Is there something you'd like to tell your therapist but you can't?

I read something once which said "I'm not going to let you die, not on my shift" I wish you would say that to me

Dear T,

I would like you to know, I havent been taking my medication. I don't like it, and I wont take it.

-Sam

Dear T,

I wish you would have sent me an email or text to say that you were thinking about me today. I know that you are not my 'friend', but just something from you to indicate that you were aware that I was on my way to surgery would have been nice.

I know that is probably a boundary thing, but I really wanted to hear from you before I went in today. Not sure why, but that would have made my day!

Squiggle

I know we have the "1 email rule" but PLEASE respond to the one I wrote you last night. I am so depressed. I have nothing to look forward to in my life.

Dear T,

I wish I could just quit.

(((((Rainbow)))))) that is so sad. What makes you happy? Other that T?

dear t, i made an appt but i am really scared to come in, it is for two reasons.
1. the crying i did
2. what you said, i don't understand what it means, "I often wondered why you came back?" WTF.... what does this mean. that i am not supposed to come back or what. i don't know. it is confusing the hell out of me. part of me wants to cancel and the other part needs to come back and talk, but not knowing if i even should.... you shouldn't be allowed to say things like that,

Dear T, I made a promise to you to try to be as honest as possible with you but I know I cannot tell you at this point in our relationship that I have been sharing so much of our sessions together on a public forum. I feel guilty about that and I wonder if I am being disloyal to you. It worries me a bit. Hopefully, when we've settled down into a good solid relationship, I will give you copies of everything I've written. It feels like a terrible secret and that I have somehow or another broken confidentiality with you. Is it right what I'm doing? I cannot ask you so I will be struggling with this on my own right now.

Squiggle, I'm glad your surgery went okay and hope all the pains go away soon! You asked what makes me happy. My grandchildren, for one. Helping people, like on PC. Writing. Reading. Seeing beautiful scenery. Being in or near water. Lots more things. I worry too much, and get envious too much, though. Get depressed, but I chose NOT to take meds.

skysblue, I also feel a little guilty about posting so much about my t here. I told her about PC, and that I say good things about her, but I never told her I write details about our sessions. Maybe you can tell your t a little about PC, but not everything you write. I don't think most ts mind that we get support we need online, but I understand about wanting to be totally honest with your t. That's how I am too.

I fought the med thing for years. I would not accept that I am bipolar. It got to the point that it was affecting my job and my family. Once I got into therapy, she helped me see that being bipolar was nothing to ashamed of. She helped me see that asking for help was okay, even if that meant taking meds.

My mom and two sisters are all bipolar. They are also in the medical field. They tried for years to talk me into staying on meds. I have only been on meds (steadily) for the past year. They have helped me tremendously. I still have anxiety and mild depression, but it is nothing like it used to be.

Hi,
I found this poem (thank you Rainbow Rose) and I wish I could say it to my T....... It talks about all the things I can't.
http://www.poetrybycharlescfinn.com/pleasehear.html
If that does not work, please let me know.

to my therapist,

Dear T--

Please write back to me...you said you would a few days ago, but you haven't yet.

And I know you've said in the past that it's OK for me to send reminders if you forget, but you forget a lot. (More often than you remember, actually.) So I feel pretty unimportant. And I feel like reminding you would be too needy.

So please just remember, OK?

--2or3

Dear T,

You are the only support I had, have... and probably WILL have. I apologise. Please don't tell me we're done yet. I don't think I'm ready to fend for myself.

T-
I want to call your answering machine just so I can hear your voice. I'm embarrassed by that. Especially since I see you tomorrow. What is wrong with me?

I used to be embarrassed about calling my T's answering machine until I told her that I did it - she thought it was a great idea. It's okay to do that if it helps you.

My T has said that too, though that was when T was heading out of town and I was anxious about being apart. I can call and leave messages any time, too, but I am always so resistant to do it as I don't want to be a nuisance

Dear T,

I am feeling really, really bad. Not sure I can make it to our appointment on Tuesday. I wonder if you have an opening on Wednesday? I don't want to miss my session with you this week because I know that you are going out of town on Thursday. I wish I felt comfortable with a phone session, but I don't.

I start work again on Aug. 1st and you know how concerned I am about beginning a new year. You were going to help me work on how to manage my social anxiety with my co-workers. Maybe we can do email back and forth this week? I can do that better than a phone call.

Squiggle

If it's a cell in US, you can use slydial to go directly to the voicemail!

Dear T,
Thank you for calling me on a Sunday night to calm down my anxiety. It's been lonely now that we talk less on the phone and through texts. I am so happy you plan to call me tomorrow night to wish me luck. I love you!
Crazy

Dear T,

My daughter told me tonight that she is thinking about being a therapist. I asked her why? She said that she would get to meet a lot of interesting people, like me. I told her that she was lucky enough to know me since the day she was born!

I think this is an honor and shows that she values the help that you have been giving to me in therapy. This should make you proud that one of your client's children want to follow in your footsteps.

Squiggle

You should totally tell your T this!

Squig, by the way I am glad the marks on your back turned out not to be cancer though they were still painful burns! I missed why you had to have surgery but happy to see you're well enough to lurk on the boards. Speedy recovery!

I had my gall bladder removed. I sure hope that it was really necessary. I did get several opinions on it. Oh well, it is done now!

As for the burns, I can't see them that well because of where they are located. My husband says that he thinks they will leave a scar. I don't guess I care that much since I can't see them. He is the one who might have an issue, but so far he is not complaining!