have been thinking of you so much and just hoping your session would go ok. I can understand why you cried and how you must have felt having these things all said to you. I am just glad it wasn't worse. Do you think you will cope ok not texting on weekends? I am glad she was only joking about the hug, at least she was able to give that type of comfort. ![]() ![]() ![]() |