Couch 153: Couch slouch

I just put the heating on for the first time... Winter is coming

Hello, couch. Hugs or other appropriate greetings to all.

Today was the best day. Both of my coteachers went full out for my birthday. The kids were also very excited to sing to me. I got to watch my sociopathic assistant principal get a pie in the face. And I leave for vacation in the morning. Now I need to pack and clean my house.

But i never love England more than when covered in snow

Would it be weird if I said that song makes me think of you?

Awwwwwwwww!

That's lovely. I got a bit tearful listening to it.

I do like a bit of snow.

Don't listen to it too much. You don't want to get stuck in a Marling hole.

....It's almost as bad as a

((SM))

The last two Fridays have been marked by upsetting communications. I was hoping this Friday would be different, but no--divorce lawyer sent decree to sign, into which future ex as one of the points of agreement managed to work in his poor health as a reason for not yet reclaiming his possessions.

Which makes me feel dreadful and awful and guilty all over again. And is now at least semi-public record.

Stressed - sorry about the job.

ATAT - his poor health is not your problem. He is an adult - he can figure out how to hire people or get friends or whatever. Not your problem.

I'm sorry that happened to you too with the not interviewing well/talking about yourself that's why I didn't get recent promotion I interviewed for. 2nd try for me. Makes no sense and I'm still kinda pissed too.

(((SM))))

Look at the birthdays. My birthday is on Monday. I will be 50. Feeling like it's been a long time to have been alive and feeling a little like Arties post on the last couch

Happy birthday to daisy and the other person I forgot who you were it was 1 am when I read it

I have been thinking and perhaps I am sabotaging myself with t be use I really like the way I feel in the room but it does feel wrong, so maybe I am using the complaints and. The excessive texting to try and get him to hate me. Idk

Thanks, I was feeling pretty...uninspired.

I didn't know, either! Great to see you again! Hope you're staying around.

))Stopdog((

ATAT's post about her husband's possessions gave me the idea to poll the couch about my dilemma. For background, my abusive husband is currently in jail after he set our house on fire and is awaiting resolution of his current legal difficulties. Meanwhile, I'm trying to put my life back together after all this. I have literally all of his possessions because he was buck naked when they hauled him to jail. I've started packing up his clothes and started trying to divide up the stuff we've accumulated over the years. I have all his important documents like social security card and birth certificate. What am I supposed to do with all this stuff? He may be going to prison for a long time. The minimum sentence for arson in our state is 7 1/2 years. Am I obligated to be the keeper of his things from now on? He's not on good terms with his family and they live on the other side of the country. His only friend wouldn't have room to store his things for him and doesn't live here either. I really don't know what to do. Does anyone have any words of wisdom for me?

Do you have a lawyer? I would ask them.

In my case when I went to Canada for six months for work last year I put both our possessions in a storage unit, then when I returned to my current apartment I separated them out and moved his to a smaller unit. On which I paid the rent for the next ten months before my lawyer got him to take it over.

(So it's doubly obnoxious that he'd insist on stipulations in the divorce decree as to why he hadn't yet reclaimed his possessions--he's paying the rent, who cares?)

Could you be testing him? I know that's something that came up with my MC. Like...do you still accept me now that I've done this? How about now? Like kids and teens do with their parents. I think I've gotten past that stage with him now, for the most part. But I realize I do it with friends, too, like, "I told you this weird thing about me--do you still accept me?"

Happy Birthday!

It's tomorrow actually, but thank you! Since it's Friday today was my work birthday.

I already put him to a huge test not long ago, I don't know why I would be still pushing things as it was huge boundary that I crossed.

He did ask to try to trust the therapeutic relationship.

They do say that.

Yeah, it's like those company retreat exercises where you're supposed to fall backwards into other people's arms and they'll catch you.

If they don't have those in the antipodes, count yourself blessed.

i have only seen these as part of comedy. i would not be able to do that