Couch 157: Fair Value

lucozader · Nov 18, 2017, 06:38 PM

((Cake)) I don't think it would be wrong of you to accept it. He wouldn't offer if it wasn't okay.

ElectricManatee · Nov 18, 2017, 06:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

R is going on holiday from the 18th to the 1st of December, but my next session would be three days after he comes back. 17 days. I feel silly writing that out- but I expect it to be hard. He offered to see me for one session whilst be was away- would it be wrong of me to accept it even if he was supposed to be away? And at the end of the day I know I won't accept it because it wouldn't feel right doing that to him.

I don't think he would offer it if he didn't mean it. If you want to do it, I say do it. My T went on a trip over the summer but knew she would have some down time, so she felt fine to do a little work on her trip. We had a pretty good phone session and she still came back seeming happy and well-rested. Now she's on a trip where she isn't willing/able to do that, so we made other plans for me during the break. I don't really think this would be "something you're doing to him" if he offered...

NP_Complete · Nov 18, 2017, 06:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

R is going on holiday from the 18th to the 1st of December, but my next session would be three days after he comes back. 17 days. I feel silly writing that out- but I expect it to be hard. He offered to see me for one session whilst be was away- would it be wrong of me to accept it even if he was supposed to be away? And at the end of the day I know I won't accept it because it wouldn't feel right doing that to him.

He offered. Let him worry about taking care of himself. If you need to see him to take care of yourself, then accept.

unaluna · Nov 18, 2017, 06:56 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

Seriously, i thought they wrote the music for the cartoons when i was little. Never occurred to me it was the other way around. At all.

BonnieJean · Nov 18, 2017, 07:42 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Seriously, i thought they wrote the music for the cartoons when i was little. Never occurred to me it was the other way around. At all.

Now that you mention it, so did I.

stopdog · Nov 18, 2017, 08:08 PM

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Originally Posted by daisydid

Informal couch poll: has anyone ever felt like PC has made their mental health worse?

I've been reading a very triggering thread throughout the day, and it's been hard for me to keep it together. It's been a month (tomorrow) since I've SH, I'm proud, and want to keep that record going. It's been a struggle today, though.

This isn't me saying goodbye, for I'm sure I'll be back. But I may not post for a while. Hugs and other forms of appropriate comfort to all who want or need it.

No - therapy did - but this forum has had no bearing on it at all.

stopdog · Nov 18, 2017, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by awkwardlyyours

I am trying to figure out if this will make me more rageful (in current T's lingo) or not.

Current T has asked to see my wood-work stuff a couple of times -- latest was right before I did some very basic pyrography last weekend.

I am a tad pleased with the results of that (instructor showed it around etc) although I can point to all the many flaws in it.

Am considering taking it along to session (it's a rather small piece) but not sure if current T's no-doubt super enthusiastic (I can't believe they're totally authentic) responses will make me....I dunno....more rageful or something.

I'm screwed up, I know.

A therapist's response to something like that would make me homicidal

stopdog · 11:11 PM

I don't think I wanted the same thing from seeing a therapist that others seem to report. I wanted to know how therapy was supposed to work and what the therapist did by sitting there- I never wanted the therapist to do anything/have any effect on me until I understood what was going on. I am surprised that so many people don't seem to care as long as they think it is working.

I found a use for the woman when my person became ill - but that was only because she really couldn't mess anything up about that. And even the ones I saw couldn't screw up just sitting there while I talked about it.

velcro003 · Nov 18, 2017, 11:49 PM

Do you think you would do better by actually taking courses in psychology, SD?

I must admit that I try and try to understand your viewpoint on therapy, and mostly fail at truly understanding it. You seem to like absolutely nothing about it, and I do see how at least being able to get out all the things about your person being ill would be helpful, but am sort of fascinated at your certainty that all T's are these manipulators, out to try and change you.

I am sorry if that came off as judgemental at all. I am not intending it to be.

stopdog · Nov 18, 2017, 11:53 PM

I've been doing that at my university as well as attending their ce's.

velcro003 · Nov 18, 2017, 11:54 PM

Does that help at all?

stopdog · Nov 18, 2017, 11:56 PM

In some ways. Not in others. The graduate classes that I have audited are not quite as horrible as their ce's are. I mean I find them insane -but not infuriating like I find the ces.
I have found them useful for my job - but more in the devil can cite scripture sort of way rather than actually believing almost any of their psychobabble.

Nov 19, 2017, 12:26 AM

DEar academic types, have any of you been involved in online supervised exams? Apparently a person supervises you via webcam and can monitor any extraneous online activity. Apparently I can choose my own exam time space etc. I am not keen on having one person looking at me for 3 hours. And with our current set up the church ladies give you cold water and put the air con on. I think i will stay with my current set up.

Demunie · Nov 19, 2017, 06:40 AM

I wanted to complain about having experienced a few really bad days

Then realized that I'm always having really bad days and they just never end

Now I feel even more hopeless than before

On a more positive note; We had our first snowfall of the season today

Lemoncake · Nov 19, 2017, 06:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Demunie

I wanted to complain about having experienced a few really bad days

Then realized that I'm always having really bad days and they just never end

Now I feel even more hopeless than before

On a more positive note; We had our first snowfall of the season today

I'm sorry you haven't been well Demunie.

We haven't had any snow yet! But it will come.I heard somewhere to see life like seasons. You will get through your bad days too.

Lemoncake · Nov 19, 2017, 06:55 AM

Thank you all for the posts and the hugs- it honestly does mean a lot to me.

Demunie · Nov 19, 2017, 07:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

I'm sorry you haven't been well Demunie.

We haven't had any snow yet! But it will come.I heard somewhere to see life like seasons. You will get through your bad days too.

Do you know game of thrones?

I'm in the midst of a long winter then

I'm sorry you're struggeling too

captgut · Nov 19, 2017, 07:39 AM

I'm feeling worse lately too.

But we have a loooot of snow

Demunie · Nov 19, 2017, 07:42 AM

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Originally Posted by captgut

I'm feeling worse lately too.

But we have a loooot of snow

I'm sorry & here if you want to talk, you know

captgut · Nov 19, 2017, 07:52 AM

I'm also sad because my "friends" keep saying "you're overreacting", "you're an attention seeker" and so on.

Demunie · Nov 19, 2017, 07:56 AM

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Originally Posted by captgut

I'm also sad because my "friends" keep saying "you're overreacting", "you're an attention seeker" and so on.

Huh? What are you overreacting to? I don't think you are. And why should you be an attention seeker? I don't think so either...

Hugs.

captgut · Nov 19, 2017, 08:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Demunie

Huh? What are you overreacting to? I don't think you are. And why should you be an attention seeker? I don't think so either...

Hugs.

"Your life is good, you shouldn't be sad, you should be happy, you don't have any mental disorder, blah blah blah"

Possible trigger:

I hope they will be happy if I manage myself to do it. You know what...

Demunie · Nov 19, 2017, 08:02 AM

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Originally Posted by captgut

"Your life is good, you shouldn't be sad, you should be happy, you don't have any mental disorder, blah blah blah"

Possible trigger:

I hope they will be happy if I manage myself to do it. You know what...

Uhhh... Those aren't good friends you have there capt... You're obviously suffering

captgut · Nov 19, 2017, 08:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Demunie

Uhhh... Those aren't good friends you have there capt... You're obviously suffering

I'm sad because we used to have a lot of fun together and I was sure they are good friends, but it seems they need happy Capt, but don't give a **** about sad Capt

Demunie · Nov 19, 2017, 08:29 AM

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Originally Posted by captgut

I'm sad because we used to have a lot of fun together and I was sure they are good friends, but it seems they need happy Capt, but don't give a **** about sad Capt

I had those friends too... I think they should care about both Capts. Because both versions of you are worthy of care & love

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