Couch 209: The Kummer Couch

SlumberKitty · Dec 11, 2019, 03:25 PM

HUGS @SummerTime12 People do get sick out of nowhere, especially with stomach viruses. When I was a manager, I appreciated people letting me know, no matter how little the time given. BTW, if people had stomach viruses, I requested that they please stay home. I hope you can rest and you feel better soon. HUGS Kit

LonesomeTonight · Dec 11, 2019, 03:30 PM

Hugs, Summer. I hope you feel better soon. You didn't do anything wrong in calling your boss. Assuming you're generally a reliable employee, she'd have no reason not to believe you.

Lemoncake · Dec 11, 2019, 03:38 PM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

@Lemoncake, you will be happy to know that my EMDR/DBT T referenced The Little Prince today when we were talking about my regular T telling me that I have a problem with needing to feel special. I guess I should actually go read it now....

Awww thanks for remembering this IS one book I'm nutty about.

You really will get something from reading it.

Just my opinion but children need to feel like they're special and that they matter. I've wanted the same thing with R before and it makes sense to me - I'm guessing she was quoting either the bit about why the rose was important or the fox.

Lemoncake · Dec 11, 2019, 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by SummerTime12

Ugh I was doing fine today, and then I literally just spiraled in the last like 10 minutes. So I start work an hour from now, and I just felt sick to my stomach out of nowhere and (TMI warning) threw up. My stomach feels terrible when I try to get up from the couch. I didn’t want to call off work, but also kind of wanted to give my boss a heads up so that if I felt too sick to work at any point today, she’d already be in the loop and mentally prepare for the possibility of finding backup since we are short staffed.

I called my boss and told her that I wanted to give her a heads up because something just hit me and I got sick out of nowhere, and right now it still hurts to stand up. I told her I wanted to try to work today, but wanted to let her know just in case. She told me to just keep her updated.

My husband told me I shouldn’t have called her and said that I “got sick out of nowhere” and claimed this sounds like BS. He was like “you should never say that to your boss, it sounds like you’re making it up.” So now I feel awful and guilty, but like.. it actually did come out of nowhere, and I wanted to make sure she knew that because I literally called her an hour before my shift. If I had felt sick earlier to the point that I thought I couldn’t work, I would have told her ASAP to give proper notice.

Now I just feel really guilty and like a terrible person for even calling her at all. I feel like a bad employee and like I don’t deserve anything.

You've made the right choice in staying home where you would be a bit more comfortable and not risk spreading it to others.

I've just read a chapter on infectious diseases- they can come out of nowhere.

Make sure you're drinking water. Send H out to get you some dioralyte sachets from the pharmacy. Not sure if they would be called the same thing they're also called rehydration powder- the pharmacy people would know.

If you get a fever please see a doctor as soon as you can.

JaneTennison1 · Dec 11, 2019, 04:06 PM

As an immune compromised person I thank anyone for keeping germs at homes, especially the stomach kind. I think you did the right thing Sumertime, you were being courteous

Polibeth · Dec 11, 2019, 04:57 PM

Summer - I would have done the same thing. I'm sure your boss appreciated the heads up.

chihirochild · Dec 11, 2019, 05:06 PM

Nice wood-burning fireplace at the AirBnB

Couch 209: The Kummer Couch

SlumberKitty · Dec 11, 2019, 09:21 PM

In the waiting room...waiting for my T appointment....

LonesomeTonight · Dec 11, 2019, 09:30 PM

Hope it goes well, Kit.

stopdog · Dec 11, 2019, 09:30 PM

I have a new battery powered leaf blower.
It is super fun

Elio · Dec 11, 2019, 09:31 PM

hi couch

velcro003 · Dec 11, 2019, 09:45 PM

hello, elio! slow day on the couch today.

ElectricManatee · Dec 11, 2019, 09:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Awww thanks for remembering this IS one book I'm nutty about.

You really will get something from reading it.

Just my opinion but children need to feel like they're special and that they matter. I've wanted the same thing with R before and it makes sense to me - I'm guessing she was quoting either the bit about why the rose was important or the fox.

Yep, it was the part about the rose. I came home to my little kid after my session with regular T and looked at her and thought, "You're not special," and it was such an absurd thought. Of course she isn't remarkable compared to other babies, but she's very special to me. That's all I wanted from my regular T. I think she was trying to say that I wanted special treatment (which I did, because she offered it for so long), not that I'm not special to her. Maybe... EMDR T thinks regular T might be frustrated with me. Which makes sense because I'm pretty frustrated with her right now too...

StressedMess · Dec 11, 2019, 10:25 PM

I went on a cleaning spree, but lost the berserker-rage after about an hour. If you don't look under the bed or in that particular corner, it's very clean! Tomorrow is another day, I might finish it then.

Hugs for all the couches who work too much or are hurting. Head-nods to the non-huggers.

I'm staying up until the clothes finish washing, throwing them in the dryer, and passing out. Have a great evening couch!

Elio · Dec 11, 2019, 10:28 PM

Hi Velcro.

It's been one of those days.

02:28 AM

I dont know what happened while i was out for half an hour but i came home and the dogs were huddled together on the dining table and the cats had crammed themselves into the hidey hole in the cat tree. Took 20 minutes to persuade the cats out. Everyone is outside and dont seem keen to come inside. I am wondering if it was a snake? Cant see any snakes good thing i used to be a reptile rescuer if i do find it i can catch it.

unaluna · Dec 12, 2019, 02:32 AM

Bcm, just reading that makes my hair stand on end! Is it related to your being gone? How often do you have snakes???!!

Dec 12, 2019, 03:05 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Bcm, just reading that makes my hair stand on end! Is it related to your being gone? How often do you have snakes???!!

Its the first time its happened. I have lived here 2 nearly 3 years now and have never seen a snake in this area but we are in a drought and it is breeding time so they will be looking for breeding partners and water.

Dec 12, 2019, 05:19 AM

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Originally Posted by velcro003

I am in a self-hatred spiral. Also, my T confronted me about me having an eating disorder, tonight. All around fun!

Hugs if wanted

LostOnTheTrail · Dec 12, 2019, 12:49 PM

Working with anger is hard. That is all.

Dec 12, 2019, 01:17 PM

The 4 year old kicked the infant and knocked him flat on the back of his head. I texted his mother and I put him in his room until I hear back from her. I don’t know what to do with this. The infant touched a toy his was playing with and the 4 year old just kicked him down. I need to leave. I don’t have the training to handle this child.

atisketatasket · Dec 12, 2019, 01:34 PM

No one, including his parents, seems to have the training to handle that kid. It isn’t just you, Jersey. You’re not failing at anything.

stopdog · Dec 12, 2019, 01:36 PM

I don't think you have been happy about taking this job since the start. Is it time to start looking for another job? Not liking it seems to be wearing you down.

The 4 yr old is acting like a challenging 4 yr old it seems to me (I didn't spend much time at it, but I worked for a couple of years working at pre-kindergarten day care to earn money for law school). He can't, of course, be allowed to hurt the baby -but I do feel for him. Adults can get upset when someone touches their stuff - hopefully they don't punch -but resentments build etc.

Dec 12, 2019, 01:38 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

No one, including his parents, seems to have the training to handle that kid. It isn’t just you, Jersey. You’re not failing at anything.

This is true. I just don’t know what to do right now. Luckily the baby is okay because he hit the carpet. It could have been a lot worse if he would have hit the hard wood floor. Also where he kicked him on his body was right on his rib cage. The baby is like 18lbs and 40lb almost 5 year old drop kicked him. I’m living him in his room. I have to protect the baby.

atisketatasket · Dec 12, 2019, 01:47 PM

My sister was older and there were toy-touching issues. She got physical once. She was then allowed no toys for 24 hours and since it was near Christmas my parents held back the present she wanted most until her birthday a few weeks later.

She never got physical again. Yelled, yeah, but it had clicked in her head violence wasn’t acceptable. Something like that needs to happen for this kid, especially since I think he attacked the baby before. Maybe tomorrow will bring answers.

If the job is causing or worsening your recent depression and anxiety you might want to move on anyway. Just don’t think you failed.

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