Couch 208: The Practical Couch

stopdog · Nov 18, 2019, 09:45 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

I try to say Good morning to the controller and Good night to the controller via Skype every day and then we converse throughout the day as needed. She usually responds to the Good morning one, but she rarely responds to the good night one. I send it when it is 4:30 PM her time approximately. She's three hours ahead of me. I think she gets off around 5 or 5:30 though based on when I usually still get emails from her. I don't know if it is annoying her or she just doesn't think it is important but I say good morning and good night to the workers in my physical location so I think it is the same thing. But if I stop doing it all the sudden, she might find that strange too. So I don't know whether to keep saying it or just never end the conversation for the day....so weird. I tried to Google what the etiquette is on something like that but I can't seem to find the answer.

I would just stop doing it. I would see no reason to respond to either of them, and I would not be concerned if either dropped off.

LonesomeTonight · Nov 18, 2019, 10:00 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

I try to say Good morning to the controller and Good night to the controller via Skype every day and then we converse throughout the day as needed. She usually responds to the Good morning one, but she rarely responds to the good night one. I send it when it is 4:30 PM her time approximately. She's three hours ahead of me. I think she gets off around 5 or 5:30 though based on when I usually still get emails from her. I don't know if it is annoying her or she just doesn't think it is important but I say good morning and good night to the workers in my physical location so I think it is the same thing. But if I stop doing it all the sudden, she might find that strange too. So I don't know whether to keep saying it or just never end the conversation for the day....so weird. I tried to Google what the etiquette is on something like that but I can't seem to find the answer.

I could see sending a goodnight email if it was the other way around--if you were the one 3 hours ahead and leaving for the day, to let her know you're heading out. But not sure you really need to send one in this case. the "good morning" makes sense as you're likely there after her, so you can let her know you're there.

SlumberKitty · Nov 18, 2019, 10:16 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

I could see sending a goodnight email if it was the other way around--if you were the one 3 hours ahead and leaving for the day, to let her know you're heading out. But not sure you really need to send one in this case. the "good morning" makes sense as you're likely there after her, so you can let her know you're there.

Thanks! This makes sense.

atisketatasket · Nov 18, 2019, 10:34 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

They might. With therapists, there is no rhyme or reason.
Was the no show accidental or on purpose. And if on purpose, why not just call or email to cancel?

It would totally be on purpose and inside the 24 hours to cancel.

But, you know, food tastes better when it’s free—maybe therapy does too?

ETA: Has anyone tried Black Spot on Netflix? Watched the first episode just now. Undecided.

Polibeth · Nov 18, 2019, 10:36 PM

H hurt his knee at work. He's off work tomorrow but hopefully his pain subsides. He's a difficult "patient"

Polibeth · Nov 19, 2019, 12:24 AM

Pass the couch wine.......

H is talking about his knee injury and going to the ER tomorrow. I've told him to go to urgent care in the morning if he feels the need. He will be last on the list to be seen in an ER and will be there for hours - he does not understand this. He also wants me to take him. Also, since I am a hospital security guard he thinks I have a secret code to be seen first.

unaluna · Nov 19, 2019, 04:07 AM

Oh polibeth! At least he doesnt want to put leeches on his knee! There is probably a wikihow to tell him why he should go to urgent care and not the ER. And also why you should stay home with your strep. Google him "necrotizing fasciitis" and go back to bed!

Nov 19, 2019, 05:31 AM

Say if someone admins a game wiki and you say to them In your opinion xyz is cheating and they are trying to drag you into an argument about them being cheaters thats there problem right? I dont feel compelled to respond

Nov 19, 2019, 06:40 AM

Polibeth...please put yourself first with how sick you’ve been. Tell him to go to urgent care and that if he wants to go to the ER he’s going to have to sit there all day by himself.

SalingerEsme · Nov 19, 2019, 07:36 AM

This finally made me laugh. I 100 percent think this that you said " ETA - 2 or 3k?? Wow. What an ***. I bet he's just scared to tell his wife about his **** up and that he'll be withdrawing a large amount."

I also wonder if he owes other clients too

i have tried to be gracious an a team player, bc he said the insurance company messed up, even though he ignored me when Ifirst pointed it out.

I wonder if he doesnt want an offical check from him on record to me?

It just stinks. It calls him into question, and I cant resolve if he is a good solid person or if he has some character concerns.

He is charasmatic, plausible, and I am very attached.

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Originally Posted by susannahsays

That's really messed up. Whether or not you need the money is irrelevant. He has money that he should not have that is yours. When I have hit my out of pocket limit and there has been an overpayment, I am given the option of a refund or a credit to be used towards sessions.

He has now been paid by both you and your insurance. He should have used the money from insurance to pay you back. He should have used any funds he has to pay you back. You are not Bank of America. This is not ok and is an unethical business practice.

Do you think he's using this so you will stay with him given the ruptures due to his horrible behavior? He sounds so stupid. This is just more ammo if you wanted to report him. It's so inappropriate to hold your money hostage and even more so due to the context.

ETA - 2 or 3k?? Wow. What an ***. I bet he's just scared to tell his wife about his **** up and that he'll be withdrawing a large amount.

Nov 19, 2019, 08:21 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

So theoretically, if one had a therapist who can’t book appointments properly, and who then offers the next session for free to make up for her lunkheaded mistake, do you think said therapist would charge for a no-show for the free appointment?

Asking for a friend.

Just go. Give her hell. And you get to give her hell on her dime since the session is free. That could be very satisfying .

Nov 19, 2019, 08:22 AM

Time to go to work. Last night wasn’t the best sleep either. I wonder if I should do without coffee today. Maybe I drank too much yesterday but I didn’t think that was possible.

atisketatasket · Nov 19, 2019, 08:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Polibeth

Pass the couch wine.......

H is talking about his knee injury and going to the ER tomorrow. I've told him to go to urgent care in the morning if he feels the need. He will be last on the list to be seen in an ER and will be there for hours - he does not understand this. He also wants me to take him. Also, since I am a hospital security guard he thinks I have a secret code to be seen first.

He has a knee injury. You have pneumonia/strep. One of those is waaaay more serious than the other.

He wanted you to stop coughing. Let him be a big boy and go wherever he goes by himself.

Jersey—not sure I’m in the mood for therapist drama.

SE—iirc your therapist has lied to you, posted details of your case online, and is now keeping money that is rightfully yours. Are those not clear indications of character?

ElectricManatee · Nov 19, 2019, 09:14 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

SE—iirc your therapist has lied to you, posted details of your case online, and is now keeping money that is rightfully yours. Are those not clear indications of character?

I agree. I also think trustworthy people don't make you question their trustworthiness after you get to know them a little. You have had doubts for YEARS, right?

Sometimes you can't see people clearly until you get away from them.

Lemoncake · Nov 19, 2019, 09:15 AM

@@ New cat is beautiful.

I always pictured her ginger though..

Lemoncake · Nov 19, 2019, 09:16 AM

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Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

Say if someone admins a game wiki and you say to them In your opinion xyz is cheating and they are trying to drag you into an argument about them being cheaters thats there problem right? I dont feel compelled to respond

Nope don't have to reply unless you want to.

LonesomeTonight · Nov 19, 2019, 09:18 AM

Well, Polibeth, if your H goes to the ER (by himself obviously), then he might be out all day, which could perhaps be a win for you?

Lemoncake · Nov 19, 2019, 09:18 AM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

I agree. I also think trustworthy people don't make you question their trustworthiness after you get to know them a little. You have had doubts for YEARS, right?

Sometimes you can't see people clearly until you get away from them.

I just wanted to add you should always trust your gut feeling about anything. My favourite quote I saw on Oprah from a conversation with Maya Angelou was "when someone shows you who they are believe them the first time".

Lemoncake · Nov 19, 2019, 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

It would totally be on purpose and inside the 24 hours to cancel.

But, you know, food tastes better when it’s free—maybe therapy does too?

ETA: Has anyone tried Black Spot on Netflix? Watched the first episode just now. Undecided.

I haven't. I saw the trailer though. Not sure if it's my cup of tea.

I also liked how to live with yourself.

I did watch their documentary about the Fyre festival and

Possible trigger:

casting Jonbenet.

.

Lemoncake · Nov 19, 2019, 09:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Polibeth

Pass the couch wine.......

H is talking about his knee injury and going to the ER tomorrow. I've told him to go to urgent care in the morning if he feels the need. He will be last on the list to be seen in an ER and will be there for hours - he does not understand this. He also wants me to take him. Also, since I am a hospital security guard he thinks I have a secret code to be seen first.

Are you even fit enough to drive?

Can't he ask someone else to take him?

stopdog · Nov 19, 2019, 12:20 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Jersey—not sure I’m in the mood for therapist drama.

SE—iirc your therapist has lied to you, posted details of your case online, and is now keeping money that is rightfully yours. Are those not clear indications of character?

I always believe in taking a break from a therapist. But I would call or email to cancel the appointment even if within 24 hours.

SE - you do not need this therapist. It might feel like it, but it is not true. He is a true rotter. He is not a good person.

Nov 19, 2019, 12:21 PM

4 year old boy:
Jersey. I’m glad you’re here. I love you.
Me:

susannahsays · Nov 19, 2019, 12:24 PM

Polibeth, please do not go to the ER unless you yourself need to be admitted. Exposing yourself to all the germs in that environment is the last thing you need. While I'm sorry that your H has hurt his knee, the likelihood of this injury killing him is minuscule (unless he gets a blood clot or something). In my area, there are orthopedic clinics that offer walk in appointments - basically orthopedic specific urgent care.

If he needs a ride, which maybe he does if it's his right knee, he should get an Uber/Lyft/taxi/friend.